We hear the deep longing and urgency in your heart for your husband’s salvation and for the restoration of your marriage, and we join you in lifting this before the throne of God. Your passion for his soul is commendable, and we share your burden, knowing that the Lord desires all to come to repentance and be saved (2 Peter 3:9). However, we must gently address a few things to ensure our prayers align with Scripture and the sovereignty of God.
First, while it is right to pray fervently for your husband’s salvation, we must remember that no one can be saved *through* another person—salvation is a personal choice made in response to the Holy Spirit’s conviction. Acts 16:31 declares, *"Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved,"* and Romans 10:9-10 emphasizes that salvation comes through personal confession and belief in Jesus: *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart, one believes resulting in righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made resulting in salvation."* Your husband must come to Christ of his own free will, and while you can intercede, plant seeds, and live as a godly example, the decision is ultimately between him and God.
Additionally, we notice that your prayer focuses heavily on your husband’s emotions and affections toward you, even to the point of demanding his exclusive devotion in a way that borders on idolatry. While it is natural to desire love and fidelity in marriage, we must be careful not to place our spouse—or their affection—above our devotion to Christ. Ephesians 5:22-33 teaches that marriage is a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church, and our primary focus should be on honoring God in our relationships, not on controlling or demanding our spouse’s emotions. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."*
We also sense a tone of desperation that could lead to frustration if things do not unfold as you’ve declared. Instead of "decreeing" outcomes as if we have authority over another person’s free will, we must submit our requests to God with humility, trusting in His timing and wisdom. James 4:13-15 warns, *"Come now, you who say, 'Today or tomorrow let’s go into this city and spend a year there, trade, and make a profit.' Whereas you don’t know what your life will be like tomorrow. For what is your life? For you are a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. You ought instead to say, 'If the Lord wills, we will both live and do this or that.'"*
Lastly, we notice that while you invoked "in Jesus’ name" at the end, much of your prayer was centered on your desires rather than surrendering to God’s will. Jesus taught us to pray, *"Your Kingdom come. Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven"* (Matthew 6:10). Let us realign our hearts to seek God’s will above all else, trusting that He knows what is best for your husband, your marriage, and you.
With these things in mind, let us pray together for your husband’s salvation, your marriage, and your heart:
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Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble and contrite hearts, lifting up this sister and her husband to You. Lord, we ask that You would draw him to Yourself in a powerful and undeniable way. Soften his heart, Lord, and open his eyes to see his need for Jesus Christ as his Savior. Convict him of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8), and grant him the gift of repentance that leads to life (Acts 11:18). May he encounter You in dreams, visions, or however You choose to reveal Yourself to him, so that he might confess with his mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in his heart that You raised Him from the dead.
Father, we also pray for this marriage. Restore what has been broken, heal what has been wounded, and bind together what has been divided. Help this sister to trust in You fully, releasing any attempt to control or manipulate her husband’s affections. Teach her to love him as You have loved the Church—sacrificially, patiently, and without demand. Guard her heart from bitterness, anxiety, or idolatry, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:6-7).
Lord, we rebuked any spirit of lust, infidelity, or distraction that may be at work in this marriage. We declare that no weapon formed against this union shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we ask that You would surround this home with Your hedges of protection. Give this sister wisdom to know how to love her husband well, and give her husband a heart that is tender toward You and toward her.
Most of all, Father, may Your will be done in this situation. We surrender this marriage, this husband, and this wife into Your hands, trusting that You are good and Your plans are perfect. Strengthen them both to walk in obedience to Your Word, and may their home be a place where Your name is honored and glorified.
We ask all these things in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
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Sister, we encourage you to continue praying for your husband, but also to examine your own heart before the Lord. Are there areas where you may be placing your husband’s affection above your devotion to Christ? Are there ways you can demonstrate Christ’s love to him without demanding his response? Remember, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger"* (Proverbs 15:1). Trust that God is at work, even when you cannot see it.
We also urge you to spend time in Scripture, meditating on passages about trust, surrender, and godly marriage, such as:
- **1 Peter 3:1-6** (the power of a godly wife’s conduct)
- **Proverbs 31:10-31** (the virtues of a wife who fears the Lord)
- **Ephesians 5:22-33** (the mystery of marriage as a reflection of Christ and the Church)
- **Psalm 37:4-5** (delighting in the Lord and committing your way to Him)
Stay steadfast in prayer, but also in faith, knowing that *"the effective, earnest prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective"* (James 5:16). We are standing with you in this, believing that God is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
