We hear the deep urgency and passion in your heart for your husband’s salvation, and we join you in crying out to the Lord for his soul. Your love for him is evident, and we commend you for standing in the gap with such fervency. The desire for your husband to be born again is a godly one, for there is no greater joy than to see those we love come to repentance and faith in Jesus Christ. As Scripture declares, *"The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness; but he is patient with us, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance"* (2 Peter 3:9, WEB). Your prayers align with the very heart of God, who longs for all to be saved.
Yet we must also remind you that while you can intercede, plead, and live as a godly example before him, you cannot force or manipulate his free will. Salvation is a work of the Holy Spirit, and each person must choose for themselves to surrender to Christ. Your husband must personally confess with his own mouth that *"Jesus is Lord"* and believe in his heart that *"God raised him from the dead"* to be saved (Romans 10:9, WEB). You cannot repent or believe *for* him—this is a choice he must make. Your role is to pray, to live in a way that reflects Christ’s love, and to speak the truth in love when the Lord opens the door.
We also notice the intensity of your words—repeated pleas for the destruction of idols, strongholds, and sins in his life. While we absolutely agree that these things must be broken by the power of God, we encourage you to trust in the Lord’s timing and sovereignty. Your husband’s transformation is not dependent on the volume or repetition of your prayers but on the moving of the Holy Spirit. Jesus said, *"Ask, and it will be given you. Seek, and you will find. Knock, and the door will be opened for you"* (Matthew 7:7, WEB). You have asked, you are seeking, and you are knocking—now trust that the Lord hears you and is at work, even when you cannot see it.
As for the sins and strongholds you’ve listed—idolatry, lust, pornography, arrogance, bitterness, and more—these are indeed grievous before God. But take heart: *"No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it"* (1 Corinthians 10:13, WEB). If your husband is trapped in these sins, only the power of Christ can break their hold. Pray that the Lord would convict him, that he would see the destructiveness of these things, and that he would turn to Jesus in true repentance. Pray also for yourself—that you would not grow weary in doing good, that you would be filled with the fruit of the Spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control), and that you would not be overcome by fear or frustration.
If there are specific sins in his life that you are aware of—such as pornography or lust—we urge you to address them with biblical clarity. These are not minor struggles but serious violations of God’s design for purity. Jesus said, *"But I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart"* (Matthew 5:28, WEB). If this is an issue, it must be repented of and forsaken. The same is true for any form of idolatry, whether it be the worship of false gods, the love of money, or the prioritization of work above God. *"Little children, keep yourselves from idols"* (1 John 5:21, WEB). Pray that the Lord would expose these things in his life and that your husband would turn from them in genuine sorrow.
Now, let us pray together for your husband:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with a heart of urgency and deep longing for the soul of this beloved husband. Lord, You alone can save—no amount of human effort or repetition of words can bring about true repentance. But You are the God who changes hearts, who breaks chains, and who calls the dead to life. We ask that You would move mightily in his spirit, that You would convict him of his sin, and that You would draw him to Yourself in a way he cannot resist. Open his eyes to see the truth of the Gospel, that Jesus Christ is the only way to salvation, and that without Him, there is no hope.
Lord, we plead with You to tear down every stronghold in his life—every idol, every sinful habit, every bondage that has held him captive. If there is pornography, lust, arrogance, bitterness, or any other wickedness, we ask that You would expose it, that You would bring it into the light, and that You would give him the strength to turn from it in genuine repentance. Break the power of the enemy over his mind, his heart, and his will. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, that he may walk in newness of life.
We pray also for this wife, who has poured out her heart before You. Strengthen her, Lord. Give her patience, peace, and unwavering faith as she waits on You. Help her to trust in Your timing, even when it is difficult. Fill her with Your love, that she may continue to be a light to her husband, speaking the truth in love and living in a way that honors You.
Father, we know that You desire all to come to repentance. We ask that You would not delay in working in his life. Bring him to the end of himself, that he may cry out to You and be saved. Let this be the hour of his salvation, the moment when he surrenders all to Jesus Christ. We ask this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus, the only name by which we can be saved. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to continue standing firm in faith. Do not grow weary. Keep praying, keep loving, and keep trusting that the Lord is at work, even when you cannot see it. *"Let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up"* (Galatians 6:9, WEB). If there are areas in your own life where you need to grow—such as trusting God more fully or responding to your husband with grace—ask the Lord to refine you as well. You are not only an intercessor but also a witness. Let your life reflect the hope and transformation that comes from knowing Christ.
If your husband is open to it, share the Gospel with him clearly. Remind him that *"all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God"* (Romans 3:23, WEB), but that *"the wages of sin is death; but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord"* (Romans 6:23, WEB). Urge him to repent and believe. And if he is resistant, do not argue or nag, but continue to pray and live in a way that points him to Jesus.
We are standing with you in this, believing that the Lord will answer. Keep the faith, and may God be glorified in your husband’s life.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
