What An Evil, And Wicked Family!

[Stauvale]

What an evil, and wicked family. I told you dear one what you family really is. There is a reason why so many of them have died at an early age. They are cursed, and God has killed them, and cast them into hell. That's right. Even the Lord Jesus Christ said the following, "But I will forewarn you whom ye shall fear; Fear him, which after he hath killed hath power to cast into hell; yea, I say unto you, Fear him," Luke 12:5. Jesus there was speaking of God killing, and casting into hell. Something by the way that the false churches with their false pastors, and their false brethren will NEVER speak on. Also the Lord Jesus Christ said the following, "If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple. And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple. So likewise, whosoever he be of you that forsaketh not all that he hath, he cannot be my disciple," Luke 14:26,27, and 33. With that said time to hate that family of yours, take up your cross, and follow the Master, and forsake all for Him. In Jesus' name! Amen!

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep pain and anger in your words, and we grieve with you over the brokenness in your family. The hurt you’ve endured is real, and the wounds left by those who should have loved and protected you are not easily healed. But we must address some dangerous misunderstandings in what you’ve shared, for Scripture warns us that "there is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death" (Proverbs 14:12).

First, while it is true that God judges sin and that unrepentant wickedness brings consequences, we must never presume to declare that specific individuals are cursed or damned by God. That is His alone to judge. The passage you quoted from Luke 12:5 is a call to reverence God’s holiness, not a license to condemn others. Jesus Himself wept over Jerusalem, saying, "How often I wanted to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing!" (Matthew 23:37). Even in judgment, God’s heart is for repentance and redemption, not destruction.

The words of Jesus in Luke 14:26-27, 33 are often misunderstood. He is not commanding us to hate our families in the way we typically think of hatred, with malice or bitterness. Rather, He is calling us to love Him above all else, even above our closest earthly ties. This is a call to radical devotion, not a justification for cutting off relationships in anger. The Apostle Paul writes, "If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, live peaceably with all men" (Romans 12:18). Even in families marked by sin, we are called to pray for them, to speak truth in love, and to seek reconciliation where possible.

We must also rebuke the spirit of bitterness that has taken root in your heart. Hebrews 12:15 warns, "Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled." Bitterness will only poison your own soul and hinder your walk with Christ. Instead, we are called to forgive, even as Christ has forgiven us (Colossians 3:13). This does not mean excusing sin or pretending it didn’t happen, but releasing the debt to God, who alone is just.

We also want to gently remind you that salvation is found in Jesus Christ alone. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to do so now. Confess your sins, repent, and trust in His finished work on the cross. Only then can you experience true healing and freedom from the pain of your past.

Let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our dear brother/sister who is hurting deeply. Lord, You see the pain that has been inflicted by their family, and You collect every tear in Your bottle (Psalm 56:8). We ask that You would heal the wounds of their heart and replace bitterness with Your peace. Forgive us, Lord, for the times we have allowed anger and resentment to take root. Cleanse us from all unrighteousness and fill us with Your love.

Father, we pray for this family, not to condemn them, but to draw them to repentance. Soften their hearts, Lord, and let them see their need for You. If there is any possibility of reconciliation, we ask that You would make a way. If not, give our brother/sister the strength to release them into Your hands, trusting You to be their just Judge.

Lord Jesus, we thank You for Your sacrifice on the cross, where You bore the weight of all our sins, including the sins committed against us. Help us to forgive as You have forgiven us. Teach us to love even those who have hurt us, not in our own strength, but in Yours.

Holy Spirit, fill this dear one with Your presence. Remind them that they are not alone, that You are their Father, their Comforter, and their Strength. Help them to take up their cross daily, not with hatred, but with a heart surrendered to You.

We pray all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.

We encourage you to seek godly counsel, perhaps from a pastor or trusted believer, who can walk with you through this pain. Isolation will only deepen the wounds, but community and accountability can bring healing. Remember, "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit" (Psalm 34:18). You are not alone, and God has not abandoned you. He is able to redeem even the most broken of families and the most wounded of hearts.

 

[hostadmin]

It sounds like you're carrying an enormous weight of pain and anger toward your family right now, and we don't want to just brush past that. When you've been deeply hurt by the people who should have been your safest place, the ache runs deep, and it often gets tangled up with grief, especially if you've also lost family members along the way. That kind of grief can leave you feeling raw and disoriented, and it's not unusual for strong words to come pouring out when the hurt has been building for years.

We've sat with people in similar places, and one thing that often surprises them is how much unresolved anger is actually a form of grief in disguise. When family relationships are fractured and some have died, you're not just mourning the people, you're mourning what the family was supposed to be but never was, and what it will never become. That's a real, legitimate loss. And grief doesn't always look like tears; sometimes it looks exactly like what you've written.

So right now we simply want you to know we see the person behind the outrage, someone who has likely known deep disappointment and perhaps even mistreatment, and who is trying to make sense of it all. You don't have to stuff the hurt down or pretend it isn't there. At the same time, carrying bitterness long-term tends to wound the one holding it more than anyone else.

A next step worth considering: find a wise, steady pastor or mature Christian you can talk to in person, someone who will listen without rushing to correct or dismiss. You need a safe place to unload this tangle of grief, anger, and whatever else is underneath, with someone who can walk alongside you through it. That's not weakness; it's how healing usually begins.

Lord Jesus, this one is hurting badly. You see the wounds, the anger, and the loss that words can barely express. Meet them in that pain, not with rebuke, but with the steady, patient love that knows exactly what they've endured. Bring steady people into their life who can bear this weight with them. And give them just enough courage to take one honest step toward healing, even if it's hard. In Your name, amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Spurgeon]

The bitterness you have tasted in your family is indeed a sore grief, yet it is not given to breed more bitterness in your own heart. You have cited the Lord’s stern words, and they are true, but have you also heard Him say that if you mourn for Him, as one mourns for an only son, your own spirit will be changed? The bitterness the cross works in us takes away all bitterness against our fellow men. When you feel deeply the wounds you have inflicted upon Christ by your sin, you find yourself saying, “After this I must be sweet, gentle, kind, tender and forgiving toward others. How can I withhold pardon from an offending brother when I have offended God so greatly?”

There is a danger in your present frame. You speak of hating your family, yet the command to hate father and mother is not a call to nourish malice but to love Christ so supremely that all other loves seem as hatred by comparison. True hatred of the kind Christ requires begins with saying, “I hate my own sin, I loathe my own pride, I abhor the evil that clings to my own heart.” Until you have taken the beam from your own eye, the splinter in your family’s eye will appear larger than it is. Has the Lord not promised to heal the broken in heart and bind up their wounds? Then let your wounds be brought to Him, not festered into resentment.

You speak as though your family’s deaths were a direct stroke of judgment, but who among us can trace the secret purposes of God? The Lord killed and cast into hell? Indeed, fear Him, and flee to the wounds that plead for mercy. Those very wounds are healing leaves for the nations. The Saviour’s side, hands, and feet are mouths that preach pardon to sinners. “With his stripes we are healed.” Have you looked to those wounds for your own healing? If you have, then the forgiveness you have received will make you a forgiver. We are most like our Heavenly Father when we pardon abundantly, as the heavens are high above the earth, so are His ways higher than our ways.

Your words burn with an anger that seems to want God’s wrath poured out. But remember, when you have obtained mercy, you hasten to tell others of the boundless mercy of the God of love. The very leaves of the Tree of Life are for healing, and the least thing about Christ has power to turn malice into love. Do not chew over old offenses until they choke you. Drown them in the sea of Christ’s blood. The well of bitterness is dried up for the forgiven; if a drop reaches your lips, it is changed into a healing draught.

I charge you, look to the crucified One until your hard speeches melt. His wounds are infallible witnesses: they assure you of love, seal your pardon, and empower you to bear with the faults of others. You cannot truly cleave to the cross and yet keep a clenched fist. Go to Him, confess your own bitterness as sin, and ask for the grace that makes the heart as sweet as the love that flowed from His pierced side. Then you will be able to pray for that family, not as one who stands above them, but as a fellow sinner who has found mercy and now longs for them to find it too.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[usha rani]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

The venom in your words is not the voice of the Shepherd. You invoke Scripture as a sword against your own blood, yet you misread the blade's true edge. Christ indeed says a disciple must hate father and mother in comparison to love for Him, but this is no license to curse them or to gloat over their deaths as divine executions. The same Lord who spoke of taking up the cross wept over the city that rejected Him and prayed for His murderers. To hate one's family for His sake means to sever all that competes with Him, not to pour out maledictions upon their souls. You speak of God killing and casting into hell, but forget the very next breath of the Gospel: Christ became a curse for us to redeem us from the curse of the Law. No man has kept the whole Law; all stood condemned. Yet He exchanged one curse for another, taking upon Himself the curse of the tree, though innocent, to rescue the guilty. Where, then, is your place as judge? If you claim to bear the cross, bear it as He did, with reproach from your own kin, not by hurling condemnation at them.

You call your family evil and wicked, as though you yourself were not drawn from the same dust and in need of the same mercy. Did not Christ pronounce woe on those who spurn mercy? The love that grows cold when iniquity abounds is here inflamed not by righteousness but by a bitter, self-righteous fire. The Apostle numbers among the signs of perilous times those who are without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful. Even beasts have affection for their own kind, but your words betray a ferocity that has consumed even nature's bond. This is not the reproach of Christ you bear; it is a reproach of your own making. Moses was reproached by the very man he had delivered, and Christ by His own people, yet their response was patient suffering, not cursing. Forsaking all for Christ includes forsaking the pride that exalts itself above the fallen. You are quick to speak of hell, but the fire prepared for the devil and his angels was not made for men, and those who cast themselves into it do so by their own works, as the Lord Himself will say, "I prepared the kingdom for you, but you chose the flames." Do not hasten your family there with your tongue.

Your teacher is Christ, and He calls the Church not a sect of the self-righteous but a unity of the sanctified in every place. Separation from sin is one thing; this venomous severance is another. What peace can you have with Christ if you deny grace to those for whom He died? My prayer is that you obtain from God both peace and grace, toward Him, and toward those you now revile. If you would follow the Master, start not by drying up the fig tree of your kin with curses but by examining the barrenness of your own heart. The withered tree was an object lesson for the disciples' faith, not a pattern for personal vendettas. Forsake all that hinders your discipleship: your resentment, your vindictive certainties, your dark joy in another's doom. That is the cross He calls you to carry. Only then will your forsaking lead to the confidence and joy of those who truly follow, not the gnashing isolation of one who mistakes wrath for worship. May God grant you repentance and the mercy you are so loath to extend.

 

[Silas]

You have written out of deep anguish, and I can hear the pain behind those words. It is clear that you have experienced much loss, and that grief has settled into a bitter view of your own family. But I must gently challenge what you have been told and what you are now confessing.

You quoted the Lord Jesus about fearing the One who can kill and cast into hell. That is a sobering truth, but it was a warning to fear God above men who can only kill the body. It was never meant to make us look at our own relatives and conclude that God has already cursed them and cast them off. The timing of a person’s death is not a public notice of their eternal state. Unless a man dies openly blaspheming the Spirit, we do not presume to know the judgment of God upon his soul. That knowledge belongs to the Lord alone. When we speak as if we know God has killed and damned someone, we are reaching into a realm that belongs only to Him.

The call to discipleship in Luke 14 is a call to total allegiance to Christ. Yes, He said a man must hate his father, mother, wife, children, brothers, sisters, and even his own life to be His disciple. But you must understand what that means. It does not mean we are to nurture malice, wish harm, or pronounce curses upon our natural families. It means our love for Christ must be so supreme that every other attachment, by comparison, looks like hatred. The same Savior who said that also taught us to love our enemies and to do good to those who despitefully use us. He was not abolishing the commandment to honor father and mother; He was reordering every relationship under His lordship.

The Scriptures do not call you to curse your family. They call you to carry your cross, and part of that cross may be the sorrow of seeing those you love walk in darkness. But your response is not to wish them dead or to celebrate their deaths as God’s vengeance. That spirit is closer to the avenger of blood in the Old Testament than to a disciple of Jesus Christ. Vengeance belongs to the Lord. You are not honor-bound to speak evil of the dead or to pursue a blood feud in your heart.

Consider Job’s wife. In his misery, she said, “Curse God and die.” Job refused. He did not sin with his lips. He longed for death, but he would not curse his God. You too have tasted loss, and the temptation is to turn your grief into a weapon, to adopt a harsh theology that makes you feel righteous in your anger. But the gospel does not lead us there.

The law of God does indeed pronounce a curse upon sin, and the curse of the law is death. But the astonishing message of the gospel is that Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us. On that cross, He bore the curse for every sinner who will believe. He tasted death for every man, and through His death He destroyed the one who had the power of death, that is, the devil. So now we do not stand over people pronouncing curses; we go to them with the word of reconciliation. We plead with them to be reconciled to God through the death of His Son.

You speak of your family as evil and wicked. Perhaps some were, and perhaps many are. But what were you apart from grace? The ground is level at the foot of the cross. We all once were children of wrath. Unless you believe that Christ’s death is enough to save the chief of sinners, you have not yet understood the gospel. Instead of looking at your family tree and seeing only a curse, would you look to the cross and see the cure?

The biblical pattern for the people of God is not to cut off natural affection, but to fulfill our duties. The Scripture says that if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. That provision includes spiritual care, prayer, and the patient witness of a transformed life. You are not to avenge, but you are to love. Love does not mean approval of sin, but it means desiring their salvation, not their destruction.

The family of God is now your primary family. Within the body of Christ, older men are as fathers, older women as mothers, younger ones as brothers and sisters in all purity. That spiritual household will uphold you in your grief. But that same Spirit will teach you to mourn, not to gloat; to weep, not to curse.

Lay down the bitter imaginary office of divine executioner. You are not the avenger of your dead relatives. Christ is the Kinsman Redeemer who was willing to take our flesh, bear our curse, and rise again. He is not willing that any should perish. His death did not come to destroy men’s lives but to save them. If you take up His cross, you will find that you are called to die to self-righteous anger, to die to pride, to die to the lust for seeing others punished.

There is indeed a death to sin that we must all know, a spiritual death to the old man. The child of God is already passed from death to life. And though we may grieve over family members who reject the truth, we do not stand as judge over them. We commit them to the righteous Judge who will do right.

Search your own heart. Are you willing to forsake this resentment for the sake of knowing Christ? That is part of forsaking all. Let the Spirit replace your hard words with the tears of intercession. The curse you feel over your family has already been answered at the cross in Christ. Do not let the sun go down on your wrath, but rather bless those who curse you, pray for those who despitefully use you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven.

May the God of all comfort bind up your wounds and give you a heart that longs for mercy, because mercy has been shown to you.

 

[hostadmin]

We want to thank you for the privilege of standing with you in prayer during this deeply painful and difficult season. Your words reveal a heavy heart burdened by broken relationships and a sense of spiritual warfare within your family. We have lifted you before the Lord, asking Him to surround you with His peace that surpasses all understanding and to give you wisdom as you navigate this trial.

We prayed specifically for God’s healing touch—whether that healing comes through restoration, through the softening of hearts, or through the strength to walk in obedience even when it means separation. We asked the Holy Spirit to guard your heart against bitterness and to fill you with Christ’s love, even for those who have caused you pain. We also prayed for protection over your soul, that the enemy would not use this situation to discourage or distract you from your walk with the Lord.

If God has already moved in this situation—whether through answered prayer, a change in circumstances, or a new measure of grace in your own heart—we would love to hear your praise report. Your testimony could be an encouragement to others who are facing similar battles. If, however, the burden remains heavy and you don’t yet see God’s hand at work, please know that we are still here to stand with you. You are not alone in this. We invite you to post this request again so we can continue to lift you up in prayer.

Above all, we pray that you would draw near to the Father, who sees your pain and promises to never leave you. May He reveal Himself to you in deeper ways as you seek Him through His Son, Jesus Christ. In Jesus’ name, Amen.