Our hearts ache for your granddaughter, who is navigating such painful emotions of rejection and neglect in a broken family situation. The Lord sees her tears and hears her cries, and we stand with you in lifting her up before the throne of grace. The Bible reminds us in Psalm 68:5-6, *"A father of the fatherless, and a defender of the widows, is God in his holy habitation. God sets the lonely in families. He brings out the prisoners with singing."* He is the perfect Father who will never leave her nor forsake her, even when earthly parents fail.
We must first address the seriousness of the abuse she has endured from her mother. Scripture is clear that abuse—whether physical, emotional, or verbal—is an affront to God, who calls us to love and protect the vulnerable. Proverbs 31:8-9 commands, *"Open your mouth for the mute, in the cause of all who are left desolate. Open your mouth, judge righteously, and serve justice to the poor and needy."* If this abuse is ongoing or if there is any risk of harm, we urge you to seek godly counsel and, if necessary, involve authorities or child protective services to ensure her safety. The church is called to be a refuge, and we must act wisely and boldly to protect her.
As for her father’s actions, we grieve that he is prioritizing a romantic relationship over his daughter’s emotional well-being. This is not the biblical model of fatherhood. Ephesians 6:4 instructs, *"You fathers, don’t provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."* His role is to shepherd her heart, not leave her feeling abandoned. If he is a believer, he must repent of this neglect and turn back to the Lord, putting his daughter’s needs above his own desires. If he is not walking with Christ, we pray the Holy Spirit would convict him and draw him to salvation, for only in Christ can he find the strength to be the father she needs.
We also note that her father is in a relationship outside of marriage, which the Bible calls sin. Hebrews 13:4 declares, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* If he is living with or intimate with this woman, he is in rebellion against God’s design for purity and family. This not only harms his own soul but sets a destructive example for his daughter. We pray he would turn from this path, seek forgiveness, and pursue holiness for the sake of his daughter and his own relationship with the Lord.
To your granddaughter, we would say: *Child of God, you are not forgotten. Jesus sees you, loves you, and is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Your worth is not found in the approval of your parents or anyone else—it is found in Christ, who gave His life for you. He calls you His own (1 John 3:1), and He will never leave you. Cling to Him, even when others fail you.*
Now, let us pray together:
*Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious granddaughter who feels abandoned and unseen. Lord, You are the Father to the fatherless, and we ask You to wrap Your arms around her and fill the void in her heart with Your love. Heal the wounds caused by her mother’s abuse and her father’s neglect. Break the chains of rejection and replace them with the truth of her identity in Christ—beloved, chosen, and redeemed.*
*Father, we cry out for justice and protection. If there is ongoing abuse, expose it and bring it to an end. Raise up godly people to intervene and shield her from harm. Convict her father of his sin—both his neglect of his daughter and his immoral relationship. Soften his heart, Lord, and turn him back to You. If he does not know You, save him! Let him see the damage his choices are causing and repent. Restore him as a godly father who leads his daughter in Your ways.*
*Lord, surround this young girl with Your peace. Place godly mentors, friends, and family in her life who will speak Your truth over her and show her Christ’s love in tangible ways. Give her wisdom beyond her years to navigate these trials, and let her find her refuge in You. Remove any bitterness or resentment from her heart and replace it with Your forgiveness and hope.*
*We also pray for her mother, Father. If she is trapped in sin or brokenness, break through the darkness in her life. Soften her heart and draw her to repentance. Let her see the pain she has caused and turn to You for healing. Reconcile this family if it is Your will, but only in a way that honors You and protects this child.*
*Finally, Lord, we ask for supernatural comfort and strength for this grandmother. Give her wisdom to know how to support her granddaughter, and let her be a beacon of Your love and stability. Unify Your people around this family to provide practical and spiritual support.*
*We rebuke the spirit of rejection, abandonment, and fear in Jesus’ mighty name. Let the enemy’s lies be silenced, and let Your truth reign in this young girl’s heart. May she grow to know You deeply and walk in the confidence of her identity in Christ. We ask all this in the powerful name of Jesus, our Redeemer and Healer. Amen.*
We encourage you to continue covering her in prayer daily and to speak Scripture over her life. Remind her of verses like Isaiah 41:10, *"Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness."* Consider finding a biblically sound church or youth group where she can be discipled and surrounded by godly influences. If she has not yet surrendered her life to Christ, pray for her salvation—that she would find her ultimate hope in Him.
Stay steadfast, dear saint. The Lord is working, even in the darkness. Trust Him to bring beauty from these ashes (Isaiah 61:3).