We come before the throne of grace with you in this time of deep sorrow and longing for restoration, lifting your marriage to the Lord who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think. Your heart for reconciliation and your willingness to take responsibility for your failings are evidence of God’s work in you, and we praise Him for that. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy, but Jesus came that you may have life and have it abundantly (John 10:10). This battle is not against flesh and blood but against spiritual forces, and we stand with you in the authority of Christ to reclaim what the enemy has tried to take.
You have acknowledged your mistakes, sought forgiveness, and experienced a taste of restoration—those ten days of reconciliation were a gift from God, a glimpse of what He desires for your marriage. But now the enemy is fighting hard to keep division between you and your wife. Yet we know that nothing is impossible with God (Luke 1:37). He is the God who restores, who redeems, and who turns hearts back to Himself and to one another. Your wife’s heart is in His hands, and He can soften it, heal it, and draw her back to Him—and to you.
We must address the adultery that has taken place, as it is a grievous sin before the Lord. The Bible is clear: "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers" (Hebrews 13:4). While your wife’s sin was influenced by the brokenness in your marriage, it does not excuse it. Adultery is a violation of the covenant you both made before God, and it requires repentance and turning away from that sin. However, we also know that where sin abounds, grace abounds even more (Romans 5:20). If she has repented, God is faithful and just to forgive her and cleanse her from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). The same grace applies to you, as you have taken responsibility for your failures. God’s forgiveness is complete, and He calls us to extend that same forgiveness to one another—just as you have done.
Yet forgiveness alone is not enough; there must be a turning away from sin and a turning toward God’s design for marriage. Your wife’s statement that she has "fallen in love with another" is a dangerous path, one that the Bible warns against. Jesus said, "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart" (Matthew 5:28). Emotional and physical infidelity are both destructive, but God can break those chains. We pray that He would expose the emptiness of this new relationship and reveal to her the truth: that what she is pursuing is not love but a counterfeit, a temporary distraction from the healing and restoration God wants to bring.
Your role in this season is critical. You must continue to walk in humility, repentance, and faith. The Bible calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church—sacrificially, selflessly, and with a love that covers a multitude of sins (Ephesians 5:25, 1 Peter 4:8). This means leading spiritually, loving her even when she is unlovable, and trusting God to work in her heart. It also means not enabling sin or accepting her decision to pursue another man. You must stand firm in the truth, speaking life and godly sorrow over her choices while extending grace.
We also encourage you to examine your own heart. Have you fully surrendered this situation to God, or are you trying to control the outcome? Are you trusting in His timing, or are you growing bitter or desperate? The Lord tells us, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6). This is a time to draw closer to God, to seek His face, and to let Him refine you into the husband He has called you to be.
As for your wife, we pray that God would convict her deeply of her sin, not to shame her but to bring her to repentance. May He reveal to her the depth of His love and the emptiness of the path she is on. We ask that He would place godly sorrow in her heart, that she would turn away from this other relationship and return to the covenant she made before God. We pray that He would remind her of the vows she spoke and the love you once shared, and that He would give her the strength to choose obedience over temporary feelings.
We also pray for protection over your marriage. The enemy wants to destroy it, but we declare that no weapon formed against your union will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We bind the spirit of adultery, deception, and division in the name of Jesus and command it to flee. We loose the spirit of repentance, restoration, and reconciliation over your wife’s heart. May God break every ungodly soul tie she has formed with this other person and sever every emotional and spiritual bond that is not of Him.
Finally, we pray for wisdom and discernment for you. Ask God to show you how to love your wife in a way that draws her back to Him. Sometimes this means giving space, other times it means speaking truth in love. Seek the Lord for specific actions He wants you to take, whether it’s writing a letter, fasting, or simply waiting in silence. He will guide you.
Here is our prayer for you both:
"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this brother and his marriage to You. Lord, You are the God who restores, who heals, and who redeems. You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16), and You desire for marriages to reflect Your covenant love. We ask that You would intervene in this situation in a powerful way. Softten our sister’s heart, Lord. Convict her of the sin she is walking in and draw her back to Yourself. Break the hold that this other relationship has on her and expose it for what it is—a lie from the enemy. Remind her of the vows she made before You and the love she once had for her husband. Give her the strength to turn away from this path and return to her marriage.
Father, we pray for our brother. Give him the wisdom to know how to lead, how to love, and how to wait on You. Heal his heart from the pain of betrayal and rejection. Fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Show him how to be the husband You’ve called him to be, one who loves his wife as Christ loves the church. Give him the words to speak, the actions to take, and the patience to trust in Your timing.
Lord, we rebuke the enemy’s plans to destroy this marriage. We declare that You are the God of restoration, and we ask for a miracle. Bring reconciliation where there is division, healing where there is brokenness, and love where there is hatred. Let Your will be done in this marriage, Lord. If it is Your desire for them to be reunited, then make a way where there seems to be no way. If there is more refining to be done in either of their hearts, then do that work quickly and thoroughly.
We pray all this in the powerful name of Jesus, who is able to save, heal, and restore. May Your kingdom come and Your will be done in this marriage. Amen."
Brother, we want to leave you with this encouragement: do not lose heart. The God who raised Jesus from the dead is at work in your situation. Keep praying, keep fasting, keep seeking His face. Surround yourself with godly men who can support you and hold you accountable. And remember, even if the outcome is not what you hope for, God is still good, and He is still working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).
One final word: if your wife has truly hardened her heart and refuses to repent, the Bible does allow for divorce in cases of sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9). However, this is not God’s heart—His heart is for restoration. So we urge you to continue to pray and believe for a miracle, but also to seek godly counsel on how to proceed if she remains unrepentant. Our prayer is that she would turn back to the Lord and to you, and that your marriage would be a testimony of God’s redeeming power.
Stay strong in the Lord, and keep your eyes fixed on Jesus. He is your hope, your healer, and your restorer.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
