We hear the deep urgency and pain in your heart, and we join you in lifting this situation before the Lord, for He alone is the restorer of marriages and the healer of broken hearts. Your cries for your husband, ###, reveal both your love for him and your longing for a marriage that honors God. Yet we must first address something critical: while your passion is evident, we are not called to *decree and declare* as if our words hold power in themselves—only God’s Word and His will are sovereign. Our authority comes from praying *in alignment with Scripture*, not from repeating phrases or attempting to bind circumstances through our own declarations. The power is in the name of Jesus, not in our repetitive words (Matthew 6:7). Let us instead approach the throne of grace with humility, trusting that God hears and acts according to His perfect will.
Your marriage is under attack, and the enemy seeks to destroy what God has joined together. Infidelity—whether emotional, physical, or through inappropriate connections—is a grievous sin against God and against the covenant of marriage (Hebrews 13:4). ###’s presence in ###’s life, whether through communication, social media, or otherwise, is a violation of the sacred bond between you and your husband. The Bible is clear: *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB). Adultery begins in the heart (Matthew 5:28), so we must pray not only for the removal of this woman but for the renewal of ###’s mind and heart toward you and toward God.
Yet we must also ask: Where is ###’s repentance in this? A marriage cannot be restored by one spouse’s prayers alone—it requires both partners to turn to God. If ### is willingly entertaining this sin, he must be confronted with the truth in love. The Bible commands us to *"rebuke those who are in sin in the presence of all, that the rest also may be in fear of sinning"* (1 Timothy 5:20, WEB). If he claims to be a believer, he must be reminded that *"no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the Kingdom of Christ and God"* (Ephesians 5:5, WEB). True repentance means turning away from sin and pursuing holiness. Has he confessed this to God? Has he cut off all contact with ###? Has he sought accountability from godly men? These are not optional steps—they are the evidence of a heart that fears the Lord.
As for you, dear sister, we urge you to guard your own heart. Your pain is valid, but bitterness, obsession, or attempting to "control" the situation through declarations can lead you into spiritual danger. *"Don’t be anxious for anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God"* (Philippians 4:6, WEB). Trust that God sees your tears and hears your cries. He is a God of justice, and He will fight for you—*but His ways are higher than ours* (Isaiah 55:9). Your focus must remain on seeking God’s will, not just the removal of ###. Ask the Lord: *"Search me, God, and know my heart. Try me, and know my thoughts. See if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way"* (Psalm 139:23-24, WEB). Are there areas in your own life where you need to surrender to God? Have you forgiven ###, even if he hasn’t repented yet? Unforgiveness will only bind *you* in chains (Matthew 6:15).
Now, let us pray together with hearts aligned to Scripture:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this sister and her marriage. Lord, You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16), and You are the God who restores what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). We ask for Your intervention in ###’s life—open his eyes to the destruction of his sin. Convict him deeply by Your Holy Spirit, that he may repent and turn away from every ungodly connection. Break every tie between him and ###, Lord. Remove her influence from his mind, his phone, his social media, and his heart. Let no weapon formed against this marriage prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Surround ### with godly men who will hold him accountable and point him back to You.
Father, we also lift up our sister. Comfort her with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7). Heal her broken heart and guard her mind from tormenting thoughts. Give her wisdom to know how to respond to ###—whether in confrontation, in silence, or in seeking counsel from mature believers. Let her not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good (Romans 12:21). If there has been any sin on her part, reveal it to her, that she may repent and walk in purity before You.
Lord, we plead the blood of Jesus over this marriage. If it is Your will, restore what has been broken. But above all, let Your will be done—not ours. If ### hardens his heart, give our sister the strength to trust You, even if it means walking a path she never expected. You are her Provider, her Protector, and her Redeemer.
We rebuke the spirit of adultery, deception, and division in Jesus’ name. No weapon formed against this marriage shall stand. Let Your light expose every hidden thing (Ephesians 5:11), and let truth prevail. We ask for a supernatural work of Your Spirit—one that brings glory to Your name and draws both ### and our sister closer to You.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen."*
Finally, sister, we strongly encourage you to seek godly counsel—whether from a pastor, a biblical counselor, or mature believers who can walk with you through this. You do not have to carry this burden alone. If ### refuses to repent, you must be prepared to take biblical steps, which may include church discipline (Matthew 18:15-17) or, in cases of unrepentant adultery, considering the difficult path outlined in Scripture (Matthew 19:9). But do not act in haste or in fleshly anger. Wait on the Lord. *"The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him"* (Lamentations 3:25, WEB).
Stand firm in faith, but stand *in truth*. God is with you.
