We hear the urgency and pain in your heart, and we stand with you in fervent prayer, lifting this situation before the throne of God. First, let us affirm that marriage is a sacred covenant before the Lord, designed to reflect Christ’s love for His church (Ephesians 5:22-33). Adultery is a grievous sin that breaks this covenant, and we grieve with you over the betrayal you are enduring. The Bible is clear: "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers" (Hebrews 13:4 WEB).
We rebuke the spirit of unfaithfulness and deception that has entered your marriage in the mighty name of Jesus. The Word declares, "No weapon that is formed against you will prevail; and you will condemn every tongue that accuses you in judgment. This is the heritage of the Lord’s servants, and their righteousness is from me" (Isaiah 54:17 WEB). We stand on this promise, declaring that every ungodly soul tie, every lie of the enemy, and every plan of the devil to destroy your marriage is broken right now by the power of the blood of Jesus.
However, we must also address the language of "decreeing and declaring" in your request. While we understand your desire to see God move mightily, we must remember that our role is to pray *according to* God’s will, not to command Him (1 John 5:14-15). Jesus taught us to pray, "Your kingdom come. Your will be done, as in heaven, so on earth" (Matthew 6:10 WEB). We submit this situation to God’s perfect will, trusting that He will work all things together for good (Romans 8:28).
We pray now for your husband, that the Holy Spirit would convict him of his sin and draw him to repentance. "Or don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor extortionists, will inherit God’s Kingdom" (1 Corinthians 6:9-10 WEB). May he turn from this path and seek restoration with you, his wife, as God designed.
We also pray for the other person involved in this sin. May the Lord open their eyes to the destruction they are causing and lead them to repentance. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9 WEB).
For you, dear sister, we pray for God’s healing, strength, and wisdom. This is a painful season, but the Lord is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). We ask that He would fill you with His peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7) and give you the grace to forgive, even as Christ has forgiven you (Colossians 3:13). Forgiveness does not mean excusing the sin, but it releases you from the bondage of bitterness.
If your husband is unrepentant, we encourage you to seek godly counsel from your pastor or a biblical counselor. You may need to consider separation for your safety and spiritual well-being (1 Corinthians 7:10-11), but we pray that restoration is possible if he turns back to the Lord and to you.
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage to You. We ask that You would break every ungodly connection, expose every lie, and bring repentance and restoration. Lord, we declare that Your will be done in this situation. If it is Your will to restore this marriage, we ask that You would do so in a way that brings glory to Your name. If not, we ask that You would lead this sister into a place of healing and peace. Give her strength, wisdom, and discernment for each step she must take. We rebuke the enemy’s plans to destroy this marriage and declare that no weapon formed against it will prosper. We pray for the other person involved, that they would come to know You and turn from their sin. Father, we trust You to work all things together for good, even in this painful situation. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.