🙏 What to Say AND How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious, Comforting Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort, Isa 40:1-2; Tenderly, Hos 2:14

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What to Say and How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious Words, Comforting Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort My People, Speak tenderly to Jerusalem, Isa 40:1-2; Speak to Her Heart in The Wilderness, Hosea 2:14...

Father, I'd like what Jesus said to be my prayer, "I don’t speak on My own authority. The Father who sent Me commands me what to say and how to say it," John 12:49 [1]. May I speak truth the right way (in love, humility and kindness) at the right time (when one isn't tired or in the right place to receive it), Prov 25:11, Thank You and you all in Jesus' Name.

I need to know what to say and how to say it, John 12:49. Like apples of gold in settings of silver, so is the right word at the right time, Prov 25:11 I know You will not give up on my wife -- Don’t allow me to give up on the one I love and am ready and willing to forgive... But without confession we can only go so far -- even YOU don't forgive people who don't confess, 1 Jn 1:9, and Your instruction to Peter in Luke is based on someone who CAME to HIM and SAYS, I REPENT -- Luke 17:3-4. So help us live in an understanding way with her, and let her see to it she respects me, but as it's evident there is no fruit for You, let me speak timely words and serve her tenderly, yet not be taken advantage of, but quietly win her over as if I were a woman with an unsaved husband, 1 Peter 3:1-2, 3-4, 5-6, 7-8, 9.

It was while they were ministering to the Lord and fasting -- please help me hunger and thirst for righteousness in these situation, and help others share this burden with me for her, me, our child, the entire situation and all that’s transpired, good, bad and ugly, to be turned for glory, praise and honor, Isa 58:6-7, 8-9, 10-11, 11-12, 13-14.

As the early church said, "fasting and giving lends wings to our prayers." The Truth is the same yesterday, but today and forever, Heb 13:8. Please grant powerful grace and strength within me, grant grace to humble my soul with fasting, to CONTROL THE TONGUE with SAYING TRUTH, sanctifying residual pockets of darkness with light, helping the word become flesh, as John says, John 1:14, to love You AND my NEIGHBOR (how much more my wife and children) with ALL my heart, soul, mind, will, emotions, physical strength and finances -- my thoughts, words, deeds, actions and especially my reactions -- let the word be engrafted as explained by James 1:22-23.

I've been sinned against A LOT by her and her family -- remove any and ALL unforgiveness and forgive me for harboring any -- again I'm still being lied to and nothing's been confessed and repented of... Salvation is still needed, 2 Tim 2:4, repentance isn't optional, 2 Pet 3:9 -- but please help me say TRUTH in LOVE, Eph 4:15, "filled with GRACE and truth, John 1:14.

Place and use the love of Jesus in me to publicly demonstrate true love of the gospel, Gal 3:1. Let me model it and teach it to myself, her, every family member, those near and dear and those far off and beyond to extended family, friends especially any who might consider me an enemy -- let me be a living ambassador Your love to be known and read by all people groups, everywhere, 2 Cor 3:2, “What to say and how to say it,” John 12:49 [1].

Do not take us out of the world, but keep us from the evil one, John 17:15. Sanctify us by the truth; Your Word is truth, John 17:17. Because I LOVE her, let me wash her with the water of the word to be a bride ready for her husband, Eph 5:25-26, 27 -- and if she could help out by reading the word and preparing herself also, Rev 19:7-8, it would be both helpful and fitting (wholly within bounds of Scripture). I'd also like to have a little respect since it's a picture of Christ and the Church Eph 5:32:33 -- hopefully we don't sit around all day, expect Christ to die for us over and over, Heb 10:26, and disrespect him and do the opposite of what he asks us, Matt 7:21, -- hopefully we don't expect him to say "how high" and don't expect to command Him to jump... We are not stronger than He, correct? 1 Cor 10:22.

Keep her, them and us from evil people, 2 Thes 3:2, temptation, Matt 6:13, sin Zeph 3:13 and the evil one, Matt 6:13. Thank you for the angels in advance -- they're real and really do get sent ahead, Heb 13, and thank You in advance for the fact "You like to make their faces change," in Jesus' Name.

[1] “What to say and how to say it,” John 12:49 — Historical Comments: (What to say [εϊπω] and how to say it [λαλήσω] -- [dicam] and [loquar], Latin Vulgate), are supposed to discriminate matter and form, as another commentator says, “My words and their manner and opportunity and tone are all of them the outcome of the Father's ἐντολὴ — command, commandment, regulation, an order that has authority, injunction; a precept, commandment, law, an order, direction, edict, commission, a charge of matters to be proclaimed or received.”

What I should say, and what I should speak —It is clear that our Lord intends a distinction here between “saying” and “speaking.” We have had the same distinction in John 8:43. That which He should say was the matter of the revelation which He made; that which He should speak was rather the method in which He made it. He claims for all the authority and commission of the Father. Every truth uttered by Him, and every work and word by which it was uttered, was ordained by the Father’s will. He was Himself the Word of God. Every tone and accent in which that Word spoke was divine.

Somewhat more strictly the origin of the utterances — He did not create His teaching, ἀλλʼ ὁ πέμψας … λαλήσω, “but the Father who sent Me Himself gave Me commandment what I should say and how I should speak”. The former (what I should say) designates the doctrine according to its contents, the latter (how to speak) the varying manner of its delivery.

The word εἰπεῖν relates to the words as spoken successively; λέγειν refers to the sentiment and connection of the words.

The former relating to the SUBSTANCE, and the latter to the FORM of Jesus' utterances.

See we not that He brings His expressions with an excess of humility, that He may both win them over, and silence those who would look to come after him. This is why He utters words befitting a mere man, that He may help us bridge the severity of the sayings, as being conscious that the words belong not to Him, but The Father, and are thus tailored, even suited to the weakness of the hearers.

ANYWAY please pray the Word becomes Flesh from my Mind to My Lifestyle and Speach, not just what to say, but how to say it… I did this for two days and she called and asked for a loan payment… My counselor advised me against it, not until she comes to Home Group and Church — Pray she doesn’t sell her new engagement ring like the last one I gave her… And her wedding band… We are praying to go up there and entreat her to come back and forsake radical independence and let me raise my son… Pray for the plan to come together and the mission to be successful. I offered to take her out to dinner she said only up by her mom’s. He rules the family, dad scared on another island. Bind the spirit of Jezebel and satan and his demons — we are not ignorant of his devices, 2 Cor 2:11, nor are we wrestling against “mere” flesh and blood, but must stand FIRMLY against his methodia (methods, schemes, wiles) — resist him in the faith, in submission to God and the church, and he will FLEE but we can’t “wish it” or “think it,” we have to say it, "Then Jesus said to him, 'Away with you, Satan! For it is written, "You shall worship the LORD your God, and Him only you shall serve."’” — Thank You in advance, Father, and thank you all in Jesus’ Name.

 

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Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

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We come before the Lord with a heavy yet hopeful heart, lifting up this marriage and the deep longing for restoration, wisdom, and godly communication. Father, we echo the prayer of Your Son, who did not speak on His own authority but only what You commanded Him, and we ask that You would do the same in this situation. Teach this husband what to say and how to say it—with grace, truth, and timing that reflects Your heart. May his words be like "apples of gold in settings of silver," perfectly placed for healing and conviction (Proverbs 25:11).

Lord, we recognize the pain and frustration in this request. There is hurt from repeated sin, deception, and unrepentance, and we stand with this brother in asking for Your justice and mercy to prevail. You do not forgive where there is no confession (1 John 1:9), and we pray that You would bring conviction to this wife’s heart. Yet we also ask that You would guard this husband’s heart from bitterness or resignation. Do not let him grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9), even as he waits for the fruit of repentance. Help him to love his wife as Christ loves the Church—sacrificially, patiently, and with a heart that longs for her sanctification (Ephesians 5:25-27). May his actions and words reflect the gentleness of Christ, even as he stands firm on Your truth.

We rebuke the spirit of Jezebel at work here—the manipulation, independence, and rebellion that seeks to destroy this marriage and family. We bind the enemy’s schemes in Jesus’ name and declare that no weapon formed against this union shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We also rebuke any unforgiveness, resentment, or pride in this husband’s heart. Forgive him where he has harbored bitterness, and fill him with Your love, which covers a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8).

Father, we pray for this wife’s salvation and repentance. You are not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9). Break the hardness of her heart, Lord, and draw her back to You and to her husband. May she see the error of her ways and turn from sin, for You discipline those You love (Hebrews 12:6). We ask that You would soften her heart to receive the truth, whether through her husband’s words, the counsel of the church, or the conviction of the Holy Spirit.

We also lift up the child in this situation. Protect their heart and mind from the turmoil, and let them see the love of Christ through their father’s faithfulness. May this child grow up knowing the security of a godly home, even if restoration takes time.

Lord, we ask for wisdom in the practical steps ahead. Give this husband discernment in how to approach his wife—whether through fasting, prayer, or loving confrontation. May the church come alongside him, bearing this burden together, as iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17). We pray for the plan to bring her back to the home and to the Lord. Give favor in these conversations, and let her see the emptiness of her current path compared to the fullness of life in Christ.

We also pray for the extended family involved. Break generational strongholds of control, fear, and dysfunction. Let the light of the gospel shine into these relationships, and may this husband be a witness to them as well. Use this trial for Your glory, turning what the enemy meant for harm into a testimony of Your faithfulness (Genesis 50:20).

Father, we ask for grace to fast and pray with purpose, as Isaiah 58 describes. May this husband’s fasting not be for show but for true repentance, justice, and restoration. Let it break chains and loose the bonds of wickedness. May his prayers be powerful and effective, and may he hunger and thirst for righteousness in this situation (Matthew 5:6).

Finally, Lord, we pray for this husband’s own heart. Let the Word become flesh in his life—not just in what he says but in how he lives. Sanctify him by Your truth (John 17:17), and let his marriage be a reflection of Christ and the Church. May he love his wife as himself, and may she respect him as the head of the home, as Your Word commands (Ephesians 5:33). Where there has been disrespect or neglect, bring conviction and change. Where there has been sin, bring repentance and forgiveness.

We declare that You are able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). We trust You to work in this marriage, in this family, and in every heart involved. May Your name be glorified, and may this husband and wife be a testimony to Your redeeming love.

In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.

 

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We come before You, Lord, with heavy hearts yet full of hope. We lift up this marriage and the deep longing for restoration, wisdom, and godly communication. Father, we echo Your Son's prayer, "I do not speak on My own authority. Your Word is truth" (John 17:17). We ask that You would teach this husband what to say and how to say it, with grace, truth, and perfect timing, like "apples of gold in settings of silver" (Proverbs 25:11).

Lord, we recognize the pain and frustration in this situation. There is hurt from repeated sin, deception, and unrepentance. We stand with this brother, asking for Your justice and mercy to prevail. You do not forgive where there is no confession (1 John 1:9), so we pray for conviction in this wife's heart. Yet, we also ask that You would guard this husband's heart from bitterness or resignation. Help him to love his wife as Christ loves the Church - sacrificially, patiently, and with a heart that longs for her sanctification (Ephesians 5:25-27).

We rebuke the spirit of Jezebel at work here - manipulation, independence, and rebellion seeking to destroy this marriage and family. We bind the enemy's schemes in Jesus' name and declare that no weapon formed against this union shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We also rebuke any unforgiveness, resentment, or pride in this husband's heart. Forgive him where he has harbored bitterness, and fill him with Your love, which covers a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8).

Father, we pray for this wife's salvation and repentance. You are not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9). Break the hardness of her heart, Lord, and draw her back to You and to her husband. May she see the error of her ways and turn from sin, for You discipline those You love (Hebrews 12:6). We ask that You would soften her heart to receive the truth, whether through her husband's words, the counsel of the church, or the conviction of the Holy Spirit.

We also lift up the child in this situation. Protect their heart and mind from the turmoil, and let them see the love of Christ through their father's faithfulness. May this child grow up knowing the security of a godly home, even if restoration takes time.

Lord, we ask for wisdom in the practical steps ahead. Give this husband discernment in how to approach his wife - whether through fasting, prayer, or loving confrontation. May the church come alongside him, bearing this burden together, as iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17). We pray for the plan to bring her back to the home and to the Lord. Give favor in these conversations, and let her see the emptiness of her current path compared to the fullness of life in Christ.

We also pray for the extended family involved. Break generational strongholds of control, fear, and dysfunction. Let the light of the gospel shine into these relationships, and may this husband be a witness to them as well. Use this trial for Your glory, turning what the enemy meant for harm into a testimony of Your faithfulness (Genesis 50:20).

Father, we ask for grace to fast and pray with purpose, as Isaiah 58 describes. May this husband's fasting not be for show but for true repentance, justice, and restoration. Let it break chains and loose the bonds of wickedness. May his prayers be powerful and effective, and may he hunger and thirst for righteousness in this situation (Matthew 5:6).

Finally, Lord, we pray for this husband's own heart. Let the Word become flesh in his life - not just in what he says but in how he lives. Sanctify him by Your truth (John 17:17), and let his marriage be a reflection of Christ and the Church. May he love his wife as himself, and may she respect him as the head of the home, as Your Word commands (Ephesians 5:33). Where there has been disrespect or neglect, bring conviction and change. Where there has been sin, bring repentance and forgiveness.

We declare that You are able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). We trust You to work in this marriage, in this family, and in every heart involved. May Your name be glorified, and may this husband and wife be a testimony to Your redeeming love.

In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.