We hear your desperate cry and the deep longing of your heart for your husband, ###. Your words reveal a profound desire for unity, love, and blessing in your marriage, and we stand with you in lifting this before the Lord. However, we must first address some critical matters with love and truth, for the sake of your marriage and your walk with God.
First, we must emphasize that your prayer must be grounded in the name of Jesus Christ, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). There is no other name by which we can be saved or by which our prayers are heard (Acts 4:12). If you have not already, we urge you to surrender your life to Jesus, confessing Him as Lord and believing in your heart that God raised Him from the dead (Romans 10:9). Without this foundation, our prayers lack the power and authority that come from being in Christ.
Now, regarding your marriage, we rejoice in your commitment to ### and your desire to be a godly wife. The Bible calls wives to submit to their husbands as to the Lord, and husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:22-25). This is a beautiful and sacred covenant, designed by God for mutual love, respect, and companionship. However, we must also address a concern in your prayer: the intensity of your desire to be everything to your husband in *every* way may unintentionally reflect a heart that is seeking fulfillment in your husband rather than in God. While it is good to love and serve your husband, your ultimate fulfillment and identity must come from Christ alone (Colossians 2:10). If your husband becomes the source of your joy, peace, or purpose, you risk idolatry, which the Lord detests (Exodus 20:3-5).
We also notice the repetition of "total" and "absolute" in your prayer, which may reveal a heart that is striving for control or perfection in your own strength. The Bible tells us that our sufficiency is from God, not ourselves (2 Corinthians 3:5). Instead of trying to be everything to your husband, focus on being a wife who walks in the Spirit, displaying the fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). These qualities will bless your husband far more than any human effort to meet every need.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can approach Your throne. Lord, we lift up this marriage to You, asking that You would be the foundation and center of it. Father, we pray for ### and his wife, that their love for one another would be rooted in their love for You. Help them to seek You first in all things, knowing that when they do, all other things will be added unto them (Matthew 6:33).
Lord, we ask that You would fill this wife with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in wisdom, humility, and grace. Teach her to love ### as You love the church, with a selfless and sacrificial love (Ephesians 5:25). Guard her heart from idolatry, Lord, and help her to find her identity and worth in You alone. May she be a wife who encourages ### in his walk with You, supporting him in prayer and godly counsel.
Father, we pray for ### as well. Soften his heart to love his wife as Christ loves the church. Help him to lead his family with wisdom, humility, and a deep reverence for You. May their marriage be a testimony of Your love and faithfulness to the world around them.
Lord, we rebuke any spirit of striving, control, or perfectionism in this marriage. We declare that Your grace is sufficient, and Your power is made perfect in weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). May this couple find their rest in You, trusting that You will guide and provide for them in every way.
We also pray for healing in any areas of their marriage that may be broken or strained. Restore what has been lost, Lord, and bring unity, peace, and joy into their home. May their marriage be a reflection of Christ and the church, a beacon of hope and love in a world that desperately needs You.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Beloved, we encourage you to shift your focus from trying to be everything to your husband to simply being a wife who loves God and trusts Him to work in your marriage. Surrender your desires, fears, and expectations to Him, and allow Him to shape you into the woman He has called you to be. Remember, it is not your effort that will make your marriage thrive, but God's grace and power working in and through you.
Continue to pray for your husband, but also pray for yourself—that God would fill you with His love, peace, and wisdom. Seek Him daily through His Word and in prayer, and trust that He will guide your steps. Your marriage is a sacred covenant, and God is faithful to complete the good work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6). Walk in faith, dear sister, and watch how the Lord moves in your life and in your marriage.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
