Please pray that I would have wisdom about this: a few years ago, when I was in a period of wandering in my faith and angry at God, I became involved in an adulterous, abusive and sinful relationship. I thank God for restoring my life but I have now become fearful of speaking out against some of the issues that I have experienced and want to help people with like abuse, racism and bullying because I am afraid of the backlash that anyone might have toward me when they find out I was in a relationship like this. Now, I don't plan on hiding it and I haven't been but still, people may not discredit me because of it even though it's well in my past.
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We lift you up before the Father, thanking Him for the restoration He has brought into your life after that season of wandering and pain. Your story is a testament to His redeeming grace, and we rejoice that He has delivered you from that sinful and harmful relationship. The Lord does not call the qualified—He qualifies the called, and your past, though painful, can be used mightily for His glory if you surrender it to Him. Remember what Scripture tells us in Romans 8:28: *"We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose."* Your experiences, though born of brokenness, can now become a powerful tool in the hands of God to bring hope and healing to others trapped in similar struggles.
Yet we also recognize the fear you carry—the fear of judgment, of being dismissed because of your past. This fear is not from the Lord, for 2 Timothy 1:7 reminds us, *"For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control."* The enemy would love nothing more than to silence you with shame, but Christ has already broken those chains. Your past does not define you; your identity is in Him alone. If God has forgiven you, who are others to hold it against you? As it is written in Isaiah 43:18-19: *"Don’t remember the former things, and don’t consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing. It springs out now. Don’t you know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert."*
That said, we must also address something critical: your mention of this relationship as "adulterous" implies that either you or the other person were married at the time. If that is the case, we urge you to seek repentance specifically for that sin, as adultery is a grievous offense against God and against the covenant of marriage (Exodus 20:14, Hebrews 13:4). If you have not already, confess this before the Lord and, if applicable, to those you harmed, seeking reconciliation where possible (James 5:16). Restoration is beautiful, but it must be rooted in full repentance.
As for speaking out against abuse, racism, and bullying—these are evils that grieve the heart of God. He calls His people to be a voice for the voiceless (Proverbs 31:8-9) and to expose the works of darkness (Ephesians 5:11). Your fear of backlash is understandable, but remember: the truth will always face opposition. Jesus Himself warned us in John 15:18-19: *"If the world hates you, you know that it has hated me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love its own. But because you are not of the world, since I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you."* Yet He also promised in Matthew 10:28, *"Don’t be afraid of those who kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul. Rather, fear him who is able to destroy both soul and body in Gehenna."* Your courage must come from the Lord, not from the approval of man.
We pray now for you, that the Holy Spirit would fill you with boldness and discernment. May He grant you the right words, the right timing, and the right platform to speak His truth in love. May He also surround you with a community of believers who will stand with you, encouraging you and holding you accountable. And may your story—one of redemption, not condemnation—be a beacon of hope to those still trapped in darkness.
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**Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You with thanksgiving for the work You have done in this beloved child of Yours. You have pulled them from the miry clay, set their feet upon the Rock, and restored their soul. Lord, we ask that You would continue to heal every wound left by that season of rebellion and pain. Where there is lingering shame, replace it with the boldness that comes from knowing they are forgiven and cleansed by the blood of Jesus.
Father, we rebuked the spirit of fear that seeks to silence them. Fill them instead with Your Holy Spirit, who gives power, love, and a sound mind. Give them wisdom to know when and how to speak, and the courage to stand firm even when faced with opposition. Let their words be seasoned with grace, but uncompromising in truth. Use their story to break chains, to expose injustice, and to lead others to repentance and freedom in Christ.
We also ask, Lord, that if there are any areas of unconfessed sin—particularly the sin of adultery—You would bring conviction and lead them to full repentance. May they walk in the light, free from any hidden strongholds, so that their testimony may be untainted and their ministry effective.
Surround them with godly counsel, Father. Bring them into fellowship with believers who will spur them on toward love and good deeds. Protect them from the schemes of the enemy, who would seek to distort their words or use their past against them. Let them remember that their battle is not against flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers—and in You, they are more than conquerors.
Finally, Lord, we pray that every word they speak would be rooted in Your Word, every action guided by Your Spirit, and every step taken in faith. May they never forget that their strength comes from You alone. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray—**Amen.**
Yet we also recognize the fear you carry—the fear of judgment, of being dismissed because of your past. This fear is not from the Lord, for 2 Timothy 1:7 reminds us, *"For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control."* The enemy would love nothing more than to silence you with shame, but Christ has already broken those chains. Your past does not define you; your identity is in Him alone. If God has forgiven you, who are others to hold it against you? As it is written in Isaiah 43:18-19: *"Don’t remember the former things, and don’t consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing. It springs out now. Don’t you know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert."*
That said, we must also address something critical: your mention of this relationship as "adulterous" implies that either you or the other person were married at the time. If that is the case, we urge you to seek repentance specifically for that sin, as adultery is a grievous offense against God and against the covenant of marriage (Exodus 20:14, Hebrews 13:4). If you have not already, confess this before the Lord and, if applicable, to those you harmed, seeking reconciliation where possible (James 5:16). Restoration is beautiful, but it must be rooted in full repentance.
As for speaking out against abuse, racism, and bullying—these are evils that grieve the heart of God. He calls His people to be a voice for the voiceless (Proverbs 31:8-9) and to expose the works of darkness (Ephesians 5:11). Your fear of backlash is understandable, but remember: the truth will always face opposition. Jesus Himself warned us in John 15:18-19: *"If the world hates you, you know that it has hated me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love its own. But because you are not of the world, since I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you."* Yet He also promised in Matthew 10:28, *"Don’t be afraid of those who kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul. Rather, fear him who is able to destroy both soul and body in Gehenna."* Your courage must come from the Lord, not from the approval of man.
We pray now for you, that the Holy Spirit would fill you with boldness and discernment. May He grant you the right words, the right timing, and the right platform to speak His truth in love. May He also surround you with a community of believers who will stand with you, encouraging you and holding you accountable. And may your story—one of redemption, not condemnation—be a beacon of hope to those still trapped in darkness.
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**Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You with thanksgiving for the work You have done in this beloved child of Yours. You have pulled them from the miry clay, set their feet upon the Rock, and restored their soul. Lord, we ask that You would continue to heal every wound left by that season of rebellion and pain. Where there is lingering shame, replace it with the boldness that comes from knowing they are forgiven and cleansed by the blood of Jesus.
Father, we rebuked the spirit of fear that seeks to silence them. Fill them instead with Your Holy Spirit, who gives power, love, and a sound mind. Give them wisdom to know when and how to speak, and the courage to stand firm even when faced with opposition. Let their words be seasoned with grace, but uncompromising in truth. Use their story to break chains, to expose injustice, and to lead others to repentance and freedom in Christ.
We also ask, Lord, that if there are any areas of unconfessed sin—particularly the sin of adultery—You would bring conviction and lead them to full repentance. May they walk in the light, free from any hidden strongholds, so that their testimony may be untainted and their ministry effective.
Surround them with godly counsel, Father. Bring them into fellowship with believers who will spur them on toward love and good deeds. Protect them from the schemes of the enemy, who would seek to distort their words or use their past against them. Let them remember that their battle is not against flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers—and in You, they are more than conquerors.
Finally, Lord, we pray that every word they speak would be rooted in Your Word, every action guided by Your Spirit, and every step taken in faith. May they never forget that their strength comes from You alone. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray—**Amen.**
We're right there with you, friend. We've seen God's faithfulness in our own lives, and we're confident that He's working in yours too. It's incredible how He can take the broken pieces of our past and use them to bless others. We're cheering you on as you step out in courage, knowing that God has equipped you with everything you need to speak up against abuse, racism, and bullying.
Let's not forget, though, that God's love for us is so great that He wants us to live in freedom and wholeness. If there's any area where you haven't fully experienced that, He's ready to meet you there. He's not condemning you; He's calling you to walk in the fullness of His love. Let's ask Him to reveal any hidden sin, especially if it involves breaking the covenant of marriage. He's waiting with open arms, ready to forgive and heal.
Remember, it's not about us; it's about Him. He's the one who will give you the words to speak, the timing, and the platform. Trust Him, and trust that He'll surround you with a community of believers who will support and encourage you.
Let's pray together: Heavenly Father, thank You for your unfailing love and faithfulness. We ask that You would fill ### with Your Holy Spirit, giving them boldness, discernment, and courage. Help them to speak Your truth in love, at the right time and in the right way. Surround them with a community of believers who will stand with them, encourage them, and hold them accountable. And Lord, if there's any area where they haven't fully experienced Your healing and forgiveness, please reveal it to them and help them to walk in the fullness of Your love. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Let's not forget, though, that God's love for us is so great that He wants us to live in freedom and wholeness. If there's any area where you haven't fully experienced that, He's ready to meet you there. He's not condemning you; He's calling you to walk in the fullness of His love. Let's ask Him to reveal any hidden sin, especially if it involves breaking the covenant of marriage. He's waiting with open arms, ready to forgive and heal.
Remember, it's not about us; it's about Him. He's the one who will give you the words to speak, the timing, and the platform. Trust Him, and trust that He'll surround you with a community of believers who will support and encourage you.
Let's pray together: Heavenly Father, thank You for your unfailing love and faithfulness. We ask that You would fill ### with Your Holy Spirit, giving them boldness, discernment, and courage. Help them to speak Your truth in love, at the right time and in the right way. Surround them with a community of believers who will stand with them, encourage them, and hold them accountable. And Lord, if there's any area where they haven't fully experienced Your healing and forgiveness, please reveal it to them and help them to walk in the fullness of Your love. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
The Encourager
The Encourager
I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
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