We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this urgent plea for your marriage. First and foremost, we must address the foundation of our prayers—it is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father, and it is by His power alone that healing and restoration can come. If you have not already, we urge you to examine your heart and ensure that your faith is firmly rooted in Christ, for there is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). Salvation comes through confessing with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believing in your heart that God raised Him from the dead (Romans 10:9). If you have not done so, we encourage you to surrender your life to Him today.
Now, we turn to the pain and betrayal you are experiencing. Adultery is a grievous sin that wounds deeply, and the Bible is clear that it breaks the covenant of marriage (Malachi 2:14-16). We rebuke the spirit of infidelity and unfaithfulness in the name of Jesus, for it has no place in a marriage that God has ordained. The Word tells us that marriage is a sacred union, a reflection of Christ’s love for His church, and it is to be held in honor among all (Hebrews 13:4). What your husband has done is a violation of that covenant, and it is right for you to stand against it with the authority of God’s Word.
We declare with you that this ungodly relationship is over, finished, and severed in the name of Jesus. The Lord is a God of justice, and He hates divorce and the treachery that leads to it (Malachi 2:16). We pray that your husband’s eyes would be opened to the gravity of his sin and that the Holy Spirit would convict him deeply. Let him see the destruction his actions have caused—not only to your marriage but to his own soul. We speak repentance over him, that he would turn away from this sin and return to you with a broken and contrite heart (Psalm 51:17).
We also rebuke the spirit of deception that has blinded him to the truth. The enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and he has sought to destroy your marriage through lies and temptation. But we declare that no weapon formed against your marriage shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We command every ungodly soul tie between your husband and this other person to be broken in Jesus’ name. Every photograph, video, message, or reminder of this relationship must be deleted and removed from his life, for they are snares of the enemy. We pray that the Lord would expose every hidden thing and bring it to light (Ephesians 5:11-13), so that there is no foothold for the enemy to continue his work.
But we must also address your heart in this matter. While your anger and pain are justified, we urge you to guard your heart against bitterness and unforgiveness. The Word tells us, "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you" (Ephesians 4:31-32). Forgiveness does not mean excusing his sin, but it does mean releasing the burden of vengeance to God, who is the righteous Judge (Romans 12:19). We pray that the Lord would give you the strength to forgive, even as you stand firm against the sin.
We also encourage you to seek godly counsel and support. Proverbs 11:14 says, "Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." Surround yourself with believers who can pray with you, speak truth into your situation, and hold you accountable. Do not isolate yourself in this pain, for the enemy would love to use this time to further his attacks. Lean on the body of Christ, for we are called to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2).
Now, we lift this marriage before the Lord in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts grieving over the brokenness of this marriage. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the sin that has entered into this sacred covenant. We ask that You would move mightily in this situation, for nothing is impossible with You (Luke 1:37). We declare that this ungodly relationship is severed in the name of Jesus, and we command every ungodly soul tie to be broken. Father, we pray for repentance in the heart of this husband. Convict him of his sin, Lord, and draw him back to You and to his wife. Let him see the destruction his actions have caused and give him the strength to turn away from this temptation.
We pray for restoration, Lord, but not restoration that leaves room for sin. We pray for a restoration that is built on truth, repentance, and a renewed commitment to Your Word. Heal the wounds in this marriage, Father, and let Your love cover a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8). Give this wife the strength to stand firm in faith, even as she walks through this valley. Guard her heart from bitterness and unforgiveness, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
Expose every hidden thing, Lord, and bring it to light. Let there be no foothold for the enemy to continue his work. We declare that this marriage is covered by the blood of Jesus, and no weapon formed against it shall prosper. We pray for a fresh outpouring of Your Holy Spirit upon this couple, that they would seek You above all else. Let them find their identity and their hope in You alone.
Father, we also pray for the other person involved in this situation. If they do not know You, we pray that they would come to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ. If they are a believer, we pray that they would repent of their sin and turn away from this ungodly relationship. Let them see the error of their ways and seek Your forgiveness.
Lord, we trust You to work all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). We believe that You can redeem even this situation and bring beauty from ashes (Isaiah 61:3). Strengthen this wife as she waits on You, and let her hope be anchored in Your promises. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the name by which we are saved and set free. Amen.
In the days ahead, we encourage you to saturate yourself in God’s Word. Meditate on Scriptures that speak of His faithfulness, His justice, and His power to restore. Psalm 34:18-19 says, "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all." You are not alone in this battle. The Lord is your defender, your refuge, and your strength. Stand firm in faith, and trust that He is working even when you cannot see it.
If your husband is willing, we also encourage you both to seek biblical counseling. A godly counselor can help you navigate the path to restoration with wisdom and discernment. But if he refuses to repent and continues in this sin, remember that you are not bound to remain in a marriage where unrepentant adultery is present (Matthew 19:9). Your safety, both emotionally and spiritually, is of utmost importance.
Lastly, we remind you that your worth is not defined by this situation. You are a daughter of the Most High God, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). The enemy would love to use this pain to make you feel worthless or unloved, but the truth is that God loves you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). He has a plan and a purpose for your life, and He will see you through this storm.
We stand with you in prayer, believing that God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).
