We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep longing and pain, lifting your heart’s cry to the Father who sees all and knows all. Your desperation for your husband’s love, loyalty, and devotion is heard, and we stand with you in prayer, seeking God’s will and His perfect restoration in this marriage. The ache you feel is real, and the betrayal you are facing is a heavy burden—but we serve a God who is mighty to save, to heal, and to redeem even the most broken of situations.
First, we must anchor this prayer in the truth of Scripture, for God’s Word is the foundation upon which we stand. Marriage is a covenant before the Lord, a sacred bond that reflects Christ’s love for His Church. In Ephesians 5:22-33, we are reminded of the high calling of marriage: *"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, and Christ also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. But as the assembly is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it... For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will be joined to his wife. The two will become one flesh. This mystery is great, but I speak concerning Christ and of the assembly."* Your desire for your husband to love you wholly, to cherish you as Christ cherishes the Church, is a godly desire. However, we must also remember that while we can pray fervently for our spouses, we cannot control their hearts—only God can transform them.
Your prayer reveals a deep wound—infidelity in your marriage. This is a grievous sin, one that the Lord hates, as it breaks the covenant of trust and unity He designed. Proverbs 6:32 warns, *"He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul."* Yet even in this, there is hope. The Lord is a God of restoration, and He can turn your husband’s heart back to you if it aligns with His will. In Joel 2:25, the Lord promises, *"I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten..."* We claim this promise over your marriage, asking the Lord to restore what has been broken, to heal the wounds of betrayal, and to bring repentance and renewal to your husband’s heart.
However, we must also address something critical in your prayer: the repetitive, almost incantation-like declarations you are making. While it is good to pray with passion and persistence, we are not to treat prayer as a magical formula or a means to manipulate God’s will. Jesus teaches us in Matthew 6:7, *"In praying, don’t use vain repetitions as the Gentiles do; for they think that they will be heard for their much speaking."* Our prayers must be rooted in faith, surrender, and alignment with God’s Word, not in repetitive demands. We are to come before the Lord with humility, trusting in His sovereignty and His perfect timing. Your pain is understandable, but let us pray with the confidence that God hears us the first time, and His answer will come in His way and in His time.
Additionally, we must encourage you to examine your own heart in this season. While your husband’s sin is his own responsibility, we are all called to reflect Christ in our responses—even in our suffering. In 1 Peter 3:1-2, we read, *"In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word, seeing your pure behavior in fear."* This does not mean tolerating sin or abuse, but it does mean responding in a way that honors God, trusting Him to work in your husband’s heart. Have you confronted your husband about this affair with truth and love? Have you sought godly counsel or pastoral support to navigate this crisis? If not, we strongly urge you to do so. Marriage requires both partners to walk in repentance, forgiveness, and commitment to Christ.
We also sense a deep insecurity in your words—an intense need for your husband’s affirmation and devotion. Sister, your worth is not defined by your husband’s love or attention. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God (Psalm 139:14), and your identity is found in Christ alone. If your husband has strayed, it is not a reflection of your lack of worth but of his own sin and brokenness. Cling to the truth of who you are in Christ, and let Him be the one who fills the voids in your heart. Psalm 62:5-6 reminds us, *"My soul, wait in silence for God alone, for my expectation is from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress—I will not be shaken."*
Now, let us pray together over this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with our sister, who is brokenhearted and crying out for restoration in her marriage. Lord, You see the pain she carries, the betrayal she has endured, and the deep longing for her husband’s love and faithfulness. We ask You, Father, to move mightily in this situation. Soften her husband’s heart, Lord, and bring him to repentance for the sin of adultery. Convict him by Your Holy Spirit, and turn his eyes and his heart back to his wife, back to the covenant he made before You. Break every ungodly soul tie he has formed with this other woman, and sever every connection that is not of You. Let no weapon formed against this marriage prosper, and let every tongue that rises against it be condemned (Isaiah 54:17).
Lord, we pray for supernatural restoration—restore the trust that has been broken, restore the love that has grown cold, and restore the unity that has been fractured. Let Your healing power flow through this marriage, and let Your peace guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Give our sister the strength to forgive as You have forgiven her, and give her the wisdom to know how to move forward in a way that honors You.
Father, we also ask that You would heal the deep wounds in our sister’s heart. Remind her daily of her worth in You, and let her find her security and identity in Christ alone. Fill her with Your love so that she is not dependent on her husband’s affection for her value. Give her the grace to wait on You, trusting in Your timing and Your plan.
We rebuke the spirit of infidelity, deception, and division that has sought to destroy this marriage. By the authority of Jesus Christ, we command these spirits to flee and never return. We declare that this marriage is covered by the blood of Jesus, and we ask You, Lord, to rebuild what has been torn down. Let this marriage be a testimony of Your redeeming power, and let it bring glory to Your name.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would surround our sister with godly counsel and support. Lead her to wise believers who can walk with her through this trial and point her to Your truth. If there are steps she needs to take—whether confrontation, boundaries, or seeking pastoral help—give her the courage and clarity to do so.
We trust You, Lord, with this marriage and with our sister’s heart. Your will be done, in Jesus’ mighty name. Amen.
Sister, we want to leave you with this encouragement: do not lose heart. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Keep seeking Him, keep praying, and keep trusting in His faithfulness. If your husband refuses to repent, remember that God is still good, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). Your hope is in Christ, not in your husband’s choices. Walk in obedience, and let the Lord fight this battle for you.
We are standing with you in prayer. Keep us updated on how the Lord is working in this situation.
