Beloved sister, we hear the deep cry of your heart, and we are grieved by the pain and brokenness you carry—but we also rejoice because you have turned to the only One who can truly heal you. You are *not* lost to God, even when you feel lost to yourself. The very fact that you are reaching out proves His Spirit is still drawing you, still calling you home. You may feel unseen, but He has never taken His eyes off you. You may feel worthless, but He paid the highest price for you—His own Son’s blood. You are *precious* to Him, and your pain is not wasted in His hands.
First, we must address something with love but also with urgency: the sin of fornication you’ve confessed. The Word of God is clear that sexual intimacy outside of marriage is a grievous sin against your own body and against God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). You wrote that you’ve given your body away hoping men would see your heart, but sister, *no man’s love can fill the void only God was meant to fill*. You have been chasing counterfeit love in the arms of those who do not cherish you as Christ does, and it has left you shattered. But hear this: **Jesus does not shame the broken who repent.** He says, *“Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest”* (Matthew 11:28). Repentance is not God rejecting you—it is Him *rescuing* you from destruction. Turn away from this sin *today*, and let Him wash you clean. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1), but you *must* turn from this path before it destroys you further.
You also mentioned fear that God won’t hear you because of your failures. Oh, beloved, this is a lie straight from the enemy! The psalmist cried out, *“If you, Yahweh, kept record of sins, Lord, who could stand? But with you there is forgiveness”* (Psalm 130:3-4). Your past does not disqualify you—it is the very reason you *need* Him! Jesus did not die for the righteous but for sinners (Romans 5:8). You do not have to earn His ear; you already have it because of the cross. Stop letting shame keep you from the throne of grace. **Run to Him now.**
As for your longing for marriage, we understand the ache of waiting, but we must gently correct a dangerous mindset: you are not incomplete without a husband. You are *whole in Christ alone*. Marriage is a *gift*, not a right, and it is not the source of your worth. Your worth is found in being a daughter of the King, adopted into His family, co-heir with Christ (Romans 8:17). If God has marriage for you, He will bring it in His perfect timing—but you *must* stop trying to force open doors He has closed. Every time you give yourself to a man who is not your husband, you are settling for crumbs when God wants to give you a feast. **Wait on Him.** *“Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this”* (Psalm 37:4-5). But first, your desire must be *Him*—not just the gift of marriage.
You said you don’t know how to trust God because men have hurt you. Sister, *God is not a man.* Men will fail you, betray you, and leave you—but Jesus *never* will. *“Though my father and mother forsake me, Yahweh will receive me”* (Psalm 27:10). Your trust has been broken by flawed humans, but Jesus is asking you to let Him rebuild it, brick by brick, as you sit at His feet. Start small: trust Him with today. Trust Him with your repentance. Trust Him with your tears. He is gentle with the brokenhearted (Isaiah 42:3).
You are not cursed. You are not forgotten. You are not an empty vessel—you are a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19), and He wants to fill you with His presence. The pain you feel is real, but it is not the end of your story. God sees your tears, and He is collecting them in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). He is *for* you, not against you. The wait is not punishment; it is *preparation*. Let Him mold you into the woman He designed you to be—a woman of prayer, of purity, of unshakable faith.
Now, let us pray over you:
*Heavenly Father, we lift this precious daughter to You, and we thank You that she is *Yours*. Lord, she is weary, broken, and afraid, but You are her Refuge and Strength. We rebuked the lies of the enemy that have told her she is worthless, unloved, or beyond Your reach. Father, *flood her with Your truth*—that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), that You have plans for her *good* and not for harm (Jeremiah 29:11), and that nothing can separate her from Your love (Romans 8:38-39).
We confess the sin of fornication before You and ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Lord, break the chains of sexual sin in her life. Restore her purity, not just physically but in her heart and mind. Heal the wounds of rejection that have driven her to seek love in the wrong places. Father, teach her to find *all* her satisfaction in You, so that when You do bring a godly husband—if it is Your will—she will enter marriage whole and holy, not desperate and broken.
Lord, she has been hurt by men, and it has made her afraid to trust You. Soften her heart, Jesus. Show her that You are *good*, that You are *faithful*, that You are *not like man*. Help her to surrender her timeline, her desires, and her pain into Your hands. Give her the strength to wait on You, even when it’s hard. Fill the loneliness with Your presence. Let her know, deep in her spirit, that she is *never* alone—You are with her always (Matthew 28:20).
Father, we ask that You would *renew her mind* (Romans 12:2). When she looks in the mirror, let her see herself as You see her: *beautiful, chosen, redeemed*. Remove the scales from her eyes that have made her believe her worth is tied to a man’s affection. Let her find her identity in Christ alone.
We pray for divine connections—godly friendships, mentors, and a community of believers who will walk with her, encourage her, and point her to You. If it is Your will, prepare a godly *husband* for her, a man who will love her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), who will cherish her purity and lead her closer to You. But even more, Lord, prepare *her* for him—make her a woman of prayer, of wisdom, of unshakable faith.
Father, she has asked for a sign, for confirmation. We pray You would speak to her in a way she cannot deny—through Your Word, through a sermon, through a dream, through a sister in Christ. Let her *know* that You hear her, that You see her, that You are working even now.
And finally, Lord, we ask that You would give her *hope*. Restore the joy of her salvation (Psalm 51:12). Let her testimony be one of redemption, of a woman who was broken but whom You made whole. Use her story to bring others to You. Let her be a living example of Your faithfulness.
We pray all this in the *powerful, matchless name of Jesus Christ*, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.*
Sister, *you are not alone in this fight*. We are standing with you, praying for you, and believing God for your breakthrough. But you must do your part: **repent, surrender, and trust**. Pick up your Bible and read Psalm 139—let God’s words about *you* sink deep into your soul. Fast from relationships, from distractions, from anything that pulls you away from Him. Seek Him first (Matthew 6:33), and watch what He does.
You said you don’t know what to do. Here is what you *can* do:
1. **Repent** of the sin of fornication and ask God to cleanse you (1 John 1:9).
2. **Forgive** the men who have hurt you—unforgiveness is a chain that keeps *you* bound (Matthew 6:14-15).
3. **Seek God daily** in prayer and His Word. Start with the Gospels—get to know Jesus.
4. **Guard your heart** (Proverbs 4:23). No more giving yourself to men who do not honor God or you.
5. **Wait on the Lord**. Let Him write your love story in His timing.
You are *not* too far gone. You are *not* beyond hope. The God who raised Jesus from the dead can resurrect your heart, your joy, and your future. **Hold on to Him.** He is holding on to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
