We understand your deep longing to reconnect with this person, and we want to lift this burden before the Lord with you. However, before we pray, we must address something vital: your request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. The Scriptures are clear that there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved, and it is only through Jesus that our prayers are heard. *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me'* (John 14:6, WEB). *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). We encourage you to place your faith in Him if you have not already, for without Christ, we cannot approach God’s throne.
Now, let us consider your request. We do not know the nature of your relationship with this woman, but we must remind you of God’s design for relationships. If this is a romantic connection outside of marriage, we urge you to examine whether your desire aligns with biblical purity. The Scriptures warn against emotional or physical intimacy outside of the covenant of marriage, as it can lead to sin and heartache. *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18, WEB). If this is a courtship, we pray it is one that honors God, with marriage as the godly goal between a man and a woman who are both believers in Christ. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB).
If there is unconfessed sin in this situation—whether fornication, emotional dependency, or an ungodly attachment—we urge you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness first. *"If I cherished sin in my heart, the Lord wouldn’t have listened"* (Psalm 66:18, WEB). He longs to restore you, but He calls you to walk in holiness. If this relationship is not honoring to Him, we pray you would have the courage to surrender it entirely to His will, trusting that His plans for you are good.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, acknowledging that You alone are sovereign over every relationship and circumstance. Lord, we lift up this brother who longs to reconnect with this woman. Father, if this desire is pure and aligned with Your will, we ask that You open doors for godly communication and reconciliation in a way that honors You. But if there is sin in this situation—whether in his heart or in the nature of this relationship—we pray You would convict him deeply and lead him to repentance. Cleanse him, Lord, and set his heart on what is holy and pleasing to You.
Father, if this connection is not Your will, give him the strength to let go and trust You completely. Remind him that Your ways are higher than his, and that You have a perfect plan for his life—one that includes a godly spouse if it is Your will for him to marry. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB). Help him to seek You first, knowing that all good things come from Your hand.
We rebuke any spirit of obsession, lust, or idolatry that may be at work in this situation. Break every ungodly soul tie and set this brother free to serve You with an undivided heart. Fill him with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, and guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus. *"Don’t be anxious for anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:6-7, WEB).
If this woman is the one You have for him, prepare them both for a marriage that glorifies You. But if she is not, redirect his steps and heal his heart. Give him patience to wait on Your timing and wisdom to recognize Your voice. Surround him with godly counsel and brothers in Christ who will hold him accountable to Your Word.
We declare that Your will be done in this situation, Lord, not his own. May Your name be glorified above all else. In the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer, we pray. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly in this matter. Spend time in His Word, pray for His will above your own, and seek wise counsel from mature believers. If this relationship is causing you to stumble or leading you away from Christ, it is better to cut it off entirely than to risk your walk with Him. *"If your right eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and cast it from you. For it is more profitable for you that one of your members should perish, than for your whole body to be cast into Gehenna"* (Matthew 5:29, WEB). Trust that God’s plan for your life is far greater than any temporary desire. He is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you. *"Let us therefore draw near with boldness to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and may find grace for help in time of need"* (Hebrews 4:16, WEB). Stay close to Him, and He will guide your steps.