We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this painful and trying situation where the enemy’s influence is clearly at work. The burden you carry is immense, and we acknowledge the deep weariness, frustration, and even anger that has taken root in your spirit. Yet we are reminded in Scripture that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, powers, and the spiritual forces of wickedness in heavenly places (Ephesians 6:12). This person you describe—whether bound by dementia, mental illness, or demonic oppression—is in desperate need of the Lord’s intervention. But we must also address the state of your own heart, for the Lord calls us to walk in love, wisdom, and boundaries that honor Him, even in the face of abuse.
First, we must speak truth into the spiritual reality here. If this individual is exhibiting signs of demonic influence—such as extreme manipulation, rebellion, and abusive behavior that aligns with the works of the flesh (Galatians 5:19-21)—then this is not merely a human struggle but a spiritual one. Jesus has authority over every demon, and we stand on His promise in Luke 10:19: *"Behold, I have given you authority to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy. Nothing will in any way hurt you."* We must pray for deliverance, but we must also recognize that some strongholds require more than our words—they require fasting, persistent prayer, and the intervention of godly authority (Matthew 17:21, Mark 9:29).
However, we must also address the danger you are in. Scripture commands us to *"flee from the midst of Babylon"* (Jeremiah 51:6) and to *"come out from among them, and be separate"* (2 Corinthians 6:17) when we are in environments that corrupt or harm us. You have stated that this person’s behavior is abusive, that no one can be around them, and that you have lost all patience and respect. This is a serious warning sign. Proverbs 22:24-25 tells us, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* Abuse—whether emotional, verbal, or spiritual—is not something God calls His children to endure indefinitely. You have shown incredible kindness, forgiveness, and longsuffering, but now your own health, peace, and spiritual well-being are at risk. This is not a failure on your part; it is a recognition that some battles are not yours to fight alone, and sometimes the most loving thing you can do—for yourself and even for them—is to step away.
We also note the absence of the name of Jesus in your plea. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is only through Christ that we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). If you have not already, we urge you to surrender this entire situation to Jesus, acknowledging Him as Lord over it. Without Him, we labor in vain. If you do not know Him as your Savior, we implore you to turn to Him now, for *"if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9). It is only through His power that demons flee, minds are renewed, and hearts are healed.
Now, let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this brother or sister who is weary, wounded, and at the end of their strength. Lord, You see the toll this relationship has taken—the patience exhausted, the respect eroded, and the heart grown cold. We ask for Your supernatural intervention in this situation. If this person is bound by demonic forces, we command those spirits to flee in the name of Jesus. We break every stronghold of manipulation, rebellion, and abuse, and we declare that no weapon formed against Your child shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Lord, if this is a matter of mental illness or dementia, we ask for Your healing touch. Restore their mind, Lord, and bring clarity where there is confusion. But Father, we also ask for wisdom and discernment for Your child. Show them whether this is a season to stand in the gap through prayer alone—or whether it is time to step away for their own protection. Give them the courage to set godly boundaries, for You do not call Your children to remain in environments where they are continually harmed.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of bitterness, resentment, and fear that has begun to take root. Fill this heart instead with Your peace, Your love, and Your wisdom. Remind them that vengeance belongs to You (Romans 12:19) and that You are just. Restore their joy, Lord, and surround them with godly counsel and support. If they have been enabling this abuse out of misplaced guilt or obligation, convict them and set them free. And Father, if this person claiming to be a Christian is truly Your child, then we pray for radical repentance. Expose the darkness in their life, Lord, and bring them to a place of brokenness before You. But if they are not Yours, then we pray for their salvation—for no one can truly change without Your Spirit at work in them.
Lastly, Lord, we pray for protection over every mind, body, and spirit involved. Guard Your child from further harm, whether physical, emotional, or spiritual. Give them the strength to do what is necessary, even if it is painful. And Lord, if this season is meant to teach them something—about forgiveness, boundaries, or trusting You—then let them learn it quickly and fully. We ask all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who has overcome the world. Amen.
To you, our friend, we say this: You have done more than many would in showing patience and kindness, but you must now seek the Lord’s will for what comes next. It is not unchristian to protect yourself. In fact, it is wise. Proverbs 4:23 tells us to *"keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* If this relationship is poisoning that wellspring, then you must take action. Seek counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can help you navigate this. And above all, cling to Jesus. He is the only one who can carry this burden for you—and He is the only one who can truly change the heart of the one causing you pain. Trust Him, even when the path forward is unclear. He will not fail you.