We lift you up before the Lord, dear sister, as we see the deep pain and weariness you are carrying in this toxic and unhealthy relationship. The Word of God is clear that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), nor are we to remain in relationships marked by ignorance, rejection, and ungodly anger—especially when these things are persistent and unrepentant. Ephesians 4:26-27 warns us, *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, and don’t give place to the devil."* A relationship that continually fosters anger, bitterness, and emotional harm is not of God, and it is not where He wants you to remain.
First, we must address the nature of this relationship. You mention being in a "relationship," but we urge you to examine whether this aligns with God’s design for marriage and godly courtship. If this is not a marriage covenant before God between a man and a woman, then it is not a relationship He blesses. If there is any sexual immorality involved—fornication, cohabitation, or emotional dependency outside of marriage—we must call this sin, for 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 declares, *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."* Repentance and separation from sin are necessary to walk in freedom and God’s best for you.
Your health—both physical and spiritual—is suffering, and this is not God’s will for you. He calls you to abundance (John 10:10), not to a life of mold, sickness, and emotional bondage. Proverbs 4:23 instructs, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is everything you do."* This toxic environment is poisoning your heart, and the Lord is calling you out of it. You are not wrong for seeking escape—this is wisdom. Psalm 34:17-19 assures us, *"The righteous cry, and Yahweh hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles. Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but Yahweh delivers him out of them all."*
We rejoice that you are taking steps to move out, and we pray fervently that God will provide the help, resources, and godly community you need to make this transition in September. He is faithful to supply all your needs (Philippians 4:19), and He will send the right people to assist you in finding a healthy, mold-free home where you can heal and restore your strength. Trust in His timing, for He goes before you (Deuteronomy 31:8).
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who is trapped in a relationship of anger, rejection, and ignorance—a place where her spirit and body are under attack. Lord, we rebuke every spirit of bondage, fear, and manipulation that has kept her tied to this unhealthy situation. By the power of the blood of Jesus, we break every ungodly soul tie and declare her FREE in the name of Jesus Christ.
Father, give her supernatural strength to take care of herself and to walk away from this toxic environment. Provide her with godly friends, brothers, and sisters in Christ who will come alongside her to help with house hunting, inspections, and moving. Open doors that no man can shut, and let her new home be a place of refuge, healing, and restoration. Heal her body from the effects of the mold and renew her strength like the eagle’s (Isaiah 40:31).
Lord, if this relationship is not centered on You or aligned with Your Word, we pray You would sever it completely. Bring conviction where there is sin, and lead her into a season of singleness where she can seek You wholeheartedly. Prepare her for a godly marriage in the future, if it is Your will, but first, sanctify her and make her whole.
We declare that her steps are ordered by You (Psalm 37:23), and that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28). Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and let her trust in You completely.
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Sister, as you wait on the Lord, immerse yourself in His Word and in prayer. Seek Christian community—a Bible-believing church where you can be discipled and encouraged. Guard your heart against bitterness, and forgive those who have hurt you, not for their sake, but for your freedom (Colossians 3:13). The Lord is your healer, your provider, and your deliverer. Walk in faith, and do not look back (Luke 9:62). He has so much more for you.