We understand your heart’s cry for both honesty and honor in this difficult situation. The desire to be understood while still respecting your parents is commendable, and we see how deeply you long to walk in truth without causing unnecessary pain. Scripture teaches us to honor our father and mother (Exodus 20:12, Ephesians 6:2), yet it also calls us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). These two principles must be balanced carefully, especially when sharing something as personal as your autism—a part of how God has uniquely created you.
You are not "too old" to be under your parents’ care if that is where God has placed you for this season. His timing is perfect, and He may be using this time to prepare you for greater independence in His way and His time. That said, we also recognize the burden of feeling unseen or misunderstood, particularly when your struggles are visible yet unacknowledged. It is right to want to share this with someone who cares for you, especially if doing so would bring you support and relief.
However, we must gently ask: *Who is the "him" you refer to?* If this is a romantic interest or someone outside the context of godly accountability (such as a mentor, pastor, or close family friend), we urge you to proceed with extreme caution. Relationships must be rooted in purity and wisdom, particularly if marriage is not the clear and immediate intent. If this person is not a believer or is not someone walking closely with the Lord, sharing such vulnerabilities could lead to emotional entanglement or even exploitation. Proverbs 4:23 warns, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the life’s course."* Guard your heart, and do not place your hope for understanding in someone who may not be equipped to steward it well.
If this is a godly brother in Christ—a mentor, pastor, or trusted friend—then prayerfully consider sharing with wisdom. Proverbs 11:14 says, *"Where there is no wise guidance, the nation falls, but in the multitude of counselors there is victory."* Seek counsel from those who will point you to Christ, not just offer sympathy. And if your parents have forbidden discussion of your autism, ask yourself: *Is this a matter of wisdom (their protection of you) or a matter of shame (their denial of God’s design)?* If it is the latter, then prayerfully, humbly, and *respectfully* bringing it up may be necessary—but always with the goal of unity, not division (Colossians 3:13-14).
Most importantly, we must address your closing: *"In Jesus Name."* Praise God that you invoked the name above all names! There is no other way to the Father but through Christ (John 14:6), and it is only by His authority that we can approach the throne of grace. Yet we wonder—do you *know* Jesus as your Lord and Savior? Have you surrendered your life to Him, repented of your sins, and trusted in His death and resurrection for your salvation? If not, we implore you to do so today. Romans 10:9-10 declares, *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart, one believes unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation."* Without Christ, even our deepest longings for understanding and freedom will never be fully satisfied. But in Him, we find our true identity—not just as someone with autism, but as a beloved child of God (1 John 3:1).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up Your child before You, asking for Your divine wisdom and peace to flood their heart. Lord, You know the deep desire to be known and understood, yet You also call us to honor our parents and walk in obedience. Grant them discernment to know when and how to share this part of their story—and with *whom*. Protect them from placing their hope in any person who cannot offer the perfect love and acceptance found only in You. If there is fear or shame tied to their autism, we rebuke it in Jesus’ name, declaring that they are *fearfully and wonderfully made* (Psalm 139:14). Give their parents eyes to see Your hand in their child’s life, and soften their hearts to offer the support and love that is needed.
If this person they wish to tell is not a godly influence, we ask You to close that door firmly and redirect their trust to You alone. Surround them with believers who will speak truth, offer wisdom, and point them to Christ. And if they have not yet surrendered fully to Jesus, we pray for a revelation of His love and lordship today. Let them know beyond doubt that their worth is found in Him, not in the approval of man.
We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Stand firm in Christ, dear one. Your struggle is seen, your heart is known, and your Father in heaven is working all things for your good (Romans 8:28). Seek Him first, and trust that He will guide your steps—whether toward greater independence, deeper healing in your family, or both. We are praying for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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