We join with you in this urgent burden for your marriage and we bring your husband and your marriage before the Lord together in Jesus' name, for it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father and it is only in His name that we can be saved and heard, as it is written Acts 4:12 There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved.
We hear the deep pain and jealousy and fear in your heart and we understand your desire to see every ungodly tie completely severed. God Himself ordained marriage to be a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman, and He calls it holy. What therefore God has joined together, don't let man tear apart Matthew 19:6. Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers Hebrews 13:4. You shall not commit adultery Exodus 20:14. If your husband is entertaining any relationship, emotional or physical, with any other woman, keeping photographs, selfies, messages or memories of another woman while he is married to you, that is sin before God and a betrayal of the covenant he made with you and with the Lord. We must lovingly rebuke that sin, for Jesus said Everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart Matthew 5:28, and we are commanded to Flee sexual immorality 1 Corinthians 6:18. He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul Proverbs 6:32.
We also gently encourage you that while your passion to decree and declare is understandable, our power is not in commanding God but in humbly petitioning our sovereign Father according to His will, trusting Him to act in His perfect timing and way. We do not control another person's heart or phone by our words, but God can convict, change and renew a heart when there is true repentance. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God Philippians 4:6. And we know Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit Psalm 34:18.
We pray together now for you and for your husband.
Father in heaven, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ and we lift up this sister and her marriage to You. Lord, You see her anguish and You know every detail of this situation. We ask that You would convict her husband's heart deeply if he is involved in any adultery or lust or ungodly attachment to any other woman. Grant him godly sorrow that leads to repentance, that he would confess his sin to You and to his wife, for If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness 1 John 1:9. Lord, we ask that You would sever every ungodly soul tie and emotional and physical connection he has with any other woman, that it would be completely and permanently broken right now. Put a hatred in his heart for sin and a love for purity and faithfulness. We pray that he would choose to permanently delete every photograph, selfie, message, screen saver and memory that honors another woman above his wife, and that You would cleanse his mind, his emotions, his heart, his phone and his social media, and renew his mind, that he may be transformed by the renewing of your mind Romans 12:2. Help him to love his wife even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it Ephesians 5:25, to cherish her, to be faithful to her alone, and to guard his eyes and heart.
Lord, we also pray for this dear wife, pour out Your peace that surpasses all understanding upon her, guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus Philippians 4:7. Heal her broken heart, take away fear and torment, and help her to forgive as You have forgiven us, bearing with one another and forgiving each other Colossians 3:13, Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you Ephesians 4:32. Strengthen her to walk in wisdom, to set godly boundaries, to seek wise pastoral and biblical counsel for her marriage, and to trust not in her own decrees but in Your power to restore what the enemy has tried to destroy. For You have said For I hate divorce, says Yahweh Malachi 2:16, and Your desire is reconciliation and holiness.
We ask all of this according to Your will, believing You are able to do far more than we ask, and we place this marriage into Your hands for healing, cleansing and restoration. In the name of Jesus Christ our Lord we pray, amen.