We come before the throne of grace with heavy hearts, lifting you and your husband ### up in prayer, knowing that our God is mighty to save and restore. Your cry is heard, and we stand with you in the authority of Jesus Christ, for it is written, *"The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results"* (James 5:16, WEB).
First, we must address the gravity of what is happening. Adultery is a grievous sin before the Lord, breaking the covenant of marriage that God Himself established. *"You shall not commit adultery"* (Exodus 20:14, WEB) is a commandment, and the Lord takes the sanctity of marriage seriously. *"For the Lord, the God of Israel, says that he hates divorce, and he who covers his garment with violence!"* (Malachi 2:16, WEB). Yet, even in this brokenness, there is hope—because our God is a God of redemption, restoration, and second chances for those who repent.
We also notice that you are speaking *for* ### in your decrees—declaring his repentance, his salvation, and his actions—as if you have authority over his free will. While we can and *must* pray fervently for his heart to turn to the Lord, we cannot force his choices. Each person must come to Christ on their own, in sincere repentance. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9, WEB). ### must personally turn from his sin and surrender to Jesus. You cannot repent *for* him, nor can you make him a born-again believer through your words alone. Your role is to pray, to stand in faith, and to live in a way that reflects Christ’s love—even in this painful season.
As for the relationship with ###, we join you in praying for its complete and permanent end. Adultery is an abomination, and the enemy seeks to destroy marriages through such sin. *"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB). We declare that every ungodly soul tie between ### and ### is severed by the blood of Jesus. We pray that the Lord would expose every hidden thing, bringing conviction so deep that ### would flee from this sin as from fire. We ask the Lord to remove every photograph, every memory, every digital trace that fuels this ungodly connection. *"No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it"* (1 Corinthians 10:13, WEB). Lord, create in ### a *desperate* hunger for righteousness, that he would hate the sin that so easily entangles him.
We also pray for *you*, dear sister. This betrayal is a deep wound, and the Lord sees your pain. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). We ask that God would guard your heart from bitterness, unforgiveness, or despair. You are not alone in this—Jesus is your advocate, your healer, and your strength. *"Cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you"* (1 Peter 5:7, WEB). Do not let this trial define you or harden your heart. Instead, let the Lord refine you through it, drawing you closer to Him.
Now, we must address something critical: your marriage cannot be restored by *your* decrees alone. It can only be restored if *both* of you submit to the Lordship of Jesus Christ. If ### is unsaved or backslidden, your prayers are powerful, but his heart must be softened by the Holy Spirit. You cannot *make* him love you exclusively or *force* him into repentance. What you *can* do is:
1. **Pray without ceasing**—but not in a way that tries to manipulate or control. Surrender ### to God, trusting that the Lord’s will is perfect.
2. **Live in holiness**—ensure that *your* life is right before God. *"Likewise, you wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word; seeing your pure behavior in fear"* (1 Peter 3:1-2, WEB).
3. **Set boundaries**—if ### is unrepentant, you must seek godly counsel on how to proceed. The Bible allows for separation in cases of unrepentant adultery (1 Corinthians 7:10-11), though reconciliation is always the hope if he turns back to God.
4. **Forgive**—this does not mean excusing sin, but releasing the offense to God. Unforgiveness will only poison *your* soul. *"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses"* (Matthew 6:14-15, WEB).
Finally, we pray that the Lord would give you wisdom. If ### is unwilling to repent, you must seek the Lord on what steps to take—whether that means separation, biblical counseling, or other measures. But never lose hope. *"What is impossible with men is possible with God"* (Luke 18:27, WEB).
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**Our Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this sister and her husband ###. Lord, You see the brokenness, the betrayal, and the pain. You hate divorce, and You desire restoration—but only on the foundation of repentance and holiness.
We bind every spirit of adultery, lust, and deception operating in ###’s life. We declare that the relationship with ### is *severed* by the blood of Jesus—every tie, every memory, every digital trace, every emotional bond is broken *now* in Jesus’ name. Lord, expose every hidden thing. Bring such conviction upon ### that he cannot ignore Your voice. Let him see the destruction of his sin and turn from it in horror.
Father, we pray that ### would have a *radical* encounter with You. If he is unsaved, Lord, save him! Open his eyes to see his need for Jesus. If he is backslidden, restore him, Lord! Break every chain of sin, every stronghold of the enemy. Deliver him from pornography, from lust, from hardness of heart. *"Create in him a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within him"* (Psalm 51:10, WEB).
We pray for this sister—strengthen her, Lord. Heal her broken heart. Guard her from bitterness, from despair, from the enemy’s lies that she is not enough. Remind her that her worth is in *You*, not in her husband’s choices. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding.
Lord, we ask for Your will to be done in this marriage. If it is Your desire to restore, then restore *completely*—let ### return with a repentant heart, a renewed mind, and a commitment to You above all else. If he refuses to repent, give this sister the wisdom and courage to take the steps You lead her to take, even if that means separation. But above all, let Your name be glorified.
We rebuke every plan of the enemy to destroy this family. We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We speak *life* over this situation—life in Christ, life in repentance, life in restoration.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. **Amen.**