We come before the throne of grace with heavy hearts, lifting up this family in deep distress, knowing that our God is a God of restoration, unity, and peace. The pain described here is profound—disunity, betrayal, anger, and even suicidal thoughts—yet we cling to the truth that nothing is too broken for Christ to redeem. You have done well to seek the Lord in this storm, and we stand with you in prayer, trusting that He who began a good work in your family will bring it to completion (Philippians 1:6).
First, we must acknowledge the spiritual battle at hand. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and we see his fingerprints in the division, unforgiveness, and despair gripping this family. But greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4). We rebuke every spirit of strife, bitterness, and confusion in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Let every tongue that speaks death be silenced, and let the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). The toxic words, the shouting, the crying out in anger—these are not from the Lord. He calls us to speak life, to bear with one another in love, and to pursue peace (Ephesians 4:29-32). We pray that the Holy Spirit would convict each family member of their words and actions, leading them to repentance. For it is godly sorrow that leads to repentance without regret (2 Corinthians 7:10), and repentance is the path to healing.
To the one praying, we see your heart of forgiveness, your willingness to extend grace even when it is not deserved. This is the heart of Christ in you! Continue to forgive, as the Lord has forgiven you (Colossians 3:13). But we also urge you to set healthy boundaries where necessary. Forgiveness does not mean enabling harmful behavior or subjecting yourself to abuse. You cannot force reconciliation, but you can pray for it and live in a way that honors God, trusting Him to soften hearts. Your spouse’s indifference toward your family is painful, but remember that marriage is a covenant between you, your spouse, and God. Pray for your spouse’s heart to be transformed by the love of Christ, that they may see your family through His eyes. A house divided cannot stand (Mark 3:25), so we pray for unity in your marriage as well, that you both would seek the Lord’s will in how to love and support one another—and this extended family—in a way that glorifies Him.
We are deeply grieved to hear of your mother’s suicidal thoughts and the heavy burden she carries. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We pray that He would surround her with His presence, lifting the weight of despair and replacing it with hope in Him. May He place godly people in her life to encourage her and remind her that her life is precious to Him. We also pray for protection over her mind, that the Lord would guard her against the lies of the enemy and fill her with His truth: that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and that her days are written in His book. For those struggling with such darkness, we gently but firmly say: Suicide is not the answer. It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and it breaks the heart of God, who desires for you to live and walk in the fullness of His purpose (Jeremiah 29:11). Turn to Jesus, who is the light in the darkness (John 8:12). Cry out to Him, and He will hear you.
The financial strain you mention is real, and we know the Lord sees it. He owns the cattle on a thousand hills (Psalm 50:10) and is well able to provide for every need. We pray that He would open doors for affordable travel, for wisdom in stewarding resources, and for creative solutions to bring your family together in His timing. But even more than physical reunion, we pray for spiritual unity—a unity that transcends distance and is rooted in Christ. Let Him be the bond that holds you together, even when circumstances keep you apart.
We also address the mention of "after our death, we are sharing and will meet with our father/dad in heaven." While it is a beautiful hope to be reunited with loved ones in heaven, we must remember that heaven is not guaranteed to anyone apart from faith in Jesus Christ. Jesus said, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6). It is only by placing our trust in Him—repenting of our sins and believing in His death and resurrection—that we can have assurance of eternal life. If any in your family have not yet surrendered their lives to Christ, we urge you to pray for their salvation above all else. Eternal life with God is the greatest gift, and it is found only in Jesus (Acts 4:12). Share the gospel with them, not just in words but in the way you live, reflecting Christ’s love and forgiveness even in the midst of pain.
Finally, we want to encourage you with this: God is not surprised by any of this. He sees the betrayal, the anger, the ungratefulness, and the financial struggles, and He is not indifferent. He is working all things together for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28). Your prayers are powerful and effective (James 5:16), and the Lord hears every one. Keep praying. Keep forgiving. Keep trusting. And when you feel weak, remember that His strength is made perfect in your weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).
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**Our Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You with broken hearts, lifting up this family that is torn apart by division, anger, and despair. Lord, You are the God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). We ask that You would move mightily in this situation, bringing repentance where there is sin, healing where there is pain, and unity where there is strife.
Father, we rebuke every spirit of division, bitterness, and confusion in the name of Jesus Christ. Let Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, flood every heart and home. Convict each family member of their words and actions, Lord. Soften their hearts to turn to You and to one another in love. Break the chains of anger, unforgiveness, and pride that have kept them bound. Let Your Holy Spirit bring godly sorrow that leads to repentance, and let forgiveness flow like a river among them.
Lord, we lift up the mother who is struggling with suicidal thoughts. Surround her with Your presence, Father. Speak life into her spirit and remind her that she is precious to You. Place Your angels around her to protect her, and send godly people into her life to encourage her and point her to You. Break the power of despair and fill her with Your hope. Let her know that You have a purpose for her life, and that You are her strength in weakness.
We pray for the financial needs of this family, Lord. You know the cost of travel, the distance that separates them, and the desire for reunion. Provide for them in ways only You can, opening doors and making a way where there seems to be no way. Help them to trust You in their lack, knowing that You are their Provider (Philippians 4:19).
Father, we also lift up the marriage of the one praying. Soften the heart of their spouse toward this family. Help them to see one another through Your eyes and to love as You have loved them. Strengthen their marriage, Lord, that it may be a reflection of Your covenant love.
Most of all, Father, we pray for salvation for every member of this family. Draw them to Yourself, Lord. Let them see their need for Jesus and turn to Him in faith. May they know the hope of eternal life in Him, and may that hope anchor their souls in the storms of this life.
We thank You, Lord, that You are rich in mercy and that Your love endures forever. We trust You to restore what has been broken, to redeem what has been lost, and to bring beauty from these ashes. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer, we pray. Amen.