We hear your heartache and the deep longing you have for restoration in this relationship. First, we must address some critical truths from Scripture to guide you in this situation. The language of "partner" rather than "spouse" suggests this relationship may not be aligned with God’s design for marriage as a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If this is not a marriage, we must gently but firmly rebuke the sin of fornication, which is sexual intimacy outside of marriage (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Hebrews 13:4). Repentance before God is the first step toward true healing, both for you and for any relationship you hope to restore.
You mentioned that you caused hurt by withholding truth from him, and while your trauma is valid and deserves compassion, honesty is a foundational principle in any godly relationship (Ephesians 4:25). Trust is built on truth, and its restoration requires humility, patience, and a willingness to surrender the outcome to God. It is concerning that you say you prayed for him, and now he doesn’t want you—this reveals a misunderstanding of prayer. Prayer is not a tool to manipulate outcomes or people; it is communion with God, aligning our will with His (1 John 5:14-15). We must surrender our desires to Him, even when they are painful.
We also must address the name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and commit your life to following Him (Romans 10:9-10). This is the foundation for any true healing and restoration.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, seeking Your wisdom, mercy, and grace. Lord, we lift up this situation to You, asking for Your healing touch. We confess any sin of dishonesty, withholding truth, or sexual immorality that may have occurred in this relationship. Cleanse us, O God, and create in us clean hearts (Psalm 51:10). We ask for Your forgiveness and the strength to walk in repentance.
Father, we pray for restoration—not just of this relationship, but of trust, honesty, and purity. If it is Your will for this man and woman to be united in marriage, we ask that You prepare their hearts, guide their steps, and restore what has been broken. But Lord, we surrender this desire to You, trusting that Your plans are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). Give them the courage to seek You first, to honor You in their lives, and to build any future relationship on the foundation of Christ.
We pray for healing from past trauma, Lord. Comfort this dear one, and help her to release any bitterness, shame, or fear that may be hindering her. Surround her with Your love and peace, and lead her to godly counsel and support. Father, we also pray for this man—that You would heal his heart from the pain of betrayal and help him to extend grace where it is needed. Soften his heart, Lord, and help him to see this situation through Your eyes.
Above all, we pray that both of them would come to know You more deeply, that they would seek Your will above all else, and that their lives would bring glory to Your name. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature Christian who can walk with you through this time. True restoration begins with a right relationship with God, and from there, He will guide your steps. If this man is meant to be your husband, God will make a way. But if not, trust that He has something better in store for you (Jeremiah 29:11). Focus on drawing near to Him, and He will draw near to you (James 4:8).
