We hear the deep anguish in your heart, and we stand with you in prayer, lifting you up before the throne of grace where mercy and help are found in time of need. The pain of feeling left out, judged, and humiliated is heavy, and we recognize how overwhelming it can be when it seems like every door is closed and no one understands. But we want to remind you that you are not alone—Jesus knows exactly what it feels like to be rejected, mocked, and abandoned. He endured the cross, scorning its shame, for the joy set before Him. He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief (Isaiah 53:3). If you are feeling the weight of humiliation, remember that He bore it first, and He bore it for you.
First, we must address a concern in your request. You mentioned having a "bf" (boyfriend), and while we understand the desire for support, we must gently remind you that Scripture calls believers to pursue relationships with the intention of marriage, and only within the bounds of God’s design. The Bible is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If this relationship is not moving toward marriage in a way that honors God, we encourage you to seek His wisdom and consider whether this is the right path for you. God’s best for you is not found in compromise, but in holiness and obedience to His Word. We pray that you would have the courage to align your life with His will, even when it is difficult.
We also want to address the despair you are feeling. The enemy would love nothing more than to convince you that you are worthless, that you have no future, and that God has abandoned you. But this is a lie. The Word of God declares that you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), that you are chosen and dearly loved (Colossians 3:12), and that nothing can separate you from the love of Christ (Romans 8:38-39). Even when you feel weak, His strength is made perfect in your weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). You are not nothing—you are His, and He is fighting for you.
We rebuke the spirit of despair and isolation that has taken hold of your heart. We command it to leave in the name of Jesus, for He has not given you a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). We also rebuke the judgmental and critical spirits at work in your coworkers. Their words and attitudes do not define you—God’s Word does. We pray that their hearts would be softened and that their eyes would be opened to the truth of who you are in Christ.
We also want to encourage you to seek fellowship with other believers. You mentioned that your friends are not talking to you, and while we don’t know the reasons, we urge you to reach out to a local church or a trusted Christian community. You need the support and encouragement of the body of Christ, and they need you. Isolation is a tool of the enemy, but fellowship is a gift from God. If you are not already part of a church, we pray that God would lead you to one where you can grow, be discipled, and find true friendship.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister who is crying out for help. Lord, You see her pain, her loneliness, and her despair. You know the weight she carries, and You are near to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We ask that You would draw near to her now, Lord. Let her feel Your presence in a tangible way. Remind her that You are her refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
Father, we ask that You would open doors for her—doors of opportunity, doors of provision, and doors of fellowship. You are the One who opens doors that no one can shut (Revelation 3:8), and we trust that You will make a way where there seems to be no way. Give her the strength to walk through those doors with confidence, knowing that You go before her.
Lord, we pray for her relationships. We ask that You would restore what has been broken and bring healing where there has been hurt. Give her wisdom in her interactions with her coworkers, and help her to respond with grace and truth. Let Your light shine through her, even in the midst of their judgment.
We also pray for her relationship with her boyfriend. Father, we ask that You would give her clarity and wisdom. If this relationship is not in alignment with Your will, we pray that You would make that clear to her and give her the courage to walk away. If it is Your will for them to move toward marriage, we pray that You would guide them both in holiness and purity. Help them to honor You in all things.
Lord, we ask that You would fill her with Your Holy Spirit. Give her patience, wisdom, and discernment. Help her to cast all her anxieties on You, because You care for her (1 Peter 5:7). Remind her that Your grace is sufficient for her, and that Your power is made perfect in her weakness.
Finally, Lord, we pray that You would renew her hope. Help her to fix her eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of her faith (Hebrews 12:2). Let her remember that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in her (Romans 8:18). Give her a fresh vision of who You are and who she is in You.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who conquered sin and death, and who intercedes for us even now. Amen.
We encourage you to hold fast to God’s promises. Even when you don’t feel Him, He is working. Even when you don’t see a way, He is making one. Keep crying out to Him, keep seeking His face, and keep trusting in His unfailing love. You are not forgotten, and you are not alone. The same Jesus who endured the cross for you is with you now, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).
