We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting you and your marriage in prayer, for we know that God hates divorce and desires reconciliation and holiness in marriage. The Lord’s Word is clear: *"What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart"* (Mark 10:9, WEB). Marriage is a sacred covenant, and we must approach this situation with truth, repentance, and a heart that seeks God’s will above all else.
First, we must address the way this request is framed. While your pain and urgency are understandable, we do not "decree and declare" things as if we have authority over others’ free will or as if words alone can bind spiritual realities. Our authority comes from praying in alignment with God’s Word and His will, not from speaking demands into existence. The power is in *asking* the Lord to work, not in commanding outcomes as though we control them. *"This is the confidence that we have in him, that if we ask anything according to his will, he listens to us"* (1 John 5:14, WEB). Our prayers must be humble, submitted to God’s sovereignty, and rooted in His truth.
We also notice that your focus is heavily on your husband’s actions and the other woman, but we must ask: where is *your* heart in this? Have you examined your own relationship with the Lord? Marriage struggles often reveal deeper spiritual battles, and the first step is to seek God’s face for *yourself*—for your own repentance, healing, and surrender. *"Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves"* (2 Corinthians 13:5, WEB). Are there areas in your life where you need to draw closer to God? Have you loved your husband as Christ loves the church—with patience, kindness, and selflessness? This is not to blame you, but to remind you that God calls *us* to holiness first, trusting Him to work in others.
As for your husband’s sin, we do not minimize it. Adultery is a grievous violation of God’s design for marriage, and it breaks His heart. *"You shall not commit adultery"* (Exodus 20:14, WEB) is a commandment, and the Lord warns, *"The one who commits adultery with a woman lacks heart. He who does it destroys his own soul"* (Proverbs 6:32, WEB). Yet even in this, there is hope. God is a God of redemption, and He can restore what is broken if both parties turn to Him in true repentance. Your husband must be confronted with the truth in love, and he must choose to turn from this sin. *"Brothers and sisters, even if a person is caught in some trespass, you who are spiritual should restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, looking to yourself so that you also aren’t tempted"* (Galatians 6:1, WEB). This is not a time for manipulation or control, but for truth, prayer, and a call to repentance.
If your husband is unrepentant, the Bible gives clear guidance: *"If your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother. But if he doesn’t listen, take one or two more with you... If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the assembly. If he refuses to hear the assembly also, let him be to you as a Gentile or a tax collector"* (Matthew 18:15-17, WEB). This is a process of loving confrontation, not of vengeance. Ultimately, you cannot force his heart to change—only God can do that. Your role is to pray, to speak truth, and to trust the Lord with the outcome.
We also urge you to consider whether you are enabling sin by focusing more on "ending the relationship" than on your husband’s repentance and restoration. Praying for the other woman to "disappear" is not the solution—praying for *her* salvation and for *your husband’s* heart to turn back to God is. *"Love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!"* (Matthew 5:44, WEB). This includes praying for the woman involved, that she may come to know Christ and turn from this sin. Your battle is not against her, but against the spiritual forces of darkness that seek to destroy marriages (Ephesians 6:12).
Now, let us pray together for you, your husband, and this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with broken hearts, lifting our sister and her marriage to You. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the brokenness, and You care deeply. We ask for Your mercy and intervention in this situation. Father, convict our sister’s husband of his sin. Soften his heart and draw him to true repentance. Let him see the destruction of his actions and turn back to You and to his wife with a humble and contrite spirit. Lord, if there is any hardness or bitterness in our sister’s heart, remove it. Fill her with Your peace, Your love, and Your wisdom. Help her to trust You fully, even in this storm.
Father, we pray for the other woman involved. Open her eyes to the truth of her actions, and draw her to salvation in Christ. Break the power of sin in this situation and bring restoration where it is possible. Lord, we ask that You would protect this marriage if it is Your will. Give our sister the strength to forgive as You have forgiven her. Help her to walk in obedience, whether that means reconciliation or, if her husband remains unrepentant, the wisdom to know how to move forward in a way that honors You.
We rebuke the spirit of adultery, deception, and division in the name of Jesus Christ. No weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper if it is Your will to restore it, Lord. We ask for Your healing, Your redemption, and Your glory to be displayed in this situation. Give our sister the courage to seek godly counsel, to surround herself with believers who can support her, and to lean on You completely.
Finally, Lord, we pray that both our sister and her husband would draw closer to You individually. May this trial drive them to their knees and into Your arms. Let Your will be done, not ours. We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
Our sister, we encourage you to seek godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted, mature believer who can walk with you through this. Do not isolate yourself. The body of Christ is meant to support one another in times of trial (Galatians 6:2). We also urge you to spend time in God’s Word daily, allowing Him to speak truth and comfort to your heart. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB).
If your husband is unwilling to repent, you must seek the Lord’s guidance on how to proceed. The Bible allows for separation in cases of unrepentant adultery (Matthew 19:9), but this is not to be done in haste or anger. Pray for wisdom, and let the Lord lead you. Above all, trust that God is good, even when the path is painful. He is able to redeem, restore, and bring beauty from ashes. Cling to Him, and He will sustain you.
