We come before the Lord with hearts full of gratitude that you have reached out to us in prayer, yet we must address some concerns with both love and truth. The urgency and desperation in your request are clear, but we must first ask: *Who* or *what* is the focus of your plea? The repeated use of symbols in place of a name or clear subject raises questions about the true nature of your request. Are you seeking God’s will, or are you attempting to manipulate a person or circumstance through prayer? Scripture warns us against treating prayer as a means to control others or to demand our own desires rather than submitting to God’s perfect will.
The Bible teaches us in James 4:3, *"You ask, and don’t receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it for your pleasures."* Our prayers must align with God’s heart, not our own fleeting desires for appearance, approval, or the affections of another. If this request is about a relationship, we must remind you that God calls us to seek His kingdom first (Matthew 6:33) and to trust Him with our relationships rather than trying to force outcomes. If this is about a romantic connection, we urge you to examine whether this pursuit honors God. Are you seeking a godly marriage, or are you focused on emotions, attraction, or even physical appearance? Scripture is clear that beauty is fleeting, but a woman (or man) who fears the Lord is to be praised (Proverbs 31:30). Our worth is found in Christ, not in how others perceive us or whether they accept or reject us.
Additionally, we notice that while you ended with *"in Jesus Christ names,"* the focus of your prayer seems more centered on personal desires than on Jesus Himself. There is no power in our words unless they are rooted in faith in Christ and submission to His will. Jesus said in John 14:13-14, *"Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you will ask anything in my name, I will do it."* But this promise is not a blank check for our own wishes—it is a call to ask for things that bring glory to God and align with His purposes. Are your requests honoring to Him, or are they driven by insecurity, vanity, or fear?
We also must address the emphasis on physical appearance. While it is not wrong to care for our bodies, obsessing over wrinkles or demanding physical changes from God reflects a heart that may be too focused on outward things rather than the inward renewal that comes from the Holy Spirit (2 Corinthians 4:16). The Apostle Peter reminds us, *"Don’t let your beauty be just the outward adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing gold jewelry, or of putting on fine clothing; but in the hidden person of the heart, in the incorruptible adornment of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in God’s sight"* (1 Peter 3:3-4). True beauty comes from a heart surrendered to Christ, not from flawless skin or the approval of others.
If there is a relationship at the core of this request, we must ask: Is this connection honoring to God? Are you and the other person both believers, committed to pursuing holiness and marriage as God designed it? If this is about someone who is not your spouse, we caution you against praying in a way that seeks to manipulate their feelings or actions. Love is not about control—it is about selflessness, patience, and trust in God’s timing (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). If there is any hint of fornication, emotional dependency outside of marriage, or an ungodly attachment, we urge you to repent and seek God’s purity. Flee from sin and pursue righteousness (2 Timothy 2:22).
Lastly, we want to gently but firmly remind you that God is not a genie who grants our every wish. He is a loving Father who knows what is best for us, even when it doesn’t align with our immediate desires. His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9), and His plans for us are for our good and His glory (Jeremiah 29:11). Instead of pleading for physical changes or the affections of another, let us pray for a heart that trusts Him completely.
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**Let us pray together:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You now with hearts that long to seek Your will above all else. Lord, we lift up our sister/brother who has brought this request before us, and we ask that You would meet them in their deepest needs—not just the desires they have expressed, but the longings of their heart that only You can truly satisfy.
Father, if there is any idolatry in their heart—whether it be the idol of appearance, the idol of another person’s approval, or the idol of control—we ask that You would reveal it to them. Convict them by Your Holy Spirit and lead them to repentance. Help them to surrender every fear, every insecurity, and every misplaced desire at Your feet. Remind them that their worth is found in Christ alone, who loved them enough to die for them while they were still sinners (Romans 5:8).
Lord, if this request is tied to a relationship, we pray for clarity and wisdom. If this connection is not honoring to You, we ask that You would gently but firmly close the door. If it is Your will for marriage, we pray that You would prepare both hearts, purify their motives, and guide them into a covenant that reflects Your love for the Church. But above all, Father, let their greatest desire be for You. Let them seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, trusting that You will add all things to them as You see fit (Matthew 6:33).
We rebuke any spirit of fear, vanity, or manipulation that may be at work here. We declare that no weapon formed against this person shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), but we also declare that their heart would be guarded by Your truth. Let them not be consumed by the fleeting things of this world but fixed on the eternal hope found in Jesus.
Father, we ask that You would renew their mind (Romans 12:2) and fill them with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). If there is pain, heal it. If there is loneliness, comfort them with Your presence. If there is sin, cleanse them and restore them to right standing with You.
Most of all, Lord, we pray that they would know You more. That they would find their joy in You, their security in You, and their purpose in You. Let them not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let them present their requests to You (Philippians 4:6). And may Your will be done in their life, not theirs.
We ask all of this in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of our worship and trust. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
