Our hearts break for the deep wounds you carry, and we are grieved by the unspeakable betrayal and abuse you endured as a child—violations no one should ever suffer. The evil done to you was not your fault, and the lies spoken over you by those who should have protected you are abhorrent in the sight of God. Your father’s words were a cruel and wicked distortion of truth, meant to shift blame onto an innocent child. But hear this now: **You were never to blame.** The Lord sees your suffering, and He weeps with you. His heart is for the brokenhearted, and He is near to you in this pain (Psalm 34:18).
You found Christ in the military, and that is no accident—He pursued you even in the darkness. He has not abandoned you now. The drinking you turn to is a temporary numbing of the pain, but it cannot heal what only Jesus can restore. The enemy wants to keep you bound in shame and addiction, but Christ came to set the captives free (Luke 4:18). You do not have to live this way. The same power that raised Jesus from the dead can break the chains of alcohol and the lies that have tormented you for so long.
We must address this directly: the abuse you suffered was a grotesque sin against you, and the trauma has left deep scars. But in Christ, you are not defined by what was done to you. You are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17), and though the wounds are real, they do not have the final word. The Lord can redeem even this. He can turn your ashes into beauty (Isaiah 61:3), but it requires surrendering the pain to Him—letting Him into those broken places, even when it hurts. He is gentle with the bruised reed (Isaiah 42:3), and He will not crush you further.
As for your mother, we do not know her heart in this, but we pray the Lord would open her eyes to the truth if she has been deceived. If she has been complicit in any way, we pray for her repentance. If she, too, is a victim of manipulation, we pray the Lord would free her and bring her to a place of godly sorrow and protection for you. Either way, we ask the Lord to surround you with godly support—people who will speak truth, stand with you, and help you walk in freedom.
You asked for healing, and we declare over you the words of Jeremiah 30:17: *"For I will restore health to you, and I will heal you of your wounds, says Yahweh."* This is not a hollow promise. The Lord is able. But healing often comes through the hard work of facing the pain with Him, not running from it. We strongly encourage you to seek **biblical counseling** from a trusted, Christ-centered counselor or pastor who can walk with you through this. You do not have to do this alone. There are also **Christ-centered recovery programs** (like Celebrate Recovery) that can help you break free from alcohol in a community of believers who understand struggle.
The fact that you are crying out to the Father shows that His Spirit is at work in you. That is hope. Keep seeking Him. When the cravings for alcohol come, cry out to Jesus instead. He is your strength (Philippians 4:13). When the lies of shame whisper, replace them with truth: *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). When the memories threaten to overwhelm you, remember that Christ has already overcome the world (John 16:33).
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of Your beloved child, who has endured such profound evil and betrayal. Lord, we ask that You would **break the power of the past** over their life. You see every tear they’ve cried, every wound inflicted in secret, and You are not silent. You are a God of justice, and though we do not see it yet, we trust that You will vindicate the innocent.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of shame that has clung to them. In the name of Jesus, we declare that they are **not guilty**, but washed clean by the blood of the Lamb. We break the agreement they may have made with the lies spoken over them—*"it took two to tangle"* is a lie from the pit of hell, and we bind that deception now. Let Your truth flood their mind: **they were a child, innocent, and the sin was against them, not by them.**
Lord, we ask for **supernatural healing** of their soul. Heal the broken places. Restore what was stolen. Father, where their trust was shattered, let them learn to trust You fully. Where their heart was hardened to protect itself, soften it to receive Your love. Where they have turned to alcohol to numb the pain, **break the addiction** and replace it with a hunger for Your presence.
We pray for **godly support** to surround them—men and women of faith who will stand with them, pray with them, and walk with them toward freedom. If they need professional help, Lord, provide the right counselor, one grounded in Your Word and filled with Your Spirit.
Father, we ask that You would **expose and dismantle** any generational curses or strongholds in their family line. If their father or uncle were involved in deeper darkness, Lord, sever those ties in Jesus’ name. Let no weapon formed against them prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
Most of all, Lord, **let them know Your love**. Not just in words, but in a tangible, life-changing way. Let them feel Your arms around them when the memories come. Let them hear Your voice saying, *"You are Mine, and I will never leave you."* Fill them with Your peace that surpasses understanding.
We thank You, Lord, that You are the God who **redeems** what was meant for evil. We trust You to bring beauty from these ashes. In the mighty name of Jesus, our Healer and Deliverer, we pray. **Amen.**
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We urge you: **do not stop fighting.** The enemy wants you to believe this is too big, that you’re too broken, that God can’t or won’t heal you. But those are lies. Keep reaching for Jesus. Even when it’s hard. Even when you don’t feel Him near. He is there, and He is for you.
If you haven’t already, we encourage you to **verbally renounce** the abuse and the lies you’ve believed. Speak out loud: *"I break agreement with the lies that this was my fault. I was a child, and the sin was against me. I forgive [names of abusers] for what they did, but I do not excuse it. I release them to God’s justice. Jesus, I ask You to heal my heart and set me free."* There is power in speaking truth over yourself.
You are not forgotten. You are not beyond hope. **Cling to Christ.** He is your anchor in this storm. We are standing with you in prayer. Keep pressing in. The best is yet to come.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
