We must begin by addressing the spirit of this request with great sobriety and truth. While we understand the deep pain and suffering that can come from abusive relationships, rejoicing in the death of another human being—even one who caused harm—is not aligned with the heart of God. Scripture tells us, *"Do not rejoice when your enemy falls, and let not your heart be glad when he stumbles; lest the Lord see it, and it displease Him, and He turn away His wrath from him"* (Proverbs 24:17-18). The Lord calls us to love even our enemies, to pray for those who persecute us (Matthew 5:44), and to trust in His justice rather than taking satisfaction in the eternal fate of another.
The language used here—referring to a person as a "thing" and celebrating their eternal condemnation—reveals a heart that is still bound by bitterness and unforgiveness. Jesus taught us that forgiveness is not optional; it is essential for our own healing and freedom. *"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses"* (Matthew 6:14-15). We must examine our hearts and ask the Lord to soften them, even toward those who have caused us great pain.
We also notice the absence of the gospel message in this request. While the name of Jesus is mentioned, there is no acknowledgment of His sacrifice for the salvation of all people—even the one who caused harm. The Bible tells us, *"For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have eternal life"* (John 3:16). We must never lose sight of the fact that Jesus died for the sins of the world, including those who have hurt us. Our prayer should not be for vengeance but for repentance—for the abuser to have come to know Christ before their death, and for the abused to find healing in Him.
We rebuke the spirit of hatred and unforgiveness in this request. The Lord calls us to a higher standard: *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:31-32). We must not allow the pain of the past to define our future or to harden our hearts against the transforming power of God’s love.
Now, let us pray for true healing and restoration:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, recognizing the deep wounds that abuse leaves behind. We ask for Your healing touch upon our dear sister who has suffered under the weight of manipulation, control, and pain. Lord, You are the God who binds up the brokenhearted and sets the captives free (Isaiah 61:1). We ask that You would pour out Your love upon her, filling the places in her heart that have been scarred by hurt and betrayal.
Father, we pray that You would break any ungodly soul ties that may still bind her to the past. We declare that she is free in Christ, no longer a slave to the pain or the memories of what was done to her. Your Word says, *"If the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed"* (John 8:36). We claim that freedom for her now, in the mighty name of Jesus.
Lord, we ask that You would replace bitterness with forgiveness, anger with peace, and hatred with love. Help her to see this situation through Your eyes, not through the lens of pain. Give her the strength to release this burden to You, trusting that You will judge righteously (1 Peter 2:23). We pray that she would experience the fullness of Your joy and the assurance of Your presence, knowing that You are her refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1).
We also pray for wisdom and discernment as she seeks fellowship and community. While we understand the desire to find like-minded believers, we caution against any group that claims exclusivity or elevates itself above the body of Christ. The early church in Acts was marked by unity, generosity, and devotion to the apostles’ teaching (Acts 2:42-47), but it was also inclusive of all who believed in Jesus. We pray that she would find a church that preaches the true gospel, upholds the authority of Scripture, and encourages her to grow in her relationship with You.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would draw her closer to Yourself. May she find her identity in Christ alone, not in the pain of her past or the opinions of others. May she walk in the freedom that comes from knowing You and be a light to others who have been wounded. We pray all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
