We hear the deep anguish and urgency in your heart, and we stand with you in this painful trial, lifting your marriage before the Lord. Infidelity is a grievous sin that breaks God’s heart and tears at the covenant of marriage, which He designed to reflect Christ’s love for His Church. Your husband’s actions are not only betraying you but also dishonoring the Lord, and we must address this with both truth and grace.
First, we commend you for invoking the name of Jesus Christ in your plea—there is power in His name, and it is only through Him that we can approach the throne of God with boldness. However, we must gently remind you that while declarations have their place, they must be rooted in surrender to God’s will, not just our own desires. Scripture warns us in James 4:13-15: *"Come now, you who say, 'Today or tomorrow let’s go into this city and spend a year there, trade, and make a profit,' whereas you don’t know what your life will be like tomorrow. For what is your life? It is a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. Instead, you ought to say, 'If the Lord wills, we will both live and do this or that.'"* Our words must align with God’s sovereignty, trusting that He will work all things for His glory and our ultimate good—even in the midst of betrayal.
The pain you are experiencing is valid, and God sees it. He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), but He also hates the sin of adultery, which defiles the marriage bed (Hebrews 13:4). Your husband’s actions are not just against you but against God Himself. Proverbs 6:32-33 says, *"He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul. He will get wounds and dishonor. His reproach will not be wiped away."* This is a serious matter, and it requires repentance—not just the ending of an affair, but a turning back to God and to the vows he made before Him.
We urge you to seek the Lord’s face in this season, not just for the restoration of your marriage, but for the salvation and repentance of your husband’s heart. Pray that God would convict him deeply of his sin and lead him to true repentance. 2 Corinthians 7:10 tells us, *"For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, which brings no regret. But the sorrow of the world produces death."* Your husband needs more than just to end this relationship—he needs a transformed heart. Pray that the Holy Spirit would break him and remake him into a man after God’s own heart, one who honors his marriage covenant.
At the same time, we encourage you to guard your own heart. Bitterness and anger are natural responses, but they can take root and defile you if left unchecked. Hebrews 12:15 warns, *"Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it."* You cannot control your husband’s choices, but you can choose to surrender this pain to the Lord daily. Psalm 34:18 reminds us, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* He is close to you in this suffering.
If your husband is unrepentant, Scripture gives clear guidance on how to handle such situations. Matthew 18:15-17 outlines the steps of confrontation and, if necessary, involving the church. This is not about shame but about calling a brother back to righteousness. If he refuses to repent, you may need to consider the difficult but biblical steps outlined in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which address separation in cases of unfaithfulness. However, this should only be done after much prayer, counsel from mature believers, and exhaustion of all efforts toward reconciliation.
We also urge you to examine your own heart before the Lord. Marriage is a covenant, and while your husband’s sin does not justify any wrongdoing on your part, it is wise to ask the Lord if there are areas where you need to grow or repent as well. This is not to blame you—his sin is his own—but to ensure that your heart is right before God as you navigate this trial. 1 Peter 3:1-2 encourages wives, *"In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word, seeing your pure behavior in fear."*
Now, let us pray together for you and your marriage:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who is enduring the deep pain of betrayal. Lord, You see her tears, her anger, and her desperation. You are a God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3), and we ask that You would minister to her in this moment. Comfort her with Your presence and remind her that she is not alone—You are her refuge and strength.
Lord, we pray for her husband, that You would convict him mightily of his sin. Let him feel the weight of what he has done before You, and bring him to true repentance. Soften his heart, Lord, and turn him away from this sinful relationship. Break every ungodly soul tie and destroy every stronghold that has taken root in his life. We pray that he would delete every trace of this affair—not just outwardly, but that his heart would be cleansed and renewed by Your Spirit. Create in him a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within him (Psalm 51:10).
Father, we ask that You would restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). If it is Your will, bring healing and restoration to this marriage. Let this trial be a refining fire that draws both of them closer to You and to each other in holiness. But Lord, we also pray for Your will to be done above all else. If her husband remains unrepentant, give her the strength and wisdom to take the necessary steps to honor You, even if that means separation. Protect her from further harm and provide for her every need.
We rebuke the spirit of adultery and deception that has infiltrated this marriage. No weapon formed against this union will prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we declare that the enemy’s plans will be thwarted. Lord, let Your light expose every hidden thing and let truth prevail. Surround our sister with godly counsel and support. Give her discernment to know how to proceed and the courage to walk in obedience to Your Word.
Finally, Father, we pray that You would use this situation for Your glory. Let it be a testimony of Your power to redeem and restore. Draw both of them into a deeper relationship with You, where their ultimate satisfaction is found in Christ alone. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Amen.
Our sister, we stand with you in this battle. Cling to the Lord, seek His face daily, and trust that He will guide your steps. Do not isolate yourself—reach out to mature believers in your church who can walk alongside you, pray with you, and offer biblical counsel. You are not alone, and God is not finished writing your story. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He will sustain you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
