TJ and his ex

[Anonymous]

Hello, I hope you can help me. Can you please pray for my two friends? My friend ###’s ex-girlfriend is troubled and seems to be taking advantage of him. Based on what I hear, she and her husband have been having issues with money and she doesn’t want to work. Therefore, she is going around seeking help in a manipulative manner. She has done this before she got married multiple times, not only to ### but to her family and ###’s family too. I feel bad for even coming to you, but I care very dearly for ### and she is making it really hard for him to move on with his life and meet someone else because she keeps bugging him. She will get in a relationship with her, then she will use and cheat on him, then leave him for someone else. Then a few months or a year later she resurfaces and starts bugging him again. He is almost 30 years old and loves her, but she doesn’t reciprocate it and is not loyal to him. I feel bad for her as well. Our family helped her in the past, but we got used to it. She used to go to church with her family and even got ### to go and get baptized in high school. However, she had one too many hardships that she turned away from God and now calls her religion Pegan. Can you please pray for her to be guided back to the church, Bible, God, Jesus, and her family? Despite the stain she has put her family through over the years too, they still love her and want to help. Can you ask God to help guide her to her family for help again instead of her posting stuff on social media? It was a negative post that got ### concerned about her and he reached out. Now she is trying to get him to help her yet again to get out of another relationship she got herself into, but she’s married with another kid. She needs to lean on her family and not ###. He always wants to help, and that’s a great character trait. It’s just she promises a relationship with her and him, and it happens for a few months, then she gets restless and leaves him or starts cheating on him. He gets his heart broken each time, and he doesn’t learn his lesson. Can you also pray for ### to be blessed for his good deeds but also guide him back to church as well? His ex who guided him towards church all those years ago also guided him away from church. He has since become introverted and doesn’t go out much. He is a gamer now and is obese. I fear that if he doesn’t get a Divine intervention soon… I don’t know. I am so worried. Can you pray that his attention gets pulled away from his ex-girlfriend who is still married and onto someone else? Maybe pray that someone else comes into his life with good intentions. He wants to settle down and have a family of his own, but his ex doesn’t want that with him. But his ex will not leave him alone long enough for him to move on. He has so much to offer. I pray that his ex gets Divine intervention too so she can reach out to God and her family to help her and her two children. Instead of bothering ### who can’t afford to take care of her and her children. Can you also pray for me too? I have had my ups and downs throughout my life. My grandma and mother were both abused over and over in life. I was abused too. I was able to learn from my experiences and my family’s experiences to make sure I do not find myself in that position again. I sometimes wonder if I was a good enough mother to my two children to help guide them. However, my son and daughter keep finding themselves in situations where people who don’t have the best intentions. Then they get hurt. Just like ### and his ex-girlfriend “###”. Can you pray that the right godly people reach out to my son and guide him back towards God? Thankfully, my daughter is good on that, but it would be nice if she could find someone who would not use the Bible against her to control her. I am sorry for the long request. I know I was rambling some. There are too many details, and I am anxious and sorry for being all over the place in my request. I hope you can forgive me. There is so much to say. I’m so worried for my friend. My own experiences have taught me how to see things clearly. He has the rose-colored glasses on. My mother did too for over 10 years with her abusive ex-husband, my stepdad. This is why I am so worried about ###. His ex is trying to get him to commit to getting an apartment for her and him and another guy ### for 6 months from now. I have PTSD from my own experiences, and his girlfriend is triggering old experiences from my own experiences and what we had to deal with my mother’s abusive ex. I smell trouble and desperate for any prayers you can give. God bless and thank you for any prayer help you can give. Sincerely, ###

 

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We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up these deep concerns and burdens to the One who is mighty to save and faithful to restore. There is much to address here, and we will do so with truth, love, and the authority of Scripture, for God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and a light to our path (Psalm 119:105).

First, we must address the absence of the name of Jesus in this request. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved, and it is only through Christ that we have access to the Father (Acts 4:12, John 14:6). Without Him, our prayers are empty and our hope is vain. We urge you to call upon the name of Jesus in all things, for He alone is the mediator between God and man (1 Timothy 2:5). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we plead with you to do so now. Confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). This is the foundation of all prayer, all hope, and all transformation.

Now, let us turn to the specific matters at hand. The situation with your friend ### and his ex-girlfriend is deeply troubling, and it is clear that both are ensnared in patterns of sin and brokenness. The behavior described—manipulation, repeated infidelity, financial exploitation, and emotional turmoil—is not of God. The Bible warns us that bad company corrupts good morals (1 Corinthians 15:33), and we see this playing out in ###’s life. His ex-girlfriend’s actions are not those of someone walking in repentance or faith. She has turned away from God, embraced false beliefs, and is living in rebellion against His Word. Her marriage is in shambles, and yet she continues to seek out ###, dragging him into her chaos. This is not love; it is destruction. The Bible is clear: "Do not be deceived: 'Evil company corrupts good habits.'" (1 Corinthians 15:33). ### must cut ties with her completely, for her influence is toxic and her intentions are not pure.

To ###, we say this with love but with urgency: You cannot save her. Only God can. You are not her husband, and she is not your wife. She is married to another man, and any emotional or physical involvement with her is adultery in God’s eyes (Matthew 5:28). You are enabling her sin by continuing to engage with her, and in doing so, you are also sinning. The Bible commands us to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18) and to avoid even the appearance of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22). You must break all contact with her, not out of hatred, but out of obedience to God and love for your own soul. Proverbs 4:23 tells us, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." You are allowing her to break your heart repeatedly, and this is not God’s will for you. He has a plan for you, a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11), but you cannot walk into it while you are shackled to this unhealthy, sinful relationship.

We also address the fact that you are not married, yet you have been in repeated sexual relationships with this woman. This is fornication, and the Bible is clear that fornicators will not inherit the Kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). Repent of this sin, turn away from it, and seek God’s forgiveness. He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins if we confess them (1 John 1:9). But repentance requires a change of direction. You cannot keep returning to this woman and expect God’s blessing. You must flee from this relationship and seek godly counsel and accountability.

Your weight and isolation are also concerns. The Bible tells us that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), and we are to glorify God with them. This includes taking care of our physical health. We encourage you to seek support in this area, whether through a local church, a trusted friend, or a professional who can help you make healthy changes. Additionally, isolation is not God’s design for us. He created us for community (Hebrews 10:24-25), and we urge you to reconnect with a Bible-believing church where you can grow in faith and find godly fellowship.

As for your friend’s ex-girlfriend, we pray that God would open her eyes to the truth of her sin and her need for Him. She has turned to false gods and is living in rebellion, but God is able to soften even the hardest heart. Ezekiel 36:26 says, "I will also give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you. I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh." We pray that she would turn from her wicked ways, repent of her sins, and seek God with all her heart. We also pray that she would turn to her family for support, rather than manipulating others, and that she would take responsibility for her own life and her children. The Bible is clear that those who do not provide for their families are worse than unbelievers (1 Timothy 5:8). She must seek God’s forgiveness and make amends for the harm she has caused.

We also lift up your concerns for your own children. It is a godly desire to want them to walk in truth and avoid the pitfalls of sin and deception. We pray that the Lord would surround them with godly influences, men and women of faith who will speak truth into their lives and guide them toward Christ. For your daughter, we pray that she would find a godly husband who loves her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), not someone who would twist Scripture to control or manipulate her. For your son, we pray that he would turn his heart fully to the Lord and seek His will above all else. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." We pray that both your children would walk in this truth and find their identity in Christ alone.

Finally, we lift you up, dear sister. Your heart is heavy with the burdens of those you love, and we know that God sees your pain and your faithfulness. You have endured much, and yet you continue to intercede for others. This is a beautiful reflection of Christ’s love. However, we also encourage you to guard your own heart and seek healing for the trauma you have experienced. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He wants to restore you fully. Do not carry these burdens alone. Cast all your anxieties on Him, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).

Now, let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We thank You that You are a God who hears our prayers and sees our struggles. Lord, we lift up ### and his ex-girlfriend to You. Father, we ask that You would break the chains of sin that bind them both. For ###, we pray that You would give him the strength to cut all ties with this woman, to repent of any sin in his own life, and to turn fully to You. Lord, open his eyes to see the truth of this situation—that she is not the one for him, and that continuing in this cycle will only bring more pain. Father, we pray that You would surround him with godly men who will hold him accountable and encourage him in his walk with You. Help him to flee from sexual immorality and to pursue holiness. Restore his heart, Lord, and heal the wounds that have been inflicted upon him. Give him a hunger for Your Word and a desire to return to church, where he can grow in faith and find community.

For ###’s ex-girlfriend, we pray that You would convict her heart of her sin. Lord, she has turned away from You and embraced false beliefs, but You are able to draw her back. Father, we pray that You would bring her to a place of repentance, that she would turn from her manipulative ways and seek forgiveness from those she has hurt. Lord, provide for her and her children, but do not let her continue to exploit others. Bring her to a place of humility where she seeks help from her family and turns to You for her needs. Father, we pray that You would break the hold of the enemy over her life and set her free from deception. Let her encounter Your truth in a way she cannot ignore.

Lord, we also lift up the concerns of this dear sister who has shared these burdens with us. Father, she has endured so much pain, and yet she continues to intercede for others. We pray that You would heal her heart, Lord, and restore her fully from the trauma she has experienced. Give her peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7) and surround her with Your love. Father, we pray for her children—that You would protect them from those who would seek to harm or manipulate them. Draw her son back to You, Lord, and place godly mentors in his life. For her daughter, we pray that You would bring a godly husband into her life, a man who loves You and will cherish her as Christ loves the church. Protect her from those who would misuse Your Word to control her.

Father, we ask all these things in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We thank You that You are faithful, that You hear our prayers, and that You are working all things together for the good of those who love You (Romans 8:28). Give us wisdom, Lord, and help us to walk in obedience to Your Word. We trust You, Father, and we give You all the glory. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.

 

[Valadorael]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

Dear ### and ###,

Our hearts go out to you both as you navigate these challenging situations. We want to assure you that we're here to support and pray with you.

Firstly, we want to encourage you, ###, to prioritize your own well-being and safety. It's important to set boundaries and protect your heart. We understand that it's difficult to distance yourself from someone you care about, but continuing to engage with your ex-girlfriend when she's married and manipulating you is not healthy or fair to you. Remember, you cannot save her; only God can. We urge you to seek godly counsel and accountability to help you through this.

As for your ex-girlfriend, we pray that she would turn from her manipulative ways and seek help from her family and God. We believe that God can soften even the hardest heart and bring about change. We also pray for her children, that they would be protected and provided for.

We want to acknowledge the pain and trauma you've both experienced, ### and ###. We pray for healing and restoration for both of you. We encourage you, ###, to seek help and support for your own healing journey.

Let's continue to pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You, laying down these burdens and concerns at Your feet. We thank You for Your unfailing love and faithfulness.

Lord, we lift up ###. Give him the strength to make difficult decisions and the wisdom to know what is best for him. Surround him with godly men who will support and encourage him. Help him to flee from sexual immorality and pursue holiness. Restore his heart, Lord, and heal the wounds he's experienced.

We pray for ###'s ex-girlfriend. Convict her heart, Lord, and bring her to a place of repentance. Help her to turn from her manipulative ways and seek forgiveness from those she's hurt. Provide for her and her children, but do not let her continue to exploit others. Set her free from deception and bring her to a place of humility where she seeks help from her family and turns to You for her needs.

We also lift up our dear ###. We pray for her healing and restoration. Give her peace that surpasses all understanding. Protect her children and draw her son back to You. Bring a godly husband into her daughter's life, a man who loves You and will cherish her as Christ loves the church.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.