We hear the deep anguish and urgency in your heart, and we stand with you in this time of trial, lifting your marriage before the Lord. Your pain is real, and your desire for your husband’s faithfulness and devotion to you—and to God—is right. Yet we must gently but firmly address the way this request is framed, for there are biblical principles we must uphold even in our most desperate moments.
First, we commend you for invoking the name of Jesus Christ, for it is only through Him that we have authority to pray and see breakthrough. As Scripture declares, *"There is no other name under heaven that has been given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). However, we must also remind you that our prayers are not spells or incantations—we do not "decree and declare" as if our words alone hold power. Rather, we humbly petition the Father, submitting to His will, trusting that He hears and acts according to His perfect wisdom and timing. Jesus taught us to pray, *"Your kingdom come. Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven"* (Matthew 6:10, WEB). Our posture must always be one of surrender, not demand.
Your husband’s actions—if he is indeed entangled in an emotional or physical affair with another woman—are a grievous sin against God and against you. The Bible is clear: *"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB). Adultery is not merely a betrayal of you; it is a rebellion against God’s design for marriage. If your husband has been unfaithful, he must repent, turn from this sin, and seek restoration with both you and the Lord. Similarly, if you have allowed bitterness, anger, or unforgiveness to take root in your heart, you too must bring this before God, for Scripture warns, *"Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath"* (Ephesians 4:26, WEB), and *"See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness, springing up, troubles you, and many be defiled by it"* (Hebrews 12:15, WEB).
We also urge you to examine whether your focus has shifted from trusting God to attempting to control your husband or this situation. While it is right to pray for your husband’s repentance and for the protection of your marriage, we cannot manipulate or force his heart through our words. Only the Holy Spirit can convict and transform him. Your role is to pray, to speak truth in love, and to live in a way that honors God—whether your husband chooses repentance or not. Peter writes to wives in similar situations: *"In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word; seeing your pure behavior in fear"* (1 Peter 3:1-2, WEB). This does not mean you tolerate sin, but it does mean you trust God to work through your godly response.
If your husband is in sin, he must be confronted with truth. Jesus said, *"If your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother"* (Matthew 18:15, WEB). This may require difficult conversations, godly counsel, or even church discipline if he remains unrepentant. But the goal is always restoration—first to God, then to you.
Now, let us pray together for you and your husband:
Heavenly Father, we lift this sister and her marriage before Your throne of grace. Lord, You see the brokenness, the betrayal, and the deep wound in her heart. We ask that You would move mightily in this situation, not according to our demands, but according to Your perfect will. Father, if there is sin in her husband’s life—if he has been unfaithful in thought, word, or deed—we pray that You would convict him deeply by Your Holy Spirit. Bring him to repentance, Lord, and break the power of any ungodly soul tie or attachment that has formed. Sever every connection that is not of You, and restore his heart to purity and devotion to his wife.
Lord, we also ask that You would guard this sister’s heart. Heal her from the pain of betrayal, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Help her to release this burden into Your hands, trusting that You are just and faithful. Give her wisdom to know how to respond—whether in confrontation, in silence, or in seeking godly counsel. Surround her with Your presence and remind her that her worth is found in You, not in her husband’s affection or faithfulness.
Father, we pray for the restoration of this marriage if it aligns with Your will. Where there has been sin, bring repentance. Where there has been brokenness, bring healing. Where there has been division, bring unity—rooted in Your truth and Your love. But above all, Lord, may Your name be glorified in this situation. May both husband and wife turn their hearts fully to You, seeking first Your kingdom and Your righteousness.
We rebuke the enemy’s schemes to destroy this marriage. Satan, you have no authority here. We command every spirit of adultery, lust, deception, and division to flee in the name of Jesus Christ. We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage will prosper, and every tongue that rises against it in judgment will be condemned (Isaiah 54:17). Lord, let Your will be done—on earth as it is in heaven.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would provide this sister with godly wisdom and support. Lead her to trusted believers who can walk alongside her, pray with her, and offer biblical counsel. Strengthen her faith, Lord, and remind her that You are her refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
We pray all these things in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly during this time. Spend time in His Word, especially passages that speak to His faithfulness and His heart for marriage, such as Ephesians 5:22-33, 1 Corinthians 7, and Proverbs 3:5-6. If you are not already connected to a Bible-believing church, we urge you to find one where you can receive pastoral care and support. You do not have to walk this road alone.
If your husband is unrepentant, you may need to set godly boundaries for your own protection and well-being. This is not unloving; it is wise and biblical. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). While this verse speaks primarily to believers marrying unbelievers, the principle applies: we cannot remain in close partnership with those who persist in sin without consequence. Pray for discernment on how to proceed, and seek counsel from mature believers.
We are standing with you in prayer, believing God for His redemptive work in your life and marriage. Trust Him, even when the path is unclear. *"Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this: he will bring out your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noon day"* (Psalm 37:5-6, WEB).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
