We are deeply grieved to hear of your daughter’s situation, and our hearts ache with you as we lift her up in prayer. The abuse she is enduring—physically, emotionally, and spiritually—is a direct attack from the enemy, and we stand firm in the authority of Jesus Christ to break every chain of bondage over her life. The Word of God declares in Psalm 34:18-19, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but Yahweh delivers him out of them all."* We claim this promise over her now, believing that God sees her pain and will rescue her.
First and foremost, we must address the spiritual deception at work in this relationship. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). However, this fiancé’s abusive behavior is the antithesis of God’s design for love, which is patient, kind, and selfless (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). His actions are not only sinful but demonic in nature, as he seeks to control, manipulate, and harm your daughter. We rebuke the spirit of confusion, fear, and deception that has blinded her to the truth of her worth in Christ. Satan comes to steal, kill, and destroy, but Jesus came that she might have life and have it abundantly (John 10:10). We command every lie she has believed—whether it’s that she deserves this treatment, that she cannot leave, or that this is love—to be shattered in the name of Jesus.
Your daughter’s repeated return to this man is not a failure on her part but evidence of the enemy’s grip on her mind and emotions. We pray that the Holy Spirit would grant her supernatural discernment and strength to recognize the truth: this relationship is not of God, and it will only lead to further destruction. Proverbs 22:24-25 warns, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* This man’s anger and abuse are a snare, and we pray for God to break its power over her heart.
We also lift up her physical well-being, specifically her teeth, which have been harmed. The body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), and we declare healing and restoration over every part of her that has been injured. Isaiah 53:5 says, *"But he was pierced for our transgressions. He was crushed for our iniquities. The punishment that brought our peace was on him; and by his wounds we are healed."* We claim this healing for her now, believing that God will touch her body and bring wholeness.
Practical steps must also be taken to protect her. We urge you to encourage her to seek safety immediately, whether that means staying with trusted family or friends, contacting a local domestic violence shelter, or involving law enforcement if necessary. God does not call her to endure abuse in the name of "commitment." In fact, 1 Corinthians 7:15 states, *"But if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace."* If this man is not a believer—or even if he claims to be but lives in unrepentant sin—she is not bound to remain in this relationship. Her safety and well-being are paramount.
We also pray for your daughter’s emotional and spiritual healing. The trauma she has endured will require time, godly counsel, and the comfort of the Holy Spirit. Psalm 147:3 says, *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds."* We ask God to surround her with believers who will speak life into her, remind her of her identity in Christ, and help her rebuild her self-worth. She is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and no man has the right to treat her as anything less than the daughter of the King.
Lastly, we must address the spiritual warfare at play here. Ephesians 6:12 reminds us, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* This battle is not merely physical; it is spiritual. We take up the full armor of God (Ephesians 6:13-18) and stand in the gap for your daughter, binding every spirit of abuse, fear, and control in the name of Jesus. We loose peace, clarity, and deliverance over her life, declaring that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious daughter who is trapped in a cycle of abuse. Lord, we ask that You would open her eyes to the truth of her situation and break every chain of deception that keeps her bound to this man. We rebuke the spirit of confusion and fear in the name of Jesus, and we declare that she is a child of God, created for love, respect, and dignity. Father, we ask for Your divine protection over her—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Surround her with Your angels, Lord, and hide her in the shadow of Your wings (Psalm 91:4). Heal her body, restore her mind, and mend her broken heart.
We pray for her fiancé, Lord. If there is any hope for redemption in his life, we ask that You would convict his heart of sin and lead him to true repentance. But if he remains unrepentant, we ask that You would remove him from her life completely, so that she may walk in the freedom and peace You have for her. Give her the strength to leave this toxic relationship and the wisdom to seek godly counsel and support.
Father, we also pray for this mother who is interceding for her daughter. Give her wisdom, patience, and supernatural strength as she navigates this difficult situation. Help her to speak life and truth into her daughter’s life, and surround her with a community of believers who will stand with her in prayer and support.
Lord, we declare that this daughter is not a victim but a victor in Christ Jesus. We speak restoration over every area of her life that has been damaged by this abuse—her self-worth, her faith, her future. We ask that You would lead her to a healthy, godly marriage in Your perfect timing, one that honors You and reflects Your love. Until then, fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7) and remind her daily that she is deeply loved by You.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above every name, the One who came to set the captives free. Amen.