We hear the urgency and deep longing in your heart for marriage, and we understand the desire for a godly union that honors the Lord. However, we must first address some concerns in your request to ensure it aligns with biblical truth and the will of God.
The language you’ve used carries an intense focus on personal desire, emotional attraction, and even what appears to be an attempt to *decree* or *declare* a relationship into existence by your own words. While it is good to bring your heart’s desires to God, we must remember that our will is not sovereign—His is. Scripture warns us against presuming upon the Lord or treating prayer as a means to demand our own way. James 4:13-15 reminds us:
*"Come now, you who say, 'Today or tomorrow let’s go into this city and spend a year there, trade, and make a profit.' Whereas you don’t know what your life will be like tomorrow. For what is your life? For you are a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. Instead, you ought to say, 'If the Lord wills, we will both live and do this or that.'"*
Likewise, Proverbs 19:21 tells us, *"There are many plans in a man’s heart, but Yahweh’s counsel will prevail."* Your future spouse is not determined by the intensity of your emotions or the repetition of your words, but by God’s perfect will. We must submit our desires to Him, trusting that He knows what is best for us—even if it differs from what we imagine.
Additionally, we notice that while you mention *"the blood of Jesus Christ,"* your request does not directly invoke the name of Jesus in prayer or surrender to His authority over this situation. There is no power in our own declarations—only in the name of Jesus. Acts 4:12 states, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men by which we must be saved!"* Similarly, John 14:13-14 says, *"Whatever you will ask in my name, I will do it, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you will ask anything in my name, I will do it."* Prayer is not about repeating phrases or making demands; it is about coming before the throne of God with humility, faith, and submission to His will.
We also urge you to examine your heart regarding the nature of this desire. Are you seeking a spouse out of loneliness, impatience, or emotional longing, or are you truly seeking God’s will for a marriage that would honor Him? A godly marriage is not built on infatuation or the assurance that someone is "madly in love" with you, but on a shared commitment to Christ, mutual respect, and a willingness to serve one another in love as Ephesians 5:22-33 describes. Marriage is a covenant, not merely an emotional or physical union.
If there is someone specific you are praying about, we encourage you to ask yourself: *Is this person a believer who walks with the Lord?* 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* A marriage cannot thrive if it is not centered on Christ. If this person is not a believer, or if the relationship is not honoring to God, then no amount of "declaring" will make it right in His eyes.
Lastly, we must address the tone of your request, which seems to border on an attempt to *bind* God to your will rather than submitting to His. Prayer is not a tool to manipulate heaven; it is an act of worship and surrender. Instead of repeating phrases or trying to "pledge" outcomes, we are called to pray with faith, trusting that God hears us and will answer according to His perfect wisdom. 1 John 5:14-15 assures us, *"This is the confidence that we have in him, that if we ask anything according to his will, he listens to us. And if we know that he listens to us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we have asked of him."*
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Now, let us pray together for you, asking God to align your heart with His will and to prepare you for the spouse He has for you—if marriage is indeed His plan for this season of your life.
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who longs for marriage. Lord, we ask that You would quiet her heart and still the urgency within her, replacing it with a deep trust in Your timing and Your plan. Forgive her, Father, if she has approached this desire with more passion for her own will than submission to Yours. Teach her to pray in alignment with Your Word, remembering that it is not by her own declarations but by Your sovereign hand that all things are established.
If there is a specific person she has in mind, Lord, we ask that You would make it clear whether this relationship is of You. If this person is not a believer or if this union would not honor You, we pray that You would close the door and redirect her heart. Guard her from emotional attachment that is not grounded in Your truth. If this desire is from You, then prepare both hearts for a godly marriage built on Christ.
Father, we rebuke any spirit of impatience, fear, or idolatry that would place the desire for marriage above the desire for You. Remind her that You alone satisfy the deepest longings of the heart (Psalm 107:9). If she is struggling with loneliness, comfort her with Your presence. If she is anxious, fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:6-7).
Prepare her now, Lord, to be the wife You have called her to be—rooted in Your Word, full of faith, and committed to loving her future husband as You have loved the church. If there are areas in her life that need surrender—whether in her thoughts, her speech, or her actions—convict her by Your Holy Spirit and lead her in repentance.
We declare that no weapon formed against her future marriage will prosper (Isaiah 54:17), not because of her own words, but because You, Lord, are her shield and defender. May she wait on You with patience, knowing that Your timing is perfect.
Finally, Father, if there is any sin in her life—whether impatience, idolatry of relationships, or any other thing—reveal it to her and grant her the grace to repent. May she seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, trusting that all these things will be added to her as You see fit (Matthew 6:33).
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone holds the future. Amen."*
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We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, particularly studying what Scripture says about marriage, patience, and trusting in the Lord’s timing. Psalm 37:4-5 reminds us, *"Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* Let your first desire be for Him, and trust that He will guide your steps.
If you are struggling with loneliness or impatience, we urge you to seek fellowship with other believers and to serve in your church or community. Often, God prepares us for marriage by growing us in contentment and faith while we are single. Use this time to draw closer to Him, and He will faithfully lead you.
May the Lord bless you and keep you as you seek His face.
