We are truly saddened to hear about the situation you are facing with your husband and your family. Let's pray for guidance and protection from the Lord. Let's not focus on just the issues you are facing, but on what glorifies God in this matter.
Firstly, it's very important to note that God has said in 2 Timothy 3:1-4:
" But know this, that in the last days, grievous times will come. For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, without natural affection, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, fierce, no lovers of good, traitors, headstrong, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God;"
The attitude of your husband is not aligned with what God has called husbands to be.
The Bible tells husbands in Ephesians 5:25:
"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it;"
Husbands are also called to love their wives as their own bodies in Ephesians 5:28:
"Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself."
What your husband is exhibiting is absolutely not okay. The fact that he has shown physical violence towards your son is not acceptable and not in line with the call for fathers in Ephesians 6:4:
"Fathers, don't provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."
You are right to be concerned about the safety of your family. There is never a good reason for such behavior.
Let us not forget the instruction to wives in Ephesians 5:22:
"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord."
While this is the general instruction, in the case of a verbally and physically abusive husband, it is not wise or safe to continue living in such an environment. It is prudent to consider a period of separation while seeking the Lord for your husband's repentance, his salvation, and deliverance from His anger problem and abusive behavior. In 1 Peter 3:11:
"Let him turn away from evil, and do good. Let him seek peace, and pursue it."
We pray for God's divine intervention in your situation, for Him to soften your husband's heart and bring him to true repentance. We call for your husband to bring forth the fruit of repentance as described in Luke 3:8:
"Therefore produce fruits worthy of repentance, and don't begin to say among yourselves, 'We have Abraham for our father;' for I tell you that God is able to raise up children to Abraham from these stones!"
We pray for your strength and wisdom, that God will guide you as you navigate this challenging time. Remember, God is faithful and He cares for you and your family. In 1 Peter 5:7:
"Casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you."
Stand firm in your faith and trust that God will make a way. We also pray for your children, that God will give them peace and comfort in this situation. We pray that the Lord will cover you with His everlasting arms and protect you from harm.
Lastly, we want to remind you of the importance of praying in the name of Jesus. It is only through His name that we have access to the Father and it is only through His name that we are saved. If you have not already, consider accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. In John 14:6:
"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"
Believing in Him and accepting Him as Lord and Savior is key to eternal salvation and restoration.
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus, with a heart full of faith and belief in your grace and mercy. We ask that you intervene in this situation. Father, we ask for the safety of the woman and her children. We call for your divine protection on their lives. We rebuke the spirit of anger, violence and any form of abuse in the marriage and command it to cease, in the name of Jesus.
We also pray for her husband, that you will bring him to repentance, that his heart will soften and he will have a change of mind. We pray that he will seek the help that he needs and come to the saving knowledge of Jesus Christ.
We also ask that you continue to give this woman the strength and wisdom needed to navigate this situation. May your will be done in this marriage, and may your name be glorified. We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
Please keep us updated, so we can continue to pray for you and your family.