We hear the deep longing in your heart for your husband’s affection, devotion, and spiritual transformation, and we understand the urgency with which you bring this request. Your desire for him to know Christ as his Savior and to love you wholeheartedly is a noble one, rooted in a longing for godly unity in marriage. However, we must gently but firmly address some concerns in your prayer to ensure it aligns with biblical truth and a posture of surrender to God’s will rather than an attempt to manipulate or control another person’s heart or salvation.
First, salvation is a deeply personal and sovereign work of the Holy Spirit in a person’s life. While we are called to pray for the salvation of others—and indeed, we should—we cannot *make* someone repent, believe, or love us in the way we desire. The apostle Paul reminds us in **1 Corinthians 7:16**, *“For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?”* Our role is to live in obedience to Christ, pray fervently, and trust God to work in His timing and way. Your husband’s salvation is ultimately between him and God, and no amount of decreeing or declaring can force his heart to submit to Christ. That is the work of the Holy Spirit alone.
Second, your prayer repeatedly focuses on *making* your husband feel, desire, and act in specific ways toward you—even to the point of declaring he will have “eyes for you only” and be “madly in love” with you above all others. While it is natural to desire your spouse’s love and fidelity, we must be cautious not to treat prayer as a means of controlling another person’s emotions or actions. **Proverbs 19:14** tells us, *“House and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from Yahweh.”* A godly marriage is built on mutual love, respect, and submission to Christ—not on one spouse demanding or manipulating the other’s affections. Your focus should be on asking God to *transform you* into the wife He calls you to be, trusting that He will work in your husband’s heart as you honor Him.
Third, the repetitive and almost incantation-like nature of your prayer risks reducing prayer to a formula rather than a humble, relational dialogue with God. **Matthew 6:7-8** warns us, *“In praying, don’t use vain repetitions as the Gentiles do; for they think that they will be heard for their much speaking. Therefore don’t be like them, for your Father knows what things you need before you ask him.”* God is not moved by the volume or repetition of our words but by the sincerity of our hearts. Instead of declaring outcomes, we are called to surrender our desires to God’s will, trusting that He knows what is best for both you and your husband.
Finally, your prayer does not explicitly acknowledge God’s sovereignty or submit to His will. While you invoke the name of Jesus, the tone leans heavily toward demanding specific emotional and relational outcomes rather than seeking God’s perfect plan—even if that plan looks different from what you envision. **James 4:13-15** reminds us, *“Come now, you who say, ‘Today or tomorrow let’s go into this city and spend a year there, trade, and make a profit!’ Whereas you don’t know what your life will be like tomorrow. For what is your life? For you are a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. Instead, you ought to say, ‘If the Lord wills, we will both live, and do this or that.’”* Our prayers must always be submitted to the Lord’s will, not our own.
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Let us pray together for you and your husband, asking God to work mightily in both of your hearts:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this sister and her marriage to You. Lord, we ask that You would first work in *her* heart, filling her with Your peace, patience, and trust in Your perfect timing. Help her to release the burden of trying to control or manipulate her husband’s emotions or salvation, and instead, surrender all things to You. Remind her that You are the God who sees her deepest longings (Genesis 16:13) and that You are faithful to complete the good work You have begun in her (Philippians 1:6).
Father, we pray for her husband’s salvation. Soften his heart to the conviction of the Holy Spirit. Draw him to Yourself, Lord, in a way that is undeniable and transformative. Let him encounter the love of Christ in such a powerful way that repentance and faith become his own sincere response—not because of any human effort, but because of Your grace (Ephesians 2:8-9). We ask that You would open his eyes to see his need for a Savior and turn to Jesus in faith.
Lord, we also pray for the marriage between this sister and her husband. Heal any brokenness, restore trust where it has been damaged, and help them both to love one another as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25). Give them a love that is patient, kind, and selfless (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). If there is any sin—whether it be idolatry of emotions, unforgiveness, or selfishness—convict them both and lead them to repentance. May their marriage be a reflection of Your covenant love, built on the foundation of Christ alone.
Father, we rebuke any spirit of fear, control, or desperation that may be at work in this situation. Fill this sister with Your Spirit, that she may walk in wisdom, grace, and godly confidence. Help her to fix her eyes on You, trusting that You are able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). May she find her identity and worth in You alone, not in her husband’s affections or responses.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise and glory. Amen.
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Sister, we encourage you to shift your focus from *demanding* outcomes to *trusting* God’s goodness. Spend time in His Word, seeking His face rather than His hand. Ask Him to reveal any areas in your own heart that need surrender or repentance. **1 Peter 3:1-2** says, *“In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word, seeing your pure behavior in fear.”* Your most powerful testimony to your husband is a life lived in obedience to Christ, marked by love, joy, peace, patience, and faith.
If there are areas of sin in your marriage—such as emotional or physical unfaithfulness, idolatry, or a lack of submission to God’s design for marriage—we urge you to address them biblically. Seek counsel from a mature, Bible-believing pastor or mentor who can walk with you in wisdom and accountability. Remember, God’s desire is for your holiness even more than your happiness. Trust that He is working all things together for your good and His glory (Romans 8:28).
Stand firm in faith, sister, and keep praying—but let your prayers be rooted in surrender, not control. God hears you, and He is faithful.
