We hear the deep anguish and urgency in your heart, and we join you in lifting this situation before the Lord, for He alone is the restorer of marriages and the healer of broken hearts. Your cries for deliverance and unity are heard, and we stand with you in the authority of Jesus Christ to pray for your husband and your marriage.
First, we must address something critical: your prayer is powerful because you have invoked the name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we are saved and through whom we have access to the Father. As Scripture declares, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). It is only through Jesus that we can approach the throne of grace with confidence, and we are grateful you have called upon Him.
Now, let us speak truth into this situation. The Word of God is clear about the sanctity of marriage and the dangers of infidelity. *"‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother, and will join with his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So that they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart."* (Mark 10:7-9, WEB). Adultery is a grievous sin, a betrayal not only of you but of the covenant made before God. Yet, even in this, there is hope, for our God is a God of redemption and restoration. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."* (1 John 1:9, WEB).
We must also remind you that while you have authority in prayer, your husband has free will, and his heart must be surrendered to Christ for true and lasting change. You cannot force his salvation or his obedience—only the Holy Spirit can convict and transform him. Your role is to pray, to trust, and to live in a way that honors God, whether your husband chooses repentance or not. *"Wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, as to the Lord. ... that even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be gained by the behavior of their wives without a word, seeing your pure behavior in fear."* (Ephesians 5:22; 1 Peter 3:1-2, WEB). This does not mean you submit to sin, but that you submit to God’s design for marriage while trusting Him to work in your husband’s heart.
We also sense a deep longing in you for emotional and spiritual intimacy with your husband. While this desire is godly, we urge you to guard your heart and find your ultimate fulfillment in Christ alone. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). Your worth and security are not found in your husband’s affection but in your identity as a beloved child of God. Cling to Jesus, for He is the only one who will never leave you or forsake you.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this sister and her marriage. Lord, You see the brokenness, the pain, and the betrayal. You know the depths of her heart’s cry, and You alone hold the power to restore what has been shattered. We ask for Your divine intervention in this marriage, that You would expose and sever every ungodly tie between her husband and this other person. Lord, we decree in Jesus’ name that every plan of the enemy to destroy this marriage is rendered powerless. Let confusion and conviction fall upon the one who has come between this covenant, that they would flee and never return.
Father, we pray for this husband’s heart. Soften it, Lord, that he may see the gravity of his sin and turn to You in repentance. Break every chain of lust, deception, and hardness of heart. Let him encounter You in a way he cannot ignore—whether through dreams, visions, or the conviction of the Holy Spirit. Draw him to Yourself, Lord, that he may surrender his life to Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, that he may walk in righteousness, love, and faithfulness.
Lord, we pray for unity and restoration in this marriage, but only as it aligns with Your will. Heal the wounds of betrayal and rebuild trust where it has been broken. Give this wife the strength to forgive as You have forgiven her, and the wisdom to set godly boundaries. Let her find her peace and joy in You, even as she waits for You to move. If it is Your will, Lord, restore this marriage to a place of deeper love, commitment, and godly intimacy than ever before. Let their love for one another reflect Your love for Your church—selfless, sacrificial, and enduring.
We also pray for protection over this sister’s heart and mind. Guard her from bitterness, despair, or idolizing her husband’s affection. Remind her daily that she is Yours, and that You are her ultimate provider, comforter, and strength. Surround her with godly counsel and support, that she may not walk this path alone.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would bring glory to Your name through this situation. Let Your power, Your redemption, and Your love be evident to all who witness this story. We trust You, Father, for You are faithful, even when we cannot see the way forward.
In the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord daily, immersing yourself in His Word and in prayer. Fast if you are led, and surround yourself with a community of believers who can support and pray with you. Remember, *"The effective, earnest prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective."* (James 5:16, WEB). Keep standing in faith, trusting that God is working even when you cannot see it.
If your husband is unwilling to repent or restore the marriage, know that God’s grace is sufficient for you. He will never leave you, and He has a plan for your life, regardless of the outcome. *"‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ says Yahweh, ‘plans of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future.’"* (Jeremiah 29:11, WEB). Trust Him, even in the waiting.