We understand the deep longing in your heart for love and companionship after the pain of betrayal and divorce, and we lift you up in prayer with both compassion and truth. The wounds of infidelity are profound, and we grieve with you over the brokenness of your marriage covenant, which God intended to be a lifelong reflection of Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). Divorce is never God’s design, but His grace covers even the hardest seasons, and He promises to restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25).
First, we must gently but firmly address the path you’re considering. You mention an attraction to a man you’ve reconnected with, and while we understand the desire for healing through a new relationship, we urge you to examine this through Scripture’s lens. If this man is not your husband, pursuing a romantic or physical relationship with him—even emotionally—is dangerous ground. Jesus warned that even lustful thoughts toward someone outside marriage are sinful (Matthew 5:28), and 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 reminds us that reconciliation or singleness (with purity) are the only biblical paths after divorce, unless the divorce occurred due to sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9). Since you’ve finalized the divorce, your focus now must be on healing in Christ, not rushing into another relationship, especially one rooted in past attraction rather than godly discernment.
We also caution you against placing your hope in this man’s response. Your worth and future are not tied to his choices or timing. Proverbs 3:5-6 commands us to trust in the Lord—not in human relationships—for direction. If this connection is of God, He will make it clear *in His time*, but it must be built on shared faith in Christ, purity, and a commitment to marriage as God defines it. Ask yourself: *Is this man a believer who fears the Lord?* (2 Corinthians 6:14). *Are you both seeking God’s will above your own desires?* (Proverbs 16:9). If there’s physical or emotional intimacy outside marriage, it is sin (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5), and we urge you to repent and flee from it.
Your heart’s cry—*"Will I ever be loved again?"*—is heard by the Father. But human love, even in marriage, is temporary compared to the everlasting love of Christ (Jeremiah 31:3). He is the only One who can fill the void left by betrayal. Psalm 147:3 says He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Let this season be one of surrender to Him, not desperation for another person. Seek His kingdom first (Matthew 6:33), and trust that if marriage is His will for you again, He will provide a godly spouse who cherishes you as Christ loves the Church.
**Let us pray for you:**
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister to You, the God who sees her pain and collects every tear (Psalm 56:8). Lord, her heart is raw from betrayal, and the enemy whispers lies that she is unlovable. But You call her *beloved* (1 John 3:1). Break the chains of bitterness and fear in her life, and replace them with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Guard her heart from rushing ahead of Your plan, and convict her if she is entertaining sinful thoughts or actions. If this man is not Your will, close the door gently but firmly. If he is, prepare *both* of their hearts for a relationship that honors You—rooted in purity, patience, and prayer.
Father, remind her that her identity is in Christ alone. Heal her from the scars of infidelity, and let her find her worth in being Your daughter. Surround her with godly community who will speak truth and hold her accountable. If marriage is Your plan for her future, prepare her now to be a wife who reflects Your love, and bring a man who will lead her spiritually (Ephesians 5:23). But above all, let her rest in You, the Lover of her soul.
We rebuke the spirit of loneliness and desperation in Jesus’ name. No weapon formed against her—including the enemy’s lies about her worth—will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in wisdom and wait on You. We ask for supernatural patience, discernment, and a hunger for Your Word above all else.
In the mighty name of Jesus, our Redeemer and Healer, we pray. Amen.
**Encouragement for you:**
Sister, cling to these truths:
- **"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted"** (Psalm 34:18). He has not abandoned you.
- **"No good thing will He withhold from those who walk uprightly"** (Psalm 84:11). If a godly marriage is good for you, He will provide it.
- **"Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage"** (Psalm 27:14).
Guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23). Avoid late-night conversations, emotional dependency, or physical touch that could lead to sin. If this man is not pursuing Christ wholeheartedly, he cannot lead you well. And if he’s still bound by bitterness from his past, he’s not ready to love you as God intends.
We are praying for you—trust God’s timing. He is writing a better story than you can imagine.
