We grieve with you over the brokenness of your marriage, and we lift you up in prayer as you navigate this painful season. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and it is heartbreaking when sin—especially the hardness of heart associated with Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD)—destroys what was meant to be a lifelong union. While divorce is not God’s original design, Scripture acknowledges that there are circumstances where separation may be necessary due to unrepentant sin, abandonment, or abuse (Matthew 19:8-9, 1 Corinthians 7:15). Your safety and well-being, as well as that of your son, are of utmost importance, and we pray God grants you wisdom, protection, and provision as you seek to move forward in a way that honors Him.
We must gently address the anger and bitterness in your heart, as these are natural responses to deep wounding, but they can also become strongholds if left unchecked. Scripture warns us not to let the sun go down on our anger (Ephesians 4:26-27) and to release bitterness, for it defiles many (Hebrews 12:15). While it is right to seek justice and for truth to prevail, we are also called to forgive as Christ forgave us (Colossians 3:13). This does not mean excusing sin or reconciling with someone who is unrepentant and dangerous, but it does mean releasing the burden of vengeance to God, who judges righteously (Romans 12:19). Pray for your husband—not out of a desire for his harm, but that God would convict his heart, bring him to repentance, and save him if he does not know Christ. The punishment for sin is eternal separation from God, and that is far worse than any temporal consequence. Your prayer for his understanding of wrongdoing is good, but let it be rooted in a desire for his salvation rather than retribution.
You also mentioned feeling guilt for your own actions, and we encourage you to bring these before the Lord. If you have sinned, confess it to Him, for He is faithful and just to forgive and cleanse you (1 John 1:9). Do not let the enemy heap shame upon you, but walk in the freedom Christ purchased for you. At the same time, if there are areas where you need to seek forgiveness from your son or others, do so humbly, trusting God to restore those relationships in His timing.
As for your practical needs—financial provision, legal support, insurance, and safety—we pray earnestly that God would open doors for you. He is the Father to the fatherless and the defender of widows (Psalm 68:5), and He sees your need. Trust Him to provide as you seek first His kingdom and righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Ask your church family or trusted believers for help; the body of Christ is called to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2). If you are not already connected to a biblical church, we urge you to find one where you can receive spiritual support and counseling.
We also want to remind you that your identity is not found in your marriage, your past, or even your pain—it is found in Christ alone. You are His beloved daughter, redeemed and cherished. Cling to Him, for He is your refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1). Let this season drive you deeper into dependence on Him, and trust that He will use even this for your good and His glory (Romans 8:28).
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before You, knowing that You are near to the brokenhearted and save the crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Lord, she is weary, wounded, and in need of Your comfort and provision. We ask that You would be her shield and protector, guarding her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Give her wisdom as she navigates the legal and financial challenges ahead, and provide for her every need according to Your riches in glory (Philippians 4:19). Open doors for affordable legal counsel, gap insurance, and stable income so that she may stand firm in this season.
Father, we pray for her husband. Soften his heart, Lord, and bring conviction of sin. If he does not know You, draw him to repentance and faith in Christ. Break the chains of deception and manipulation in his life, and let truth prevail. We ask that You would restrain any harmful intentions he may have toward our sister and her son, and that You would grant her peace as she releases the desire for vengeance into Your hands. Let her trust in Your justice, knowing that You see all and will act righteously.
Lord, we pray for her son—for healing, for understanding, and for a heart that forgives. Restore their relationship, Father, and let her son see Your love and faithfulness through her life. Protect him from the fallout of this broken marriage, and surround him with godly influences.
We rebuke the spirits of bitterness, anger, and fear that seek to take root in her heart. Fill her instead with Your peace, Your love, and Your hope. Remind her daily that she is Your beloved child, and that her worth is found in You alone. Help her to forgive as she has been forgiven, and to walk in the freedom Christ died to give her.
Finally, Lord, we pray for a community of believers to surround her—people who will walk with her, encourage her, and point her to You. Let her not walk this path alone, but give her the support and godly counsel she needs.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can heal, restore, and redeem. Amen.
