We understand the deep pain and urgency in your heart, and we join you in lifting this situation before the Lord, for He alone has the power to break chains of sin and restore what has been broken. Your marriage is a covenant before God, and we stand firmly on His Word, which declares that what God has joined together, no man—or woman—should separate (Mark 10:9). The enemy seeks to destroy marriages, but we know that our God is greater, and He is able to expose deception, bring conviction, and restore righteousness.
First, we must address the spiritual gravity of this situation. Your husband’s actions—if they involve emotional or physical infidelity—are not only a betrayal of your marriage vows but a sin against God (Proverbs 6:32). Adultery is explicitly condemned in Scripture, and it brings destruction to all involved (Hebrews 13:4). ###, too, is participating in sin if she is knowingly involved with a married man, and both must repent before the Lord. We pray that the Holy Spirit would convict their hearts of this sin and lead them to turn away from it completely.
However, we must also gently remind you that while we can and should pray with authority in Jesus’ name, we cannot *decree* or *declare* outcomes as if we have the power to control people’s free will or override God’s sovereign timing. Our prayers are not magic words but humble petitions before the throne of God, trusting in His will and His ways (1 John 5:14-15). It is not our place to demand that God act in a specific way or timeframe, but to seek His will and ask Him to intervene according to His perfect wisdom. He may choose to remove ### from your husband’s life immediately, or He may use this trial to refine your marriage, expose hidden sins, or draw your husband to repentance. Our role is to pray fervently, trust God completely, and submit to His authority.
We also encourage you to examine your own heart in this season. Bitterness, anger, or an attempt to "control" the situation through repetitive declarations can become a stumbling block if not surrendered to the Lord. Ephesians 4:31-32 tells us to *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* This does not mean you ignore the sin or pretend it doesn’t hurt, but that you release the burden of vengeance and justice to God (Romans 12:19). He sees all, and He will act.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this sister and her marriage. Lord, You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16), and You are a God who restores and redeems. We ask that You expose every hidden sin in this situation—every lie, every secret communication, every ungodly tie between ### and ###. Bring conviction so deep that they cannot ignore Your voice, Lord. Let Your Holy Spirit pierce their hearts with the weight of their sin and lead them to true repentance.
Father, we pray that You would sever every ungodly soul tie between ### and ###. Break their emotional and spiritual connection in the name of Jesus. Remove ### from ###’s life completely if it is Your will, and close every door that would allow their sin to continue. Lord, if she is a believer, let her be overwhelmed with godly sorrow for her part in this. If she is not saved, use this to draw her to Yourself, that she may turn from her sin and find forgiveness in Christ.
We pray for ###, that You would remind him of his covenant before You. Soften his heart toward his wife and toward You, Lord. If he has hardened his heart, break through his resistance. Let him see the destruction of his choices and turn back to You and to his marriage. Give him no rest until he repents and seeks reconciliation—first with You, and then with his wife.
Lord, we ask for Your protection over this marriage. Surround it with a hedge of thorns (Hosea 2:6) so that no one can penetrate it with sin or deception. Restore trust, heal wounds, and rebuild what has been broken. Give this sister the strength to forgive as You have forgiven her, and the wisdom to know how to move forward in a way that honors You.
We also pray for our sister—comfort her, Lord. Heal her broken heart and replace her anxiety with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:6-7). Help her to trust You fully, even when she cannot see the outcome. Remind her that You are her defender and her refuge.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would bring godly counsel and support into their lives—whether through a pastor, a biblical counselor, or mature believers who can walk alongside them in this trial. Let Your Church rise up to uphold the sanctity of marriage and to help this couple find their way back to You.
We pray all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone has the authority to break chains and set captives free. Amen.
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We strongly encourage you to seek biblical counseling and the support of your church leadership during this time. If your husband is unwilling to repent, Scripture gives clear guidance on how to handle unrepentant sin in a believer (Matthew 18:15-17). You do not have to walk this path alone. Also, if you haven’t already, we urge you to spend time in God’s Word, particularly studying passages on marriage, forgiveness, and trust in Him (e.g., 1 Corinthians 7, Ephesians 5:22-33, Psalm 37). He is your strength, and He will guide you through this storm.
If your husband is involved in sexual sin with ###, this is adultery, and it must be addressed with the seriousness it deserves. If he claims to be a believer, he must be confronted with the truth of Scripture and called to repentance. If he refuses, the church must be involved (1 Corinthians 5:1-5). Do not minimize the gravity of this sin—it is an affront to God and a betrayal of your marriage. But take heart: God is able to redeem even this. Stay steadfast in prayer, and trust Him to act.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
