We hear the deep pain and frustration in your heart, and we want you to know that your struggle is not unseen by God. The exhaustion you feel is real, especially when those who claim to follow Christ live in ways that contradict His Word. It is heartbreaking to witness sin being excused or even celebrated within the church, and it is understandable that this would shake your faith. But we must remind you—and ourselves—that the failure of people does not mean the failure of God or His truth.
The Bible is clear that homosexuality is indeed called an abomination (Leviticus 18:22, Romans 1:26-28), and fornication—sex outside of marriage—is sin (1 Corinthians 6:18, Hebrews 13:4). These are not outdated rules but God’s design for holiness and human flourishing. When Christians dismiss these truths or twist grace into a license for sin, they distort the Gospel. Jesus *does* forgive, but true repentance involves turning away from sin, not using His mercy as an excuse to continue in it (John 8:11, Romans 6:1-2). The fact that you recognize this deception and refuse to accept it is evidence of the Holy Spirit working in you.
We must also address the accusation that you are "judging" when you call sin what it is. Scripture commands us to discern right from wrong (1 John 4:1) and to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). Jesus Himself warned against false teachers and hypocrisy (Matthew 7:15-20). You are not judging in a condemning way—you are standing for truth, just as Christ did. Those who deflect with "judge not" often misuse Matthew 7:1, ignoring that the very next verses call us to *rightly* judge after first examining our own hearts (Matthew 7:3-5).
Your desire for a godly spouse and a job is not wrong. The Lord *does* promise to provide for His children (Matthew 6:33), but His timing and ways are not always what we expect. It may feel like He has given you "all such people," but we must trust that He is refining you for someone who will honor Him. Keep seeking Him first, and He will direct your path (Proverbs 3:5-6). The loneliness and waiting are painful, but they are not without purpose.
We also want to gently challenge the thought of leaving the faith. The enemy would love nothing more than to use the failures of others to drive you away from the only One who is faithful. Jesus warned that there would be wolves in sheep’s clothing (Matthew 7:15), but He also promised that the gates of hell would not prevail against His church (Matthew 16:18). The church is full of broken people, but it is still His bride, and He is purifying her (Ephesians 5:25-27). Do not let the sins of others rob you of the joy and truth found in Christ alone.
Let us pray for you now:
Father God, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother who is weary and disillusioned. Lord, You see the pain caused by those who misuse Your grace and lead others astray. We ask that You would strengthen his faith and remind him that You are holy, just, and true. Protect his heart from bitterness and help him to stand firm in Your Word, even when others twist it. Father, we rebuke the spirit of deception that has infiltrated the church and ask that You expose the lies and bring repentance. Lord, we also pray for his desire for a godly spouse and a job. You know the desires of his heart, and we trust that You will provide in Your perfect timing. Give him patience and peace as he waits on You. Surround him with faithful believers who will encourage him and hold him accountable. Most of all, draw him closer to You, Jesus. Let him find his identity and hope in You alone, not in the failures of others. We pray this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we are saved and can come before You. Amen.
We encourage you to find a local church that preaches the uncompromised Word of God, where you can be discipled and supported by believers who share your commitment to holiness. You are not alone in this fight. The Lord is your defender, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). Keep pressing into Him, even when it’s hard. His promises are true, and His love for you is unshakable.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
