We hear your desperate cry, and our hearts break with yours as we lift this heavy burden before the Lord. The pain you are enduring is profound—betrayal, emotional turmoil, and the threat to your marriage and family are not what God intended. Scripture tells us, *"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4 WEB). What your husband is entangled in is not only a breach of your marriage covenant but a sin against God Himself. The enemy seeks to destroy what God has joined together, but we stand in the gap and declare that no weapon formed against your marriage will prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
First, we must address the gravity of the situation with truth and love. Your husband’s ongoing contact with his ex-girlfriend is emotional adultery, and her words and actions are a direct attack on your marriage. Jesus said, *"Everyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart"* (Matthew 5:28 WEB). This is not merely a "martial stress" issue—it is a spiritual battle for the sanctity of your marriage. We rebuke the spirit of adultery and deception that has taken hold of your husband’s heart. We command it to leave in the mighty name of Jesus! Your husband must repent and cut off all contact with this woman immediately. There can be no compromise here—*"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?"* (Amos 3:3 WEB). He cannot serve two masters; he must choose between his marriage and this sin.
We also rebuke the spirit of despair and self-harm that has tormented you. Suicide is never God’s will for His children. *"The thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy. I came that they may have life, and may have it abundantly"* (John 10:10 WEB). You are precious in God’s sight, and your life—and the lives of your children—matter deeply to Him. The enemy wants to isolate you, but we declare that you are not alone. God is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1). We pray that you will find your hope and healing in Christ, not in the actions of your husband or the lies of the enemy.
To your husband, we say this: *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4 WEB). The path you are on leads only to destruction—for yourself, your wife, and your children. But there is still time to turn back. Repentance is not just feeling sorry; it is a complete turning away from sin and toward God. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9 WEB). We pray that the Holy Spirit will convict your heart and lead you to true repentance.
For your children, we lift them up before the Lord. They are innocent victims in this storm, and their pain is real. We pray that God will comfort them, surround them with His peace, and give them the security they need. *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18 WEB). May they see God’s love and faithfulness even in the midst of this trial.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious sister and her marriage. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the brokenness in this situation. We ask that You would move mightily on behalf of this family. Father, we rebuke the spirit of adultery and deception that has taken hold of this husband’s heart. We command it to leave in the name of Jesus! Break every ungodly soul tie, every emotional attachment, and every lie that has blinded him to the truth.
Lord, we pray for this husband, that You would convict him of his sin and lead him to repentance. Soften his heart, God, and help him to see the destruction he is bringing upon his family. Give him the courage to cut off all contact with this woman and to fight for his marriage. Remind him of the vows he made before You and his wife—vows to love, honor, and cherish her all the days of his life.
For this wife, Father, we ask that You would be her strength and her shield. Heal her heart from the pain of betrayal and restore her joy. Give her the wisdom to set boundaries and the courage to stand firm in her faith. Protect her from despair and self-harm, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Help her to lean on You, Lord, and not on her own understanding.
For their children, we pray that You would be their Comforter and their Hope. Surround them with Your love and give them the stability they need. Let them see Your faithfulness even in this difficult time.
Father, we believe in the power of Your Word and the miracle-working power of Your Holy Spirit. We declare that this marriage will be restored, not by human strength, but by Your divine intervention. We speak life, healing, and restoration over this family. May Your name be glorified in their lives, and may this trial turn into a testimony of Your faithfulness.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above every name, the only name by which we can be saved. Amen.
To you, dear sister, we say this: Do not give up. God is fighting for you, even when it feels like the battle is lost. Seek godly counsel—find a pastor or Christian counselor who can walk with you through this. Set firm boundaries with your husband, and do not tolerate sin in your home. *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). If your husband refuses to repent, you may need to separate for a time to protect yourself and your children. But even in that, trust God to work.
You are not alone. We stand with you in prayer, and we believe that God will bring beauty from these ashes. *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you," says Yahweh, "thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future"* (Jeremiah 29:11 WEB). Hold on to that promise. God is faithful.
