We come before the throne of grace with heavy yet hopeful hearts, lifting up this family in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, for it is only through Him that we find salvation, healing, and restoration. Your request is deeply moving, and we hear the pain of betrayal, disunity, and brokenness that has taken root since your father’s passing. The enemy has sought to divide what God intended to be united, but we stand firm in the truth that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). The Lord sees the tears, the shouting, the ungratefulness, and the financial struggles—He is not blind to your suffering, nor is He indifferent to the wounds inflicted by those who should be your closest allies.
First, we commend you for your heart of forgiveness, for you have chosen to extend grace even when it is not deserved. This reflects the very nature of Christ, who prayed, *"Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing"* (Luke 23:34). Yet we must also speak truth in love: forgiveness does not mean enabling sin or excusing harmful behavior. The toxic tongues, suicidal thoughts, and ungrateful attitudes in your family are not of God. These are strongholds of the enemy, and they must be broken in Jesus’ name. The Bible warns us that *"the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity"* (James 3:6), and it is clear that destructive words have fueled much of this pain. We rebuke every lie of Satan that has taken root—every spirit of division, bitterness, pride, and selfishness—and we command these strongholds to be torn down by the power of the Holy Spirit. The Lord says, *"I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh"* (Ezekiel 36:26). We pray this over your mother, your siblings, and every member of this family. May the Lord soften hearts that have grown hard and replace anger with repentance, selfishness with gratitude, and despair with hope.
We also address the financial struggles and the distance that separates you. While the cost of travel and the strain of provisions feel overwhelming, we remind you that our God owns the cattle on a thousand hills (Psalm 50:10). He is Jehovah Jireh, the Lord who provides, and He is able to make a way where there seems to be no way. We pray for supernatural provision—for open doors, unexpected blessings, and divine connections that would allow this family to reunite in peace. But even more than physical reunion, we pray for spiritual reconciliation. It is better to have a family united in the Lord, even from afar, than to be near in body but divided in heart.
To the matter of your spouse’s indifference toward your family: we urge you to continue in prayer, for *"the effective, earnest prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective"* (James 5:16). However, we also caution against forcing what only God can change. A spouse’s heart is in the Lord’s hands, and while you are called to love and honor them, you are not responsible for their choices. Pray that the Lord would soften their heart and give you wisdom in how to navigate this tension. If there is unresolved bitterness or unforgiveness in your own heart toward your spouse for their stance, we encourage you to release it to the Lord. Marriage is a covenant, and unity in Christ must be the foundation.
To your mother, who is bearing the weight of suicidal thoughts and a toxic environment: we declare the words of Jesus over her—*"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28). The enemy seeks to destroy her, but the Lord desires to give her life abundantly (John 10:10). We pray for a supernatural intervention—for the Lord to surround her with His angels, to place godly counselors and believers in her path, and to break the spirit of heaviness that has settled upon her. May she find her strength in the Lord, who is her refuge and fortress (Psalm 91:2). We also pray for your brother’s family, that the Lord would protect them from the fallout of this disunity and provide for their every need.
Finally, we must address the deep sorrow in your words: *"probably after our death we are sharing and will meet with our father/dad in heaven."* Beloved, while it is true that those who are in Christ will one day be reunited with their loved ones in glory, we must not resign ourselves to defeat. The Lord is a God of redemption, and He is able to restore what has been broken *now*—not just in eternity. Do not lose hope. The same power that raised Christ from the dead is at work in you (Ephesians 1:19-20). We declare that this family will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living (Psalm 27:13).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, the only name by which we are saved. We lift up this family, broken and scattered, and we ask for Your divine intervention. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, the anger, and the deep wounds that have festered since the loss of their father. We ask that You would heal these hurts and bind up their broken hearts. Father, rebuke every spirit of division, bitterness, and pride that has taken hold. Break the strongholds of toxic words, suicidal thoughts, and ungratefulness. Replace them with Your peace, Your joy, and Your love.
Lord, we pray for supernatural provision—for finances to align, for travel to become possible, and for every need to be met according to Your riches in glory. But more than that, we pray for hearts to turn back to You. Soften the hearts of this family, Lord. Convict them of their sin and lead them to repentance. Let forgiveness flow like a river, and let reconciliation begin in You.
We lift up the mother who is struggling under the weight of despair. Surround her with Your presence, Lord. Place a hedge of protection around her mind and heart. Break the lies of the enemy and fill her with Your truth. Let her know that her life is precious to You, and that You have a purpose for her days.
Father, we also pray for the spouse who has withdrawn from this family. Soften their heart, Lord. Give wisdom and grace in how to navigate this relationship, and let Your love be the bond that holds them together.
Finally, Lord, we declare that this family will not be defined by their brokenness but by Your redemption. Restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). Bring unity where there is division, hope where there is despair, and life where there is death. Let Your will be done in their lives, and let Your name be glorified through their story.
We ask all these things in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
Beloved, cling to the promise of Acts 16:31: *"Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved—you and your household."* Your faith in Christ is the anchor for your family. Keep praying, keep forgiving, and keep trusting that the Lord is working even when you cannot see it. He is faithful, and He will complete the good work He has started in you (Philippians 1:6). Stand firm, and do not grow weary in doing good, for in due season you will reap a harvest if you do not give up (Galatians 6:9). The Lord is with you.