Why does God allow free will to hurt us?

Anonymous

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Free will in others shouldn’t be allowed if it hurts others. If I was a mother and had a kid who was hurting another I’d either superset them or discipline the misbehaving kid and protect the weaker one at all costs. It feel like abandonment from God. I feel still faithful and trusting in God’s plan though. In Jesus name amen.
 
We hear the deep pain and confusion in your heart as you wrestle with the question of why God allows free will when it can cause such harm to others. This is a profound struggle, especially when we see the innocent suffering at the hands of those who misuse their freedom. Your analogy of a mother protecting her child is understandable—we all long for justice and protection, and it can feel like abandonment when God does not intervene in the ways we expect.

Yet Scripture reveals that God’s ways are higher than ours, and His purposes are often beyond our immediate understanding. Free will is a gift from God, allowing us to choose love, obedience, and righteousness—or to reject Him. Without it, love would not be genuine, and worship would be forced rather than heartfelt. The apostle Paul writes in Romans 11:33-34, *"Oh the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and the knowledge of God! How unsearchable are his judgments, and his ways past tracing out! For who has known the mind of the Lord? Or who has been his counselor?"* Even when we cannot see His reasoning, we trust that God is sovereign and just.

The hurt caused by others’ free will is real, and God does not take it lightly. He hates injustice and oppression, and He promises to bring ultimate justice. In Psalm 37:28, we read, *"For Yahweh loves justice, and doesn’t forsake his saints. They are preserved forever, but the children of the wicked shall be cut off."* God sees every tear, hears every cry, and will one day wipe them all away. Until then, He calls us to trust in His goodness, even when life feels unfair.

We must also acknowledge that God *does* discipline His children, just as a loving parent corrects a wayward child. Hebrews 12:6 tells us, *"For whom the Lord loves, he disciplines. He punishes every son whom he accepts."* His discipline is not abandonment—it is proof of His love and His desire to refine us into the image of Christ. When we see evil go unchecked, it is not because God is powerless or indifferent, but because He is patient, not wanting anyone to perish (2 Peter 3:9). His timing is perfect, and His justice is sure.

You are not alone in feeling this way. Many of God’s faithful servants have cried out in similar anguish. The prophet Habakkuk questioned God’s allowance of wickedness, yet he ended his book with these words: *"Though the fig tree doesn’t flourish, nor fruit be in the vines; the labor of the olive fails, the fields yield no food; the flocks are cut off from the fold, and there is no herd in the stalls: yet I will rejoice in Yahweh. I will be joyful in the God of my salvation!"* (Habakkuk 3:17-18). Even in the darkest valleys, we can choose to trust in God’s character.

Let us pray with you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, wrestling with the pain caused by the free will of others. Lord, we confess that we do not always understand Your ways, but we choose to trust in Your goodness and sovereignty. You are the God who sees, the God who hears, and the God who acts on behalf of the oppressed. We ask that You would comfort those who feel abandoned, reminding them that You are near to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18).

Father, we pray for justice in this world. Where there is evil, bring conviction and repentance. Where there is hurt, bring healing and restoration. Where there is despair, bring hope. Help us to see Your hand at work, even in the midst of suffering. Strengthen our faith when we cannot see the full picture, reminding us that You work all things together for good for those who love You (Romans 8:28).

Lord, we also pray for those who misuse their free will. Soften their hearts, draw them to repentance, and lead them into a relationship with You. May they turn from their ways and seek Your face. And for those of us who struggle with these questions, give us the grace to trust You more deeply, knowing that You are just, loving, and faithful.

We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who suffered injustice yet triumphed over it, and who promises to return and make all things new. Amen.

Hold fast to your faith, dear one. God has not abandoned you. He is working in ways you may not yet see, and His love for you is unshakable. Keep seeking Him, keep trusting Him, and remember that He is close to you in your pain. You are not forgotten.
 
We're right there with you, feeling the weight of the pain caused by others' misuse of free will. It's tough to understand why God allows it, especially when it hurts the innocent. It's like watching a child hurting another, and we want to intervene, protect, and discipline. But God's ways are higher than ours, and His purposes often unfold beyond our immediate understanding.

We've been there too, feeling abandoned by God when He doesn't intervene as we expect. But remember, God sees every tear, hears every cry. He's not indifferent or powerless; He's patient, working all things together for our good (Romans 8:28). Even in the Old Testament, Habakkuk questioned God's allowance of wickedness, yet he ended up rejoicing in the Lord (Habakkuk 3:17-18).

Let's keep trusting in God's goodness and sovereignty, even when we don't understand. Let's pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father, we come to You with heavy hearts, struggling with the pain caused by others' free will. Lord, we confess that we don't always understand Your ways, but we choose to trust in Your goodness and sovereignty. You see, You hear, and You act on behalf of the oppressed. Comfort those who feel abandoned, reminding them that You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18).

Father, we pray for justice in this world. Bring conviction and repentance where there's evil, healing and restoration where there's hurt, and hope where there's despair. Help us see Your hand at work, even in the midst of suffering. Strengthen our faith when we can't see the full picture, knowing that You work all things together for our good.

Lord, we also pray for those who misuse their free will. Soften their hearts, draw them to repentance, and lead them into a relationship with You. And for those of us struggling with these questions, give us the grace to trust You more deeply, knowing that You are just, loving, and faithful.

We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who suffered injustice yet triumphed over it, and who promises to return and make all things new. Amen.

Keep trusting, dear one. God hasn't abandoned you. He's working in ways you may not yet see, and His love for you is unshakable. You're not forgotten.
 
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

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Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
 
I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

Healed Spirit Soul And Body

 
We want you to know how deeply we’ve been praying for you as you wrestle with this heavy question—why God allows free will when it brings pain to His children. Your heartache over feeling abandoned in the midst of hurt is something we’ve lifted up before the Lord, asking Him to wrap you in His comfort and reassurance. You’re not alone in this struggle, and we’re so grateful you shared it with us so we could stand beside you in prayer.

We’ve asked God to help you sense His presence even in the confusion, to remind you that He sees every tear and hears every unspoken cry. Your faithfulness and trust in His plan, even when it’s hard to understand, is a testimony to His work in your life. Please know we’re still praying for clarity, peace, and the strength to keep holding onto Him.

If you’ve seen any glimpses of His faithfulness or answers in these past days, we’d love to celebrate with you—please share a praise report if you’re able. If the weight of this question still feels heavy, we’d be honored to keep praying with you. Just post it again, and we’ll continue to lift it up together.

May the Lord draw near to you, strengthen your heart, and fill you with His perfect peace as you seek Him. We pray this in Jesus’ name. Amen.
 

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