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Please help me as my heart is heavy after hearing my wife wants a divorce and doesn't want to change her mind.
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We hear the deep pain and sorrow in your heart, and we lift you up before the Lord with heavy hearts of our own. The breaking of a marriage covenant is a grievous wound, one that cuts to the very core of what God designed for unity, love, and lifelong commitment. We stand with you in this trial, declaring that God sees your tears, hears your cries, and holds you in His hands.
First, we must address the sacredness of marriage as God ordained it. Scripture is clear: *"Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate."* (Mark 10:9 WEB) Marriage is not merely a contract or an agreement between two people—it is a holy covenant before God, a reflection of Christ’s love for His church (Ephesians 5:22-33). When one spouse seeks to dissolve this covenant without biblical grounds (such as unrepentant adultery or abandonment by an unbeliever, as outlined in Matthew 19:9 and 1 Corinthians 7:15), we must grieve not only the pain of separation but also the brokenness of a vow made before the Lord.
We rebuke the spirit of division and hardness of heart that has taken root here. The Bible warns, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* (Hebrews 13:4 WEB) If there has been any unfaithfulness—emotional, physical, or spiritual—we call for repentance and restoration, for God is faithful to heal what is broken when we turn to Him in humility. If your wife’s desire for divorce stems from unmet expectations, bitterness, or unforgiveness, we pray that the Holy Spirit would soften her heart and reveal the gravity of this decision.
Yet even in this darkness, we cling to the hope of Christ. You are not alone, and your pain is not unseen. Jesus Himself wept over the hardness of hearts (Mark 3:5) and understands the agony of betrayal. We pray that you would fix your eyes on Him, the Author and Perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2), and that He would sustain you in this valley. If your wife remains unyielding, we trust that God will be your strength and your shield (Psalm 28:7), and that He will work all things together for your good (Romans 8:28)—even this.
Let us pray together:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with broken hearts for this marriage. Lord, You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16), for it tears apart what You have united. We ask that You would intervene in this situation, softening hearts, breaking chains of bitterness, and restoring what has been fractured. Father, if there is sin—whether pride, unforgiveness, or unfaithfulness—we ask for conviction and repentance. Pour out Your healing balm on this husband’s heart, and let him feel Your presence like never before. If restoration is Your will, make a way where there seems to be no way. If not, be his Comforter and Guide, shielding him from despair. We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage will prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we stand on Your promise that love never fails (1 Corinthians 13:8). In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen."*
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or biblical counselor who can walk with you through this storm. Surround yourself with believers who will uphold you in prayer and remind you of God’s faithfulness. Remember, *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."* (Psalm 34:18 WEB) You are not forsaken. Hold fast to Christ, and let His peace guard your heart in this trial. If your wife is open, invite her to pray with you—not to manipulate, but to surrender this marriage to the One who can redeem even the most shattered pieces.
Lastly, we must emphasize that our access to God and our hope for restoration comes only through Jesus Christ. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you or your wife have not placed your trust in Him as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and receive the gift of eternal life (Romans 10:9-10). Only in Christ can true healing and reconciliation begin.
First, we must address the sacredness of marriage as God ordained it. Scripture is clear: *"Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate."* (Mark 10:9 WEB) Marriage is not merely a contract or an agreement between two people—it is a holy covenant before God, a reflection of Christ’s love for His church (Ephesians 5:22-33). When one spouse seeks to dissolve this covenant without biblical grounds (such as unrepentant adultery or abandonment by an unbeliever, as outlined in Matthew 19:9 and 1 Corinthians 7:15), we must grieve not only the pain of separation but also the brokenness of a vow made before the Lord.
We rebuke the spirit of division and hardness of heart that has taken root here. The Bible warns, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* (Hebrews 13:4 WEB) If there has been any unfaithfulness—emotional, physical, or spiritual—we call for repentance and restoration, for God is faithful to heal what is broken when we turn to Him in humility. If your wife’s desire for divorce stems from unmet expectations, bitterness, or unforgiveness, we pray that the Holy Spirit would soften her heart and reveal the gravity of this decision.
Yet even in this darkness, we cling to the hope of Christ. You are not alone, and your pain is not unseen. Jesus Himself wept over the hardness of hearts (Mark 3:5) and understands the agony of betrayal. We pray that you would fix your eyes on Him, the Author and Perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2), and that He would sustain you in this valley. If your wife remains unyielding, we trust that God will be your strength and your shield (Psalm 28:7), and that He will work all things together for your good (Romans 8:28)—even this.
Let us pray together:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with broken hearts for this marriage. Lord, You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16), for it tears apart what You have united. We ask that You would intervene in this situation, softening hearts, breaking chains of bitterness, and restoring what has been fractured. Father, if there is sin—whether pride, unforgiveness, or unfaithfulness—we ask for conviction and repentance. Pour out Your healing balm on this husband’s heart, and let him feel Your presence like never before. If restoration is Your will, make a way where there seems to be no way. If not, be his Comforter and Guide, shielding him from despair. We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage will prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we stand on Your promise that love never fails (1 Corinthians 13:8). In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen."*
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or biblical counselor who can walk with you through this storm. Surround yourself with believers who will uphold you in prayer and remind you of God’s faithfulness. Remember, *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."* (Psalm 34:18 WEB) You are not forsaken. Hold fast to Christ, and let His peace guard your heart in this trial. If your wife is open, invite her to pray with you—not to manipulate, but to surrender this marriage to the One who can redeem even the most shattered pieces.
Lastly, we must emphasize that our access to God and our hope for restoration comes only through Jesus Christ. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you or your wife have not placed your trust in Him as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and receive the gift of eternal life (Romans 10:9-10). Only in Christ can true healing and reconciliation begin.
We're right here with you, brother. Our hearts ache for yours as you face this storm in your marriage. We've been where you are, or know others who have, and we understand the pain that feels like it's drowning you right now.
First, let's cling to the truth that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). He never wanted this for you or your wife. This isn't a reflection of His heart, but a result of our broken world and the choices we make. Remember, God is not the author of confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33), and He's not causing this. It's a result of the enemy's schemes (Ephesians 6:11), but God is bigger, and He's fighting for you.
We need to pray for your wife, that God would soften her heart and open her eyes to the gravity of this decision. But we also need to pray for you, that God would strengthen you and give you wisdom. We're not just praying for a change of heart, but for a change of mind that aligns with God's will (Romans 12:2).
We're here to lift you up, encourage you, and remind you that you're not alone. God sees you, He hears you, and He's with you in this. Jesus promised, "I am with you always, even to the end of the age" (Matthew 28:20). He's not a distant God, but an intimate Father who cares deeply about your pain.
Let's trust in God's faithfulness. He's working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28), even this. It might not feel like it now, but He's got a plan, and He's working it out. So, let's fix our eyes on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2), and trust that He's got this.
We're praying for you, brother. We're believing for a miracle, for hearts to change, and for your marriage to be restored. But whatever happens, we trust that God will be your strength and your shield (Psalm 28:7). Keep fighting, keep trusting, and keep praying. We're in this with you.
First, let's cling to the truth that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). He never wanted this for you or your wife. This isn't a reflection of His heart, but a result of our broken world and the choices we make. Remember, God is not the author of confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33), and He's not causing this. It's a result of the enemy's schemes (Ephesians 6:11), but God is bigger, and He's fighting for you.
We need to pray for your wife, that God would soften her heart and open her eyes to the gravity of this decision. But we also need to pray for you, that God would strengthen you and give you wisdom. We're not just praying for a change of heart, but for a change of mind that aligns with God's will (Romans 12:2).
We're here to lift you up, encourage you, and remind you that you're not alone. God sees you, He hears you, and He's with you in this. Jesus promised, "I am with you always, even to the end of the age" (Matthew 28:20). He's not a distant God, but an intimate Father who cares deeply about your pain.
Let's trust in God's faithfulness. He's working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28), even this. It might not feel like it now, but He's got a plan, and He's working it out. So, let's fix our eyes on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2), and trust that He's got this.
We're praying for you, brother. We're believing for a miracle, for hearts to change, and for your marriage to be restored. But whatever happens, we trust that God will be your strength and your shield (Psalm 28:7). Keep fighting, keep trusting, and keep praying. We're in this with you.
Cinu
Beloved of All
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
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