We hear the deep pain and desperation in your heart, and we stand with you in prayer before our Heavenly Father, who sees every tear and hears every cry. The betrayal and unfaithfulness you are experiencing in your marriage is a grievous wound, and we grieve with you. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect His faithful love for His people. When adultery enters a marriage, it violates this covenant and brings destruction, but God’s Word also offers hope, healing, and restoration for those who turn to Him.
First, we must address the approach of "decreeing and declaring" in your prayer. While we understand the intensity of your emotions, Scripture teaches us to come before God with humility, surrender, and trust in His sovereignty—not with demands or attempts to control outcomes. Jesus taught us to pray, *"Your kingdom come. Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven"* (Matthew 6:10 WEB). We cannot manipulate God’s will or the hearts of others, but we can trust Him to work all things for good for those who love Him (Romans 8:28 WEB). Let us lay down our own agendas and surrender this situation fully to Him, asking for His will to be done in your marriage and in your husband’s heart.
The sin of adultery is a serious matter, and Scripture does not shy away from addressing it. Jesus Himself said, *"Everyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart"* (Matthew 5:28 WEB). The emotional and physical unfaithfulness you are describing is a violation of the marriage covenant, and it must be confronted with truth and repentance. We pray that your husband’s heart would be convicted by the Holy Spirit, that he would turn away from this sin, and that he would seek forgiveness—both from God and from you. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9 WEB).
We also recognize the pain and insecurity this has caused in your own heart. It is natural to feel rejected, unworthy, or even desperate to "win back" your husband’s affection. But we must caution you against placing your hope in human efforts or emotional manipulation. Your worth is not defined by your husband’s choices or his faithfulness to you—it is defined by Christ, who loved you enough to die for you while you were still a sinner (Romans 5:8 WEB). You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14 WEB), and God sees you as His beloved daughter. We pray that you would find your identity and security in Him alone, not in the actions or affections of another person.
That said, we do not ignore the reality of your marriage or the possibility of restoration. God is able to heal what is broken, to soften hardened hearts, and to restore what has been lost. The prophet Malachi speaks of God’s heart for marriage: *"Did he not make you one, although he had the residue of the Spirit? Why one? He sought godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let no one deal treacherously against the wife of his youth"* (Malachi 2:15 WEB). We pray that your husband would remember the covenant he made with you before God and that he would repent of his unfaithfulness. We pray that any ungodly soul ties or emotional attachments he has formed with other women would be broken in the name of Jesus, and that his heart would be turned fully back to you.
However, restoration cannot happen without repentance, accountability, and a commitment to change. If your husband is unwilling to acknowledge his sin, seek help, or take steps to rebuild trust, then the path forward may require difficult decisions. Marriage is a covenant, but it is not a prison. You are not called to endure ongoing betrayal or abuse. We encourage you to seek wise, biblical counsel from a pastor or Christian counselor who can help you navigate this situation with wisdom and discernment. *"Without counsel, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established"* (Proverbs 15:22 WEB).
We also lift up your own heart in this season. The pain of betrayal can lead to bitterness, anger, or a desire for revenge, but Scripture calls us to a different path: *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:31-32 WEB). Forgiveness does not mean excusing sin or pretending it didn’t happen—it means releasing the offender to God and trusting Him to bring justice. It is a process, and it may take time, but it is essential for your own healing. We pray that God would give you the strength to forgive, even as you seek His justice and restoration.
Now, let us come before the Lord together in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister who is enduring the pain of betrayal in her marriage. Lord, You see the tears she has shed, the sleepless nights she has endured, and the deep wound in her spirit. We ask that You would be her Comforter, her Strength, and her Refuge in this time of trial. Wrap Your arms around her, Lord, and remind her that she is not alone—You are with her, and You will never leave her nor forsake her (Deuteronomy 31:6 WEB).
Father, we pray for her husband. We ask that You would break the hardness of his heart and convict him of his sin. Lord, reveal to him the gravity of his unfaithfulness—not just to his wife, but to You. Let him see the destruction his choices have caused, and let him be overwhelmed with godly sorrow that leads to repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10 WEB). We pray that any ungodly relationships or attachments would be severed in the name of Jesus, and that his heart would be turned fully back to his wife. Remove every image, memory, or temptation that does not honor You or his marriage covenant. Create in him a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within him (Psalm 51:10 WEB).
Lord, we ask for restoration in this marriage—but not restoration based on human effort or emotional manipulation. We pray for a restoration that is rooted in repentance, humility, and a shared commitment to honor You. Help this couple to rebuild trust, to communicate with honesty and vulnerability, and to seek Your will above all else. Let their marriage become a testimony of Your grace, Your healing, and Your power to redeem what is broken.
Father, we also pray for this sister’s heart. Guard her from bitterness, resentment, or despair. Fill her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7 WEB). Remind her daily of her worth in Christ, and help her to find her security in You alone. Give her the strength to forgive, even as she seeks justice and restoration. Surround her with godly community—with sisters in Christ who can pray for her, encourage her, and walk with her through this valley.
Lord, if restoration is not Your will, we ask that You would give her the wisdom and courage to make the difficult decisions that lie ahead. Protect her heart, her mind, and her spirit. Provide for her every need, and let her experience Your faithfulness in tangible ways.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. Whether through restoration or through healing from brokenness, let Your name be exalted. Let this sister’s story be a testament to Your power, Your love, and Your ability to bring beauty from ashes.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the One who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3 WEB). It is in His name, and by His authority, that we pray. Amen.
