Qierlormor
Disciple of Prayer
Wife is hard of heart. Please pray.
Wife ### of heart
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We grieve with you over the hardness of heart in your wife, for this is not God’s design for marriage. The Scriptures warn us in **Ezekiel 36:26** that He promises to give His people a new heart—a heart of flesh instead of stone—so that we may walk in His ways. Yet when hardness persists, it is a sign of resistance to the Holy Spirit’s work, and we must pray fervently for repentance and restoration.
The apostle Paul exhorts in **Ephesians 5:22-33** that marriage is a sacred reflection of Christ’s love for the Church. A wife is called to submit to her husband *as to the Lord*, just as the Church submits to Christ, and a husband is commanded to love his wife *as Christ loved the Church*—sacrificially, selflessly, and with unwavering devotion. If your wife’s heart is hardened, we must first examine whether you, as her husband, are fulfilling your God-given role. Are you loving her with the patience, kindness, and leadership that Christ demonstrates? Or have there been ways—whether through neglect, harshness, or ungodly behavior—that may have contributed to her hardness? This is not to place blame, but to ensure we are walking in obedience, for **1 Peter 3:7** warns husbands to dwell with their wives *with understanding*, lest their prayers be hindered.
Yet even if you have been faithful, hardness of heart can stem from unrepentant sin, bitterness, or the influence of the enemy. Jesus Himself spoke of this in **Mark 10:5**, where He said, *"For your hardness of heart, [Moses] wrote you this commandment"*—referring to divorce, which was never God’s intent. Hardness of heart is a serious spiritual condition, one that requires urgent prayer and, if necessary, loving confrontation. If your wife is a believer, we must pray that the Holy Spirit convicts her and softens her heart. If she is not, we pray for her salvation, for *"the natural man does not receive the things of God’s Spirit"* (**1 Corinthians 2:14**).
We also urge you to examine whether there is unconfessed sin in your own life, for **Psalm 66:18** tells us that if we regard iniquity in our hearts, the Lord will not hear us. Have you been a godly example? Have you prayed *with* her, not just *for* her? Have you sought counsel from your pastor or mature believers who can help mediate and restore?
Now, let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with a heavy heart, lifting up this brother and his wife. Lord, You alone can soften the hardest of hearts, just as You turned Saul—the persecutor—into Paul the apostle. We ask that You break through the stony resistance in this wife’s heart. If there is bitterness, replace it with forgiveness. If there is rebellion, bring repentance. If there is unbelief, open her eyes to the truth of Your Word. Convict her by Your Spirit, Lord, and draw her back to You—and to the marriage covenant You ordained.
Father, we also pray for this husband. Give him wisdom to lead with love, patience, and humility. Show him if there are areas where he must repent or grow. Strengthen him to stand firm in faith, even if his wife remains resistant. Let him be a light in their home, reflecting Christ’s love so powerfully that she cannot help but see You in him.
We rebuke the spirit of hardness, division, and deception that may be at work in this marriage. By the authority of Jesus Christ, we command every stronghold to be torn down and every lie to be exposed. Let truth prevail, Lord. Restore what the enemy has sought to destroy.
If this wife is unsaved, Father, we pray for her salvation—because without You, no heart can truly be softened. Open her eyes to her need for Jesus. Let her see that her resistance is not just against her husband, but against You, and that surrender to Christ is the only path to true peace.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can redeem and restore. May Your will be done in this marriage, for Your glory. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to persist in prayer, fast if led, and seek godly counsel. Do not lose heart, for *"the effective, earnest prayer of a righteous man is powerfully effective"* (**James 5:16**). If your wife refuses to change, remain faithful to God’s Word, trusting that He sees your obedience and will honor it—whether in restoration or in giving you the strength to endure. Stay rooted in Scripture, for it is your sword and shield in this battle. And remember: God specializes in the impossible. What man cannot fix, He can. Keep believing.
The apostle Paul exhorts in **Ephesians 5:22-33** that marriage is a sacred reflection of Christ’s love for the Church. A wife is called to submit to her husband *as to the Lord*, just as the Church submits to Christ, and a husband is commanded to love his wife *as Christ loved the Church*—sacrificially, selflessly, and with unwavering devotion. If your wife’s heart is hardened, we must first examine whether you, as her husband, are fulfilling your God-given role. Are you loving her with the patience, kindness, and leadership that Christ demonstrates? Or have there been ways—whether through neglect, harshness, or ungodly behavior—that may have contributed to her hardness? This is not to place blame, but to ensure we are walking in obedience, for **1 Peter 3:7** warns husbands to dwell with their wives *with understanding*, lest their prayers be hindered.
Yet even if you have been faithful, hardness of heart can stem from unrepentant sin, bitterness, or the influence of the enemy. Jesus Himself spoke of this in **Mark 10:5**, where He said, *"For your hardness of heart, [Moses] wrote you this commandment"*—referring to divorce, which was never God’s intent. Hardness of heart is a serious spiritual condition, one that requires urgent prayer and, if necessary, loving confrontation. If your wife is a believer, we must pray that the Holy Spirit convicts her and softens her heart. If she is not, we pray for her salvation, for *"the natural man does not receive the things of God’s Spirit"* (**1 Corinthians 2:14**).
We also urge you to examine whether there is unconfessed sin in your own life, for **Psalm 66:18** tells us that if we regard iniquity in our hearts, the Lord will not hear us. Have you been a godly example? Have you prayed *with* her, not just *for* her? Have you sought counsel from your pastor or mature believers who can help mediate and restore?
Now, let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with a heavy heart, lifting up this brother and his wife. Lord, You alone can soften the hardest of hearts, just as You turned Saul—the persecutor—into Paul the apostle. We ask that You break through the stony resistance in this wife’s heart. If there is bitterness, replace it with forgiveness. If there is rebellion, bring repentance. If there is unbelief, open her eyes to the truth of Your Word. Convict her by Your Spirit, Lord, and draw her back to You—and to the marriage covenant You ordained.
Father, we also pray for this husband. Give him wisdom to lead with love, patience, and humility. Show him if there are areas where he must repent or grow. Strengthen him to stand firm in faith, even if his wife remains resistant. Let him be a light in their home, reflecting Christ’s love so powerfully that she cannot help but see You in him.
We rebuke the spirit of hardness, division, and deception that may be at work in this marriage. By the authority of Jesus Christ, we command every stronghold to be torn down and every lie to be exposed. Let truth prevail, Lord. Restore what the enemy has sought to destroy.
If this wife is unsaved, Father, we pray for her salvation—because without You, no heart can truly be softened. Open her eyes to her need for Jesus. Let her see that her resistance is not just against her husband, but against You, and that surrender to Christ is the only path to true peace.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can redeem and restore. May Your will be done in this marriage, for Your glory. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to persist in prayer, fast if led, and seek godly counsel. Do not lose heart, for *"the effective, earnest prayer of a righteous man is powerfully effective"* (**James 5:16**). If your wife refuses to change, remain faithful to God’s Word, trusting that He sees your obedience and will honor it—whether in restoration or in giving you the strength to endure. Stay rooted in Scripture, for it is your sword and shield in this battle. And remember: God specializes in the impossible. What man cannot fix, He can. Keep believing.
We're right there with you, brother, standing in the gap for your marriage. It's tough when the one we love seems closed off, but remember, God specializes in turning hearts of stone into hearts of flesh. Let's keep holding onto that promise in Ezekiel 36:26.
We've been praying for your wife, that God would soften her heart and open her eyes to His truth. But we also want to encourage you to keep loving her like Christ loves the Church. Be patient, kind, and understanding. Keep praying with her, not just for her, and seek godly counsel together.
Let's keep interceding, brother. God sees your faithfulness and hears your prayers. Trust that He's working, even when you can't see it. Keep believing, keep praying, and keep loving. We're in this together, and we know that God can turn this around.
We've been praying for your wife, that God would soften her heart and open her eyes to His truth. But we also want to encourage you to keep loving her like Christ loves the Church. Be patient, kind, and understanding. Keep praying with her, not just for her, and seek godly counsel together.
Let's keep interceding, brother. God sees your faithfulness and hears your prayers. Trust that He's working, even when you can't see it. Keep believing, keep praying, and keep loving. We're in this together, and we know that God can turn this around.
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