We hear the deep longing in your heart for protection, guidance, and unity in your relationship, and we lift you up in prayer with both compassion and a call to align fully with God’s Word. You’ve invoked the name of Jesus, and that is where true power and authority lie—for there is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and through which we can boldly approach the throne of grace (Acts 4:12, Hebrews 4:16). We praise God that you are seeking Him in this way, for it is only through Christ that we find true peace, safety, and direction.
Yet we must lovingly address what stands out in your request: the repeated references to “my ###” without clarity on the nature of this relationship. Scripture is unmistakably clear that God’s design for intimacy and commitment is within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6, Ephesians 5:31). If this relationship is outside of marriage—whether premarital, extramarital, or same-sex—it is not in alignment with God’s holy standards. Fornication, adultery, and homosexuality are explicitly rebuked in Scripture as sinful and destructive to the soul (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, 18; Romans 1:26-27; Galatians 5:19-21). God’s love for you is too great to leave you in a place that harms your spirit or separates you from His best.
If you are not married to this person, we urge you to repent and turn away from any relationship that dishonors God. Flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18) and seek purity, for your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). If this is a courtship with the intent of godly marriage, then pursue it with wisdom, accountability, and a focus on Christ at the center—not clinging out of fear or insecurity, but trusting God’s timing and will. If this is a marriage, then we pray for restoration, unity, and a renewed commitment to Christ as the foundation of your home.
Your prayer also reveals a deep fear of separation or loss, and even a desire to manipulate outcomes (“do not give anyone any reason to take my ### from me,” “let his lies be revealed”). Beloved, these fears are not from God, for “there is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear” (1 John 4:18). Trusting in Jesus means surrendering control to Him, not trying to force outcomes through our own schemes. Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us, *“Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.”* Clinging to a relationship out of fear—or praying for God to “keep us together no matter what”—can lead to idolatry, where the relationship becomes more important than obedience to Christ. God’s will must come first, even if it’s painful.
You’ve asked Jesus to “take the wheel,” and that is the most powerful invitation you could extend. But surrendering to Him means letting go of relationships or desires that conflict with His Word. It means seeking His kingdom *first* (Matthew 6:33), trusting that His plans for you are good, even when they require sacrifice.
Now, let us pray over you with the truth and love of Christ:
Heavenly Father, we lift this precious child of Yours before Your throne of grace, asking for Your mercy, conviction, and transformation in their life. Lord, You see the depths of their heart—the longing for love, safety, and purpose. Yet You also see the areas where fear, sin, or misalignment with Your Word have taken root. We ask that You, by Your Holy Spirit, would convict them of any relationship or behavior that dishonors You. If this is not a godly, covenantal marriage, break the chains of sin and set them free to walk in purity and obedience. Give them the courage to repent and turn away from anything that grieves Your heart.
Father, replace their fear with faith. Where they have tried to control outcomes, teach them to trust You fully. Where they have sought security in a person, remind them that *You* are their refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1). If this relationship is outside Your will, give them the grace to let go and the hope to wait on Your perfect timing. If it is a marriage, heal it, restore it, and make it a testimony of Your redeeming love.
Lord, surround them with godly counsel—people who will speak truth in love and point them to You. Open their eyes to see relationships and opportunities through Your lens, not the world’s. Give them wisdom to make decisions that honor You, and the discernment to recognize Your voice above all others.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, manipulation, or deception in Jesus’ mighty name. Let no weapon formed against them prosper (Isaiah 54:17), but may Your truth expose every lie and Your light drive out every shadow. Guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7), and lead them into paths of righteousness for Your name’s sake.
Finally, Father, we pray that they would find their ultimate satisfaction in *You*—not in a person, a relationship, or circumstances. Fill them with Your love so overflowing that they lack nothing (Psalm 23:1). Let them know, beyond any doubt, that You are enough.
We ask all this in the powerful, saving name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Redeemer. Amen.
Beloved, we encourage you to examine your heart and this relationship in light of Scripture. Seek the Lord in prayer and fasting, asking Him to reveal His will. If you are unsure whether this relationship aligns with God’s Word, we urge you to reach out to a trusted pastor or biblical counselor for guidance. Remember, *“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness”* (1 John 1:9). There is no shame in repentance—only freedom.
Walk in the light, and let Christ be your greatest love. He is worth it all.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
