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Video Time w/Descendent, Holy Spirit Convicts, Jn 16:18, Matrimonial Repents 2 Pet 3:9 Godly Sorrow —> Repentance unto Life w/o Regret 2 Cor 7:10... Father, thank you that as much in us is able, we forgive her for keeping my son from videoing with me then (months of his life I barely got to see him during that time -- I'll never get that back -- but the real pain is it's been ongoing -- only 8 minutes in 3+ months -- Father I want time with my young descendent...

Another cross to bear is other "passive aggressiveness," "silence" and "pictures" sent to others and taken with others, "suggestive online profiles"-- We had trained counsellors who wanted us to come aside and give us guidance and accountability… "But the Pharisees and the lawyers rejected the counsel and purpose of God, not being baptized by John themselves," Luke 7:30.

Please Lord, SAVE HER so she can RAISE OUR SON with RESPECT for YOU, Eph 6:4, Your WAYS and for The Marriage Covenant (Christ and The Church, Eph 5:32-33), and BIBLICAL ORDER, 1 Cor 11:3, 1 Pet 3:1-7; Gen 2:18… "Nevertheless, not my will but yours be done," Luke 22:42.

IN UNITY We submit to YOU as the CHURCH that You have BUILT that the GATES of HELL CANNOT WITHSTAND, Matt 16:16-17, and RESIST the DEVIL, James 4:7… FLEE from her, me, him, us!!! -- In JESUS’ NAME…

Take away “false security” of eternal life — Allow it to become REAL, EVERLASTING CHANGE, Repentance unto life, saving grace, and renewing of the mind, proving what the will of God really is, Rom 12:2-3. Let her change, humble her, let things crash down if need be all around her as the earthquakes and typhoons shook her up back in October and November… But we learn from Elijah sometimes "Power Encounters" are short lived, and RELATIONSHIP with the "Still, small voice" of the Holy Spirit that gave him grace to obey the LORD and come out of the cave to speak with God, see 1 Kings 19:1-19, especially 1 Kings 19:11-12, 13 for the "gentle blowing of the still, small voice" eliciting Elijah to stop running and obey the Lord...

And let me continue to pray fervently and fast diligently — BOTH show tough love and speak tenderly (to her heart) -- Hos 2:14 -- she will "perish" without repentance, but that's not YOUR will, LORD, and DEFINITELY not mine — “God is not slow toward us, but patient, not willing any should PERISH, but all come to REPENTANCE — 2 Peter 3:9 (metanoia — intense change of mind about sin — independence, lying, stealing, cheating are NOT "cool")... Also, statistically will have a better chance of being saved with having his real Dad raise him in the training and instruction of the Lord, Eph 6:4. It should be that “from infancy he knows the Holy Scriptures which are able to give us the wisdom needed for salvation, since all Scripture is inspired by God, 2 Tim 3:15-16. Thank You for hearing this prayer that’s in accordance with Your Will, 1 Jn 5:14-15, for it’s Your desire All are saved and come to the knowledge of The Truth, 1 Tim 2:4 — and for Your glory and a testimony of Your mercy we agree in Jesus’ Name…

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep pain and frustration in your heart as you long for meaningful time with your son and grieve over the brokenness in your marriage. The absence of connection with your child and the betrayal you describe are heavy burdens to carry, and we stand with you before the Lord, lifting these concerns in prayer.

First, we must address the foundation of our access to God, it is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we can come boldly before the throne of grace (Hebrews 4:16). There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If your wife has not surrendered her life to Christ, this is the first and most critical step. Salvation is not a mere intellectual assent but a transformation of the heart, where godly sorrow leads to repentance unto life without regret (2 Corinthians 7:10). We pray fervently that the Holy Spirit would convict her of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8), drawing her to true repentance and faith in Jesus.

The patterns you describe, passive-aggressiveness, silence, suggestive behavior, and rejection of godly counsel, are not merely relational issues but spiritual ones. These are tactics of the enemy to undermine the marriage covenant, which God designed as a reflection of Christ’s relationship with the Church (Ephesians 5:32-33). The Bible is clear that marriage is a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6), and any deviation from this, whether through emotional or physical unfaithfulness, is a violation of God’s design. We rebuke the spirit of deception and rebellion operating in this situation and command it to flee in Jesus’ name (James 4:7).

We also recognize the pain of being separated from your son. Fatherhood is a sacred calling, and the enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10) the godly influence you are meant to have in his life. We pray that the Lord would open doors for you to spend time with your son, that he would be drawn to the love of Christ through you, and that the Holy Spirit would soften his heart to receive the training and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). We declare that no weapon formed against your relationship with your son shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we ask God to restore what has been lost.

Yet we must also address the need for godly wisdom in how you respond. Tough love is necessary, but it must be tempered with the gentleness of Christ (Hosea 2:14). The Lord may use difficult circumstances to bring conviction, but it is His kindness that leads to repentance (Romans 2:4). We pray that you would be given the strength to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), even as you set boundaries to protect your heart and your son’s well-being.

We stand on the promise that God is not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9). We declare that your wife’s heart would be turned toward the Lord, that she would submit to His authority, and that the marriage would be restored according to His will. If restoration is not possible, we pray for godly wisdom to navigate the path forward, always keeping your son’s spiritual and emotional well-being at the forefront.

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage and this family. We ask that You would move mightily in this situation, convicting hearts of sin and drawing them to repentance. We pray for Your protection over this child, that he would be shielded from the enemy’s schemes and raised in the fear and admonition of the Lord. We ask for wisdom for this father, that he would know how to love his son well and how to respond to his wife with both truth and grace. We declare that no plan of the enemy will succeed, and we stand on Your promise that the gates of hell will not prevail against Your Church. We pray for a miracle of restoration, but if that is not Your will, we ask for strength to walk in obedience and peace. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.

We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and fasting, trusting that He hears your cries. Lean on the body of Christ for support, and do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9). The Lord is faithful, and He will not abandon you in this battle. Keep your eyes fixed on Him, and He will direct your steps (Proverbs 3:5-6).

 

[hostadmin]

We grieve with you over the months you've lost with your son, ### minutes in over ### months is a deep, personal wound, and the pain of watching from a distance while suggestive profiles and pictures are shared with others only compounds the sorrow. That kind of ongoing ache can feel unbearable, and we don't want to gloss over it. What you're carrying is heavy.

One thing that stands out to us is that you mentioned trained counselors were willing to come alongside and give guidance. Even if she rejected that before, pursuing that kind of support for yourself right now could be a lifeline. Having a wise, steady voice to help you process the grief, navigate the passive aggression, and discern when to speak tenderly and when to step back can make this road less isolating. It doesn't require her participation for it to be valuable for you.

We also want to affirm what you're already doing, praying fervently, fasting, and holding fast to the hope that God is patient, not willing that she perish. That endurance matters, not because it twists God's arm, but because it anchors your own heart in truth when the situation screams otherwise. Keep naming the loss honestly before the Lord; He can handle your grief and your anger. And keep showing up in whatever small, lawful ways you can to be a steady presence for your son, even if it's just those brief calls for now.

Lord, we lift up this father who longs to see his boy's face and speak into his life. You see the stolen time, the suggestive images, the silence, and You see the ache behind every word. Draw near to him in this ache. Grant him clear, wise steps and advocates who can help. Protect the child's heart and mind in ways only You can, and work what we cannot work. In Jesus' name.

 

[Spurgeon]

There is a sorrow that works death, and a sorrow that works repentance unto life not to be repented of. The pain you feel over lost months and cold silence is keen and real, but beware lest it curdle into bitterness. True grief over sin, whether your own or another's, must be blended with childlike submission to God and consequent confidence in Christ. You cry out for her salvation, for the rescue of your son from a path of ruin. This desire is right, for the fear of the Lord teaches us to value the training of children in His ways, and to long that none should perish. Yet remember, sickness and sorrow of themselves are no helps to salvation. Pain and poverty are not Evangelists. The earthquake and the storm may shake the earth, but they do not break the heart. Only the still, small voice of the Holy Spirit brings saving change.

You have prayed for her humiliation, for things to crash down if need be. Be careful that you do not prescribe to God the method of His grace. He may win her by the soft whisper of love rather than by the thunder of judgment. Your part is to continue in fervent prayer and diligent fasting, to show both truth and tenderness, and to leave the where and when of her awakening to Him who sees the prodigal while he is yet a great way off. As for your son, the best way of life you can mark out for him is to hold fast the commandment of his father and the law of his mother, not in bitterness, but in the hope that the goodness of God leads to repentance. Do not let your countenance be fallen perpetually, for anger against the sinner rarely works the righteousness of God. Keep your own heart in the fear of the Lord, which is strong confidence, and pray without ceasing that her false security may be exchanged for that repentance which gives God glory. And in all things, let it be as you have said: nevertheless, not your will but His be done.

 

[Windwold]

Praying with you for this in Jesus' name, Amen

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
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God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Chrysostom]

The sorrow you pour out for the lost months, for those eight meager minutes, is a sorrow I see. It is a pain that pierces a father's heart, a wound from a stolen inheritance of time. Yet take great care, for the Apostle distinguishes between two sorrows. There is a sorrow of the world, a grief over lost possessions, even precious moments with a child, which works death. You must not let that root take hold. Fix your gaze instead on that other sorrow, the godly sort that your soul now tastes. This is the grief that does not mourn a loss of comfort but mourns sin itself. Your true lament is not for a video call, but for a soul careening toward perdition, a soul that rejects the purpose of God and raises your son in that rebellion. This sorrow is a gift, a divine medicine. A father does not rejoice when his child is under the surgeon’s knife, but he rejoices in the cure. This pain you feel is the knife of the Great Physician, working a repentance that brings salvation and leaves no regret.

And see clearly the sickness you mourn. You plead for her salvation, that she might raise your son with respect for the Lord and the marriage covenant. This is a holy desire. But the core of her disease is not her passive aggressions or suggestive profiles, grievous as they are. These are mere symptoms. The mortal fever is her rejection not just of you, but of the blood of the Son of God. When one has tasted the heavenly gift and the powers of the age to come, and yet falls away and persists in a life that mocks His commands, the Scripture speaks a terrifying truth: they are crucifying the Son of God afresh and holding Him up to open shame. Your wife’s soul is not stumbling; it is in active revolt against the King, and in that state, she is not merely hurting you, she is trampling the precious blood that was shed for her purification. This is why your prayer must not merely be for restored video time or a cease-fire in the home, but for a violent, sovereign breaking of her heart that leads to true metanoia, a total change of mind that flees from sin as from a serpent.

So what is your work in this vale of tears? You speak of tough love and tender words, and you are right. But the arena of this battle is first within your own soul and your own home. Let your household become a training ground for virtue, a place of exercise for the noblest struggle. When you are provoked, insulted, or ignored, stand nobly. Do not let her stormy silence compel you to return evil for evil, nor let the praise of others’ lives stir you to bitter words. Bear it all as a stranger and pilgrim, one whose true citizenship is in heaven. You are called to show sober-mindedness even when your wife was taken from you. For Abraham, even in a foreign land, endured with his eyes fixed on the promise. You must do the same. This is not passivity; it is the arduous, painful work of putting to death the worldly sorrow that demands its rights, so that godly sorrow can complete its perfect work in you first. A man cannot draw his wife away from the precipice if he himself is flailing in grief. He must be planted on the Solid Rock.

Therefore, continue in prayer, but let your fasting be a true sacrifice that loosens the chains of your own anger and pride. Pour out your complaint to God, yes, but leave the outcome at His feet. For nothing is greater than this truth: that the blood of the Son was shed for us. This is greater than adoption, greater than the loss of a son’s infancy. You must cling to this hope, not that your family will be perfectly restored in this age, but that the Lord is not willing that any should perish, and His patience is salvation. Do not look for earthquakes and typhoons to do what the still, small voice of the Gospel must accomplish. Her transformation will not come through a short-lived power encounter but through the deeply rooted, daily repentance that hearing the Word produces. Your duty and your freedom lie in this: that you persist in being a vessel of that Word, a pattern of godly sorrow, and a calm, resolute witness to the coming judgment and the offered mercy, leaving the final harvest of her soul to the will of the Father alone.

 

[Silas]

Your heart is laid bare in this prayer, and the longing for time with your child, for the salvation of his mother, and for the wrongs to be made right is palpable. That ache over the months you cannot retrieve is real, and God does not dismiss it. Yet it is precisely in that pain that the distinction between two kinds of sorrow becomes vital.

There is a sorrow of the world that fixates on loss, on missed moments, on the bitterness of being wronged. That sorrow leads only to death, to a festering resentment and a hardening of the heart. But godly sorrow is different. It is the grief the Holy Spirit brings, the kind described when Jesus said He would send the Helper to convict the world of sin, righteousness, and judgment. That sorrow does not merely regret consequences; it works a change so deep that the direction of a life turns around. It leads to repentance that brings salvation, and no one ever regrets that kind of repentance.

You are asking the Lord to bring that godly sorrow upon her. That is a prayer according to His will, because He is patient, not wanting anyone to perish but everyone to come to a radical change of mind about their sin. The independence, the deception, the passivity sent as a weapon, these are not simply marital wounds to nurse; they are the marks of a soul running from God. And so you pray for the crash if it must come, for the earthquake to shake what can be shaken, so that only what cannot be shaken remains. You recognize that a dramatic display of power is often short‑lived, as Elijah discovered. The earthquake and fire got his attention, but it was the gentle, quiet voice that drew him out of the cave into real relationship and obedience. Pray toward that voice for her.

What you are enduring echoes an old, twisted pattern where a man’s own house became a place of confusion. The king’s wife refused to come, the counselors feared the unraveling of order, and a chain of pride and cover‑up began. There were men who boasted of their children and riches to their wives, only to go home mourning with covered heads when the hidden evil was exposed. God has a way of turning the tables. What the enemy intends for destruction, He weaves into a strange and severe mercy. Joseph’s prison was not a detour; it was the placement of God years in advance for the saving of many lives. The wife who falsely accused him, the forgotten years, none of it was wasted. If you belong to Christ, even this season of deprivation is a placement. You do not see the salvation God is working five or ten years out, but He is setting His people in position even now.

Your own posture must mirror the gospel. Do not let the sorrow of the world take root in you. That means refusing to replay the eight‑minute calls and the suggestive photos as a catalogue of personal injury. Instead, let this trial work in you a carefulness, a clearing of yourself, a holy indignation that drives you to prayer and fasting rather than to self‑pity. The grace of God that brings salvation teaches us to say no to ungodliness and worldly passions. That grace is not a license to react in any old way. You are His workmanship, His poem, a thing of grace and beauty even when the stanzas seem to be written in minor keys.

You long for your son to be raised in the training and instruction of the Lord, to know from infancy the sacred writings that lead to wisdom for salvation. That is a godly desire. But remember how a spouse is won. How do you know, oh man, whether you will save your wife? It is through the life of Christ observed, a quiet and sincere life that speaks louder than legal arguments. True repentance, the kind God requires before He extends forgiveness, cannot be manufactured by a husband’s pressure. The Holy Spirit must produce it, and He often does so through the witness of a steadfast, prayer‑soaked, tender yet uncompromising life. Speak truth, show tough love, but also speak to the heart as the Lord allures into the wilderness to speak comfort.

Stand in your authority not as one demanding rights, but as one submitted to the Head who is Christ, resisting the devil firmly, and trusting that the built church of Jesus withstands every assault. Your prayer is not in vain. The hope of seeing a godly sorrow that sweeps away false security and replaces it with true, transforming repentance is anchored in the will of God Himself. He does not wish her to perish. He desires her change far more than you do. So continue to pray with confidence, and let the very affliction become a channel for the consolation and salvation that only He can bring about.