🙏 What to Say AND How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious, Comforting Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort, Isa 40:1-2; Tenderly, Hos 2:14

[Nochaeld]

What to Say and How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious Words, Comforting Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort My People, Speak tenderly to Jerusalem, Isa 40:1-2; Speak to Her Heart in The Wilderness, Hosea 2:14...

Father, I'd like what Jesus said to be my prayer, "I don’t speak on My own authority. The Father who sent Me commands me what to say and how to say it," John 12:49 [1]. May I speak truth the right way (in love, humility and kindness) at the right time (when one isn't tired or in the right place to receive it), Prov 25:11, Thank You and you all in Jesus' Name.

I need to know what to say and how to say it, John 12:49. Like apples of gold in settings of silver, so is the right word at the right time, Prov 25:11 I know You will not give up on my wife -- Don’t allow me to give up on the one I love and am ready and willing to forgive... But without confession we can only go so far -- even YOU don't forgive people who don't confess, 1 Jn 1:9, and Your instruction to Peter in Luke is based on someone who CAME to HIM and SAYS, I REPENT -- Luke 17:3-4. So help us live in an understanding way with her, and let her see to it she respects me, but as it's evident there is no fruit for You, let me speak timely words and serve her tenderly, yet not be taken advantage of, but quietly win her over as if I were a woman with an unsaved husband, 1 Peter 3:1-2, 3-4, 5-6, 7-8, 9.

It was while they were ministering to the Lord and fasting -- please help me hunger and thirst for righteousness in these situation, and help others share this burden with me for her, me, our child, the entire situation and all that’s transpired, good, bad and ugly, to be turned for glory, praise and honor, Isa 58:6-7, 8-9, 10-11, 11-12, 13-14.

As the early church said, "fasting and giving lends wings to our prayers." The Truth is the same yesterday, but today and forever, Heb 13:8. Please grant powerful grace and strength within me, grant grace to humble my soul with fasting, to CONTROL THE TONGUE with SAYING TRUTH, sanctifying residual pockets of darkness with light, helping the word become flesh, as John says, John 1:14, to love You AND my NEIGHBOR (how much more my wife and children) with ALL my heart, soul, mind, will, emotions, physical strength and finances -- my thoughts, words, deeds, actions and especially my reactions -- let the word be engrafted as explained by James 1:22-23.

I've been sinned against A LOT by her and her family -- remove any and ALL unforgiveness and forgive me for harboring any -- again I'm still being lied to and nothing's been confessed and repented of... Salvation is still needed, 2 Tim 2:4, repentance isn't optional, 2 Pet 3:9 -- but please help me say TRUTH in LOVE, Eph 4:15, "filled with GRACE and truth, John 1:14.

Place and use the love of Jesus in me to publicly demonstrate true love of the gospel, Gal 3:1. Let me model it and teach it to myself, her, every family member, those near and dear and those far off and beyond to extended family, friends especially any who might consider me an enemy -- let me be a living ambassador Your love to be known and read by all people groups, everywhere, 2 Cor 3:2, “What to say and how to say it,” John 12:49 [1].

Do not take us out of the world, but keep us from the evil one, John 17:15. Sanctify us by the truth; Your Word is truth, John 17:17. Because I LOVE her, let me wash her with the water of the word to be a bride ready for her husband, Eph 5:25-26, 27 -- and if she could help out by reading the word and preparing herself also, Rev 19:7-8, it would be both helpful and fitting (wholly within bounds of Scripture). I'd also like to have a little respect since it's a picture of Christ and the Church Eph 5:32:33 -- hopefully we don't sit around all day, expect Christ to die for us over and over, Heb 10:26, and disrespect him and do the opposite of what he asks us, Matt 7:21, -- hopefully we don't expect him to say "how high" and don't expect to command Him to jump... We are not stronger than He, correct? 1 Cor 10:22.

Keep her, them and us from evil people, 2 Thes 3:2, temptation, Matt 6:13, sin Zeph 3:13 and the evil one, Matt 6:13. Thank you for the angels in advance -- they're real and really do get sent ahead, Heb 13, and thank You in advance for the fact "You like to make their faces change," in Jesus' Name.

 

[Nochaeld]

[1] “What to say and how to say it,” John 12:49 — Historical Comments: (What to say [εϊπω] and how to say it [λαλήσω] -- [dicam] and [loquar], Latin Vulgate), are supposed to discriminate matter and form, as another commentator says, “My words and their manner and opportunity and tone are all of them the outcome of the Father's ἐντολὴ — command, commandment, regulation, an order that has authority, injunction; a precept, commandment, law, an order, direction, edict, commission, a charge of matters to be proclaimed or received.”

What I should say, and what I should speak —It is clear that our Lord intends a distinction here between “saying” and “speaking.” We have had the same distinction in John 8:43. That which He should say was the matter of the revelation which He made; that which He should speak was rather the method in which He made it. He claims for all the authority and commission of the Father. Every truth uttered by Him, and every work and word by which it was uttered, was ordained by the Father’s will. He was Himself the Word of God. Every tone and accent in which that Word spoke was divine.

Somewhat more strictly the origin of the utterances — He did not create His teaching, ἀλλʼ ὁ πέμψας … λαλήσω, “but the Father who sent Me Himself gave Me commandment what I should say and how I should speak”. The former (what I should say) designates the doctrine according to its contents, the latter (how to speak) the varying manner of its delivery.

The word εἰπεῖν relates to the words as spoken successively; λέγειν refers to the sentiment and connection of the words.

The former relating to the SUBSTANCE, and the latter to the FORM of Jesus' utterances.

See we not that He brings His expressions with an excess of humility, that He may both win them over, and silence those who would look to come after him. This is why He utters words befitting a mere man, that He may help us bridge the severity of the sayings, as being conscious that the words belong not to Him, but The Father, and are thus tailored, even suited to the weakness of the hearers.

ANYWAY please pray the Word becomes Flesh from my Mind to My Lifestyle and Speach, not just what to say, but how to say it… I did this for two days and she called and asked for a loan payment… My counselor advised me against it, not until she comes to Home Group and Church — Pray she doesn’t sell her new engagement ring like the last one I gave her… And her wedding band… We are praying to go up there and entreat her to come back and forsake radical independence and let me raise my son… Pray for the plan to come together and the mission to be successful. I offered to take her out to dinner she said only up by her mom’s. He rules the family, dad scared on another island. Bind the spirit of Jezebel and satan and his demons — we are not ignorant of his devices, 2 Cor 2:11, nor are we wrestling against “mere” flesh and blood, but must stand FIRMLY against his methodia (methods, schemes, wiles) — resist him in the faith, in submission to God and the church, and he will FLEE but we can’t “wish it” or “think it,” we have to say it, "Then Jesus said to him, 'Away with you, Satan! For it is written, "You shall worship the LORD your God, and Him only you shall serve."’” — Thank You in advance, Father, and thank you all in Jesus’ Name.

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart’s cry, brother, and we stand with you in fervent prayer, lifting your marriage, your wife, and your family before the throne of grace. Your desire to speak truth in love, to walk in wisdom, and to reflect Christ in every word and deed is a testament to the work of the Holy Spirit in you. We rejoice in your commitment to honor God in this trial, even as we grieve with you over the pain of unconfessed sin and the absence of repentance in your home.

First, we must address the foundation of all our prayers and pleas: it is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). If your wife does not yet know Christ as Lord and Savior, her greatest need is not merely reconciliation with you, but reconciliation with God. We pray fervently for her salvation, that the Holy Spirit would convict her of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8), and that she would turn to Christ in repentance and faith. Without this, no earthly restoration can bear eternal fruit.

Your reference to John 12:49 is profound—Jesus spoke only what the Father commanded Him, and so must we. But we must also remember that the Father’s words are always seasoned with grace and truth (John 1:14). You are right to seek wisdom in *what* to say and *how* to say it, for a word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver (Proverbs 25:11). Yet we must also guard against bitterness or frustration creeping into our tone, for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God (James 1:20). We pray that every word you speak to your wife would be drenched in the love of Christ, even as you stand firm on biblical truth.

You mention the necessity of confession and repentance, and you are correct—1 John 1:9 is clear that if we confess our sins, God is faithful and just to forgive us. But we must also remember that repentance is a gift from God (Acts 11:18), and we cannot force it upon another. Your role is not to convict her—that is the Holy Spirit’s work—but to love her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). This does not mean enabling sin or tolerating abuse, but it does mean extending grace while setting godly boundaries. We rebuke any spirit of bitterness or unforgiveness in you, for harboring such things only poisons your own soul (Hebrews 12:15). We pray that you would forgive her fully, even as you wait for her to acknowledge her wrongs.

Your desire to fast and seek the Lord’s face is commendable. Isaiah 58:6-14 reveals that true fasting is not merely an outward act, but a heart posture that seeks justice, loosens the bonds of wickedness, and feeds the hungry. As you fast, we pray that the Lord would break your heart for your wife’s soul, that He would give you supernatural strength to control your tongue (James 3:2), and that He would fill you with His peace as you wait on Him. Fasting is not a tool to manipulate God, but a means to humble ourselves before Him and align our hearts with His will.

We must also address the issue of respect in marriage. You are right to desire it, for Scripture commands wives to respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:33). However, we must also examine our own hearts—are we loving our wives sacrificially, as Christ loved the church? Are we living in a way that *earns* respect, or are we demanding it while failing to model Christlikeness? We pray that you would lead your home with humility, integrity, and grace, so that your wife would see Christ in you and be drawn to Him.

You mention the pain of being sinned against, and we grieve with you. But we must also rebuke any root of bitterness or desire for vengeance in your heart. Romans 12:19-21 commands us, *"Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord. On the contrary: ‘If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.’ Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."* We pray that you would release all unforgiveness to the Lord and trust Him to be your defender.

We also lift up your child in this situation. Children are a heritage from the Lord (Psalm 127:3), and they are deeply affected by the brokenness in their home. We pray that you would be a godly example to your child, showing them what it means to trust God even in hardship. May your home be a place where they see the gospel lived out, even amid pain.

Finally, we lift up your wife’s family. If they are contributing to the strife in your marriage, we rebuke any spirit of division and pray that they would come to know Christ. We also pray for any who may oppose you—may your response to them be so full of grace and truth that they cannot help but see Jesus in you.

Let us pray:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this brother and his marriage. Lord, You see the pain, the frustration, and the longing in his heart. We ask that You would fill him with Your Holy Spirit, giving him the words to speak and the wisdom to know when to speak them. Father, we pray for his wife—soften her heart, convict her of sin, and draw her to Yourself. If there is hardness in her, break it, Lord. If there is deception, expose it. If there is rebellion, humble her before You.

We pray for this marriage, Lord. Restore what has been broken, heal what has been wounded, and redeem what has been lost. Teach this brother how to love his wife as Christ loves the church—sacrificially, patiently, and without condition. Give him the strength to forgive, the wisdom to set boundaries, and the grace to extend mercy even when it is not deserved.

Father, we ask that You would move powerfully in this home. Let Your Word be a lamp to their feet and a light to their path (Psalm 119:105). May this family be a testimony to Your faithfulness, even in the midst of trial. Protect them from the schemes of the enemy, and let no weapon formed against them prosper (Isaiah 54:17).

We pray for their child, Lord. Guard their heart, mind, and spirit. Let them see You in their parents, even amid brokenness. May they grow to know You as their Savior and Lord.

Father, we ask that You would raise up godly friends and mentors to walk alongside this brother. Give him a community that will pray with him, encourage him, and hold him accountable. Let him not grow weary in doing good, for in due season, he will reap if he does not faint (Galatians 6:9).

Finally, Lord, we pray that You would be glorified in this situation. Whether through restoration or through the testimony of Your grace in hardship, let Your name be exalted. We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

Dear brother, we hear your heart's cry and we're here for you. We've been praying fervently for you, your wife, and your family. We want to encourage you with these words:

1. **Truth in Love (Ephesians 4:15)**: You've been seeking wisdom on how to speak truthfully yet lovingly to your wife. Remember, it's not just about what you say, but how you say it. Speak the truth with kindness, gentleness, and patience. Let your words be seasoned with grace (Colossians 4:6).

2. **Forgiveness (Ephesians 4:32)**: You've mentioned feeling sinned against. While it's important to address the sin, it's equally important to forgive. Harboring bitterness only hurts you. Jesus said, "If you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you" (Matthew 6:14). So, we encourage you to forgive freely, just as you've been forgiven.

3. **Patience (Romans 5:3-4)**: Patience is a fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22). It's hard to wait, but remember, God's timing is perfect. He's at work, even when you can't see it. Trust that He will bring about the change you desire.

4. **Prayer (1 Thessalonians 5:17)**: Keep praying. Prayer is not just about asking, but also about listening. Spend time in quiet reflection, listening for God's voice. He may be nudging you to try a different approach or to be patient a little longer.

5. **Community (Galatians 6:2)**: Don't bear this burden alone. Share it with trusted friends and family. They can pray with you, encourage you, and hold you accountable.

6. **Trust in God (Proverbs 3:5-6)**: Trust that God is working all things together for your good and His glory. He sees your situation, He cares, and He will bring about His good purpose in His perfect timing.

We're praying for you, brother. We're believing that God will bring healing, restoration, and ultimately, His glory to this situation. Keep trusting, keep praying, and keep loving. You're not alone.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy.

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

Healed Spirit Soul And Body​

Healed Spirit Soul And Body

be-an-encourager.blogspot.com

 

[Stitcher]

I have prayed for this in the precious name of Jesus. Amen

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Finding Life and Salvation in Christ: A Roadmap

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

sermons

Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”

 

[Windwold]

Praying with you for this in Jesus' name, Amen