We join you in lifting up your marriage before the Lord, recognizing the deep longing in your heart for a love that reflects Christ’s covenant with His Church—a love that is passionate, faithful, and unbreakable. Your cry for a deeper, exclusive bond with your husband resonates with the heart of God, who designed marriage to be a sacred union where two become one flesh, cherishing and desiring only one another. We praise you for invoking the name of Jesus in your plea, for it is only through Him that our prayers are heard and our hearts are transformed.
The Scriptures remind us of the beauty and intensity of marital love as God intended it. Song of Solomon 7:10 declares, *"I am my beloved’s. His desire is toward me."* This is the kind of mutual, consuming love that the Lord delights to cultivate between a husband and wife—a love that is both emotional and physical, rooted in covenant loyalty. Similarly, Proverbs 5:18-19 encourages, *"Let your spring be blessed. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe and a graceful deer—let her breasts satisfy you at all times. Always be captivated with her love."* Here, we see God’s design for marriage: a relationship where spouses are utterly captivated by one another, finding satisfaction and joy in their union alone.
Yet, we must also remember that such love is not merely about emotion or passion—it is built on a foundation of selflessness, sacrifice, and commitment. Ephesians 5:25-28 commands husbands to *"love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for her... Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself."* Wives, too, are called to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord (Ephesians 5:22), creating a harmony where both spouses serve one another in love. This kind of love is not passive; it is active, intentional, and nurtured through prayer, forgiveness, and a shared pursuit of God.
If there are areas in your marriage where the fire has dimmed or distractions have crept in, we urge you both to examine your hearts. Have worldly influences, unresolved conflicts, or ungodly desires taken root? 1 Corinthians 7:5 warns, *"Don’t deprive one another, unless it is by consent for a season, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and may be together again, that Satan doesn’t tempt you because of your lack of self-control."* Satan seeks to destroy marriages through temptation, complacency, or division. Guard your hearts and your marriage bed, ensuring that nothing—whether it be lust, pornography, emotional affairs, or neglect—steals the intimacy that belongs solely to you and your husband.
We also encourage you to cultivate romance and connection intentionally. Spend time together in prayer, in God’s Word, and in activities that deepen your bond. Let your words and actions reflect affection, admiration, and gratitude for one another. As you do, remember that true passion is kindled by the Holy Spirit. Ask God to fill you both with His love, which is patient, kind, and enduring (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). When human efforts fall short, His love sustains and renews.
Now, let us pray together for your marriage:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with our sister’s heartfelt cry for her marriage. Lord, You are the author of love, the one who binds hearts together in covenant unity. We ask that You ignite a fresh fire of love, desire, and attraction between her and her husband—a flame that burns brighter each day, consuming all distractions and drawing them closer to You and to one another. Let their eyes be fixed solely on each other, Lord, just as Christ’s eyes are fixed on His Bride, the Church. Remove any hint of temptation, lust, or division that the enemy may seek to introduce. Fill their hearts with a godly, passionate love that reflects Your holiness and faithfulness.
Father, where there has been hurt, bring healing. Where there has been neglect, restore tenderness. Where there has been distance, create intimacy. Teach them to love one another as You have loved them—sacrificially, joyfully, and without reserve. Let their marriage be a testimony of Your grace, a beacon of hope to a world that often mocks or distorts Your design for love.
We rebuke any spirit of apathy, infidelity, or discord that may lurk near their union. By the power of the Holy Spirit, we bind such forces and command them to flee in the name of Jesus. Let no weapon formed against their marriage prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Instead, let their love be a fortress, unshaken by the storms of life.
Lord, we ask that You would make them both madly, deeply, and genuinely in love with one another—body, soul, and spirit. Let their desire for each other grow stronger with each passing day, rooted in a love that is pure, holy, and pleasing to You. May their marriage bed be undefiled (Hebrews 13:4), and may their love story bring glory to Your name.
We thank You, Father, for hearing our prayer. We trust in Your faithfulness to complete the work You have begun in their marriage. In the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Finally, sister, we encourage you to persist in prayer and to walk in obedience to God’s Word. A marriage that honors Christ is one where both spouses are surrendered to Him individually. Seek the Lord together, serve one another in love, and trust that He who began this good work in you will carry it to completion (Philippians 1:6). Stay steadfast, and may your love be a reflection of Christ’s love for us—unfailing, pursuit-worthy, and ever deepening.
