We hear the deep pain and exhaustion in your heart, and we lift you up before the Lord, knowing that He sees every tear, every wound, and every cry for justice. You have carried burdens no one should bear alone, and we stand with you in prayer, seeking God’s will, wisdom, and deliverance in this storm. First, we must address something critical: you have not mentioned the name of Jesus Christ in your prayer. There is no other name by which we are saved, and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. As Scripture declares, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Confess your sins, repent, and believe in Him—He alone can redeem your pain and bring true peace.
Your marriage is broken, and the wounds you describe are severe. A spouse with Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) who engages in fraud, abuse, and refusal to repent is not walking in obedience to God. Scripture is clear that marriage is a covenant meant to reflect Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33, WEB), but it also acknowledges that unrepentant sin and hardness of heart can lead to brokenness (Matthew 19:8-9, WEB). You are not wrong for setting boundaries or for feeling the weight of his actions. The Bible does not require you to remain in a marriage where there is unrepentant abuse, fraud, or danger—especially when your spouse refuses to acknowledge his sin or seek help. *"But if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace."* (1 Corinthians 7:15, WEB). This does not mean divorce is the only answer, but it does mean you are not obligated to endure ongoing harm.
That said, we must also examine your heart in this. You have expressed anger, bitterness, and a desire for vengeance—even asking God to "make him see that you were right" and to "remove him from your life." While these feelings are understandable, Scripture warns us: *"Don’t say, ‘I will pay back evil.’ Wait for Yahweh, and he will save you."* (Proverbs 20:22, WEB). *"Beloved, don’t seek revenge yourselves, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’"* (Romans 12:19, WEB). Your pain is valid, but we must surrender our desire for retribution to the Lord. He alone is the just Judge.
You have also mentioned wanting a "replacement" for your spouse or a roommate. We urge caution here. Your focus right now must be on healing, seeking God’s will, and ensuring your decisions align with His Word—not on filling the void with another relationship. If divorce becomes necessary, Scripture permits it in cases of unrepentant sin and abandonment, but it is not to be entered into lightly. *"Yahweh, the God of Israel, says that he hates divorce and him who covers his garment with violence. Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you don’t deal treacherously."* (Malachi 2:16, WEB). Seek godly counsel, legal advice, and the support of your church community before making final decisions.
As for your children, you have done what you could, but their faith is ultimately between them and God. You cannot force them to love Him, but you can pray for them and live out a genuine, repentant faith before them. *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."* (Proverbs 22:6, WEB). If church felt "boring and fake" to them, perhaps it is time to seek a body of believers who live out the Gospel with authenticity and passion. Your children need to see the difference Christ makes—not just in words, but in a transformed life.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this precious sister who is broken, weary, and crying out for justice. Lord, You see the depths of her pain—the betrayal, the manipulation, the financial fraud, and the emotional abuse she has endured. You know the weight of her marriage and the fear she carries. Father, we ask for Your supernatural peace to guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7, WEB). Remove the spirit of fear and replace it with Your perfect love, which casts out all fear (1 John 4:18, WEB).
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of Antisocial Personality Disorder operating in her husband’s life. This is not Your design for him. We bind the spirits of deceit, manipulation, and hardness of heart, and we loose the spirit of repentance, conviction, and godly sorrow (2 Corinthians 7:10, WEB). If it is Your will, soften his heart to see the destruction his choices have caused—not just to her, but to himself and Your kingdom. But Father, if he remains unrepentant, we ask for Your protection over her as she seeks wisdom on how to proceed. Give her clarity, Lord. Show her whether to stay and set firm boundaries or to release this marriage into Your hands. Do not let her be swayed by fear, guilt, or the opinions of others. Let her decisions be led by Your Spirit and Your Word alone.
Father, we ask for justice where justice is due. You are a God who sees the afflicted and hears their cries (Exodus 22:23, WEB). Do not let her husband’s fraud and abuse go unchecked. Bring his sins into the light, Lord, and let him face the consequences of his actions. But we also pray that in Your mercy, these consequences would lead him to repentance rather than further hardness. Break the chains of pride and self-deception in his life.
Lord, we lift up her finances and her home. You are Jehovah Jireh, the God who provides. She has carried the weight of his financial irresponsibility for too long. Father, make a way where there seems to be no way. Provide for her needs, help her pay off debts, and give her wisdom in managing what is hers. If divorce becomes necessary, protect her assets and her credit. Do not let him further exploit or harm her financially.
We pray for her children, Lord. Draw them to Yourself. Let them see Your faithfulness in their mother’s life. Soften their hearts toward her and toward You. Break any spirits of entitlement, ungratefulness, or rebellion. Let them encounter You in a real and transformative way.
Father, we ask for healing for her heart. The bitterness, the anger, the desire for vengeance—we surrender it all to You. Fill her with Your love, Your forgiveness, and Your strength. Let her release the need to "be right" and instead seek Your righteousness. Help her to forgive, not because her husband deserves it, but because You have forgiven her. *"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."* (Matthew 6:14-15, WEB).
Lord, surround her with godly counsel—people who will speak truth, offer support, and help her navigate this season. If she has not already, lead her to a church where she can be discipled, encouraged, and held accountable in love.
Finally, Father, we ask for a miracle. Whether that miracle is the restoration of her marriage through her husband’s genuine repentance or her deliverance from it, we trust You. Let Your will be done in her life. Give her the strength to wait on You, to trust in Your timing, and to walk in obedience, even when it is hard.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
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Sister, we urge you to seek godly, biblical counseling as you navigate this. Do not walk this path alone. The road ahead may be difficult, but the Lord is with you. Cling to Him. Study His Word daily, especially passages on marriage, forgiveness, and trust. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). If you have not already, we strongly encourage you to document all financial fraud, abuses, and threats for your protection. Seek legal counsel to understand your rights and options.
You are not wrong for setting boundaries. You are not wrong for wanting safety. But guard your heart against bitterness—it will only harm you further. *"Be careful that no one falls short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up troubles you, and many be defiled by it"* (Hebrews 12:15, WEB). Keep praying for your husband’s salvation, but also prepare your heart for whatever outcome the Lord allows. Trust that He is good, even when life is not. *"Yahweh is close to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). You are seen. You are loved. You are not forgotten.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
