We come before the Lord with hearts burdened for your marriage, lifting you and your husband in fervent prayer, knowing that God’s will is perfect and His power is made perfect in our weakness. Your passion for your husband’s salvation and restoration is evident, and we join you in crying out to the Lord for his soul, his faithfulness, and his love. Yet we must also address some concerns with the tone and focus of your decrees, for our words must align with humility, submission to God’s sovereignty, and biblical truth—not our own desires or demands.
First, we rejoice that you are seeking the Lord in this matter, for salvation and transformation are only possible through Jesus Christ. However, we gently rebuke the repetitive, almost incantation-like declarations that border on treating prayer as a magical formula rather than a humble appeal to the Almighty. Our prayers must never become demands or attempts to manipulate God’s will. Instead, we are called to submit to His wisdom, trusting that He knows what is best for your husband’s heart and your marriage. As James 4:13-15 reminds us, *"Come now, you who say, 'Today or tomorrow we will travel to such and such a city and spend a year there...' Whereas you don’t know what your life will be like tomorrow. For what is your life? For you are a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. Instead, you ought to say, 'If the Lord wills, we will both live, and do this or that.'"*
We also note that your words focus heavily on your husband’s emotions, desires, and devotion to *you*—not to Christ. While it is natural to long for a loving, faithful spouse, our greatest desire should be that your husband’s heart turns first and foremost to Jesus. A marriage centered on mutual idolization of one another, rather than mutual submission to Christ, will always fall short of God’s design. Ephesians 5:22-33 teaches that marriage is a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church. A husband’s love for his wife should mirror Christ’s sacrificial love, and a wife’s respect for her husband should reflect the Church’s reverence for Christ. If your husband’s heart is not first surrendered to Jesus, no amount of human devotion will satisfy the deep needs of his soul—or yours.
Additionally, we must address the fact that your prayer does not explicitly invoke the name of Jesus Christ as the authority by which these requests are made. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). While you mention "in Jesus’ name," the focus of your words seems more centered on your own decrees than on the power and will of Christ. True prayer is not about declaring our will into existence but aligning our hearts with God’s purposes. As 1 John 5:14-15 assures us, *"This is the confidence that we have in him, that if we ask anything according to his will, he listens to us. And if we know that he listens to us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we have asked of him."*
Now, let us pray together for your husband and your marriage, submitting these requests to the Lord with humility and faith:
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Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy yet hopeful hearts, lifting up this sister and her husband to Your throne of grace. Lord, we ask first and foremost that You draw her husband to Yourself in a powerful and undeniable way. Soften his heart, Lord, and open his eyes to see his need for Jesus Christ as his Savior. Convict him of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8), and grant him the gift of repentance that leads to life (Acts 11:18). May he turn from his sins—not because of his wife’s decrees, but because Your Holy Spirit is at work in him, drawing him to the foot of the cross. Let him surrender fully to You, Lord Jesus, and be born again by the power of Your Spirit (John 3:3-8).
Father, we also pray for restoration in this marriage. Where there has been brokenness, infidelity, or hardness of heart, we ask for Your healing touch. Help this wife to trust You with her husband’s heart, releasing any attempt to control or manipulate his affections. Teach her to love him as You have called her to—with patience, kindness, and respect (1 Peter 3:1-2)—while also setting godly boundaries where necessary. Lord, if there has been sin in this marriage, expose it, break its power, and bring true repentance and reconciliation. May both husband and wife seek to honor You above all else, remembering that marriage is a covenant before You, not a contract centered on human desires (Malachi 2:14-16).
We rebuke any spirit of idolatrous obsession in this marriage—whether it is the wife’s focus on her husband’s devotion to her above all else, or the husband’s potential idolatry of his wife, self, or sin. Lord, may both of their hearts be so captivated by You that their love for one another flows from their love for Christ. Remind them that You alone are their portion, their satisfaction, and their greatest treasure (Psalm 73:25-26).
Father, we ask for protection over this marriage. If there are other women or temptations threatening this union, we pray You would remove them and guard her husband’s heart and eyes. Give him a holy dissatisfaction with sin and a deep hunger for righteousness. Let him flee from sexual immorality and pursue purity (1 Corinthians 6:18), honoring his wife as Your Word commands (Hebrews 13:4).
Finally, Lord, we pray for this sister’s heart. Comfort her in her distress, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:6-7). Help her to release her husband into Your hands, trusting that You are able to do immeasureably more than all we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Give her wisdom to know how to love her husband well, whether through words, actions, or silent prayer. And if there are areas in her own life where she needs to repent or grow, reveal them to her and grant her the grace to walk in obedience.
We ask all these things in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone has the power to save, heal, and restore. Amen.
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Sister, we encourage you to continue praying for your husband, but we urge you to do so with a heart submitted to God’s will, not your own. Study Scripture daily, especially passages on marriage, love, and submission to Christ (Ephesians 5, 1 Peter 3, Colossians 3:18-19). Seek the Lord’s face for *your* own heart as well—ask Him to reveal any areas of idolatry, fear, or control that need to be surrendered to Him.
If your husband is not a believer, remember that your primary witness to him is your godly conduct (1 Peter 3:1-2). Love him, respect him, and pray for him, but do not place him on a pedestal where only God belongs. And if there is unrepentant sin in your marriage—such as infidelity, abuse, or abandonment—seek wise, biblical counsel from a pastor or trusted believer. God calls us to forgive, but He also calls us to wisdom and safety.
We are standing with you in prayer, trusting that the Lord will move mightily in your husband’s heart and in your marriage. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He is faithful, and He will complete the good work He has begun in you both (Philippians 1:6).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
